Feeling nervous

[purplecat27]

Hi all, this is my first ever post, yay!

After talking for a while about ttc my Husband and I have finally made the decision to go for it! I stopped taking my ocp (Yasmin) on Tuesday and am currently having my withdrawal bleed, so from Wednesday onwards I'll no longer be protected by the pill and could fall pregnant. I'm really happy and excited about this bit!

At the risk of sounding silly though, I'm also really really nervous. Not about having a baby, but about all the things that can go wrong :(
I'm a doctor, not in O+G now but I worked on O+G for 4 months during my first 2 years, and obviously have experience from med school. This means that I know lots of scary statistics about miscarriage, congenital diseases etc. and it's making me so nervous! I keep trying to tell myself that lots of people fall pregnant and have healthy babies all the time without even trying, but then keep thinking about all of the 'what ifs'.

There's also the added complication that I have a problem with my heart (paroxysmal atrial fibrillation) and when I was first diagnosed 3 1/2 years ago O+G colleagues recommended I have a planned C section in future pregnancies. Also my cardiologist doesn't know if or how my condition will be affected by pregnancy. The medication I'm on can affect foetal growth too, so it's likely that will need to be monitored.

Sorry if I seem all doom and gloom-ish! I'm really really excited to be trying for a baby, and can't wait to get that bfp! I just feel that there's so many unknowns and I'm finding it hard to relax and just enjoy the excitement without all the worrying. Is anybody else in a similar situation?

Hi Purple!

I too am a doc ttc! Not O&G but anaesthetics so too have seen the very worst of what can happen...but despite that still ttc like mad.
There are worse things than your AF and so don't fret am sure all will go well.
Good luck and happy ttc-ing

Not a Dr but all women have the nerves you describe. You should just go for it!:)

And not just women. I think one of the difficulties I'll have when I get pregnant is that OH will want me to lie still in a room made of pillows while he hand feeds me vitamins.
Just crack on :)

Thanks bygones, it's good to hear from another doc ttc too! My worries definitely won't put me off ttc, and I know a docs view is probably really skewed because the midwives deal with all the nice, normal stuff and we just get called when there are problems. I'm psych now, I think I need to get on with challenging my own negative thoughts!

I'm hoping my AF will stay stable during pregnancy as it is now. I've had it for years but was diagnosed because I had a sudden episode of fast AF which didn't fix itself and spent a night on CCU being chemically cardioverted. I'm not going to lie, it was a pretty scary experience, and not one I'd wish to repeat! Hopefully my dodgy ticker will behave itself now I'm on medication.

Good luck to you too! :)

I'm not a doctor but I am a neurotic and a worrier - i found that really throwing myself into the idea of making my body really healthy through food and nutrition and gentle exercise (I'm no gym bunny I'm afraid) has helped me to feel that I am in control as much as I can be (I've been in the game 7 months and the lack of control is the worst) and also helps me feel that I'm doing everything possible to help any future beans to stick and thrive. I do yoga to be calm, which helps to quieten down my whirring mind when the worries go a bit crazy! So definitely jump in and take each day at a time and look at every day as an opportunity to make your body and mind a happier place for your future little one until that bfp comes along. Try to relax and look for the positives. Plus we're all in it together for the long haul, so come here to find reassurance! Good luck!

Lol, thanks Prof and Oyster. My Husband is not worried at all, he's not a dr and knows nothing about conception and pregnancy, and he's quite happy to stay that way! I do wonder whether he'll start asking more questions in the future, but as we've only just started he's still very laid back about it all at the moment :)

Thanks Porch. I'm usually pretty laid back so all of this worrying is new to me. I do yoga too, I started last year to help with my posture (which is terrible!). I go to a class once a week, but I've been thinking I should start doing more at home so perhaps that will help with my nervousness too!

Good luck to you too :)

I am sure that was not fun at all but at least you know about it and so will whoever looks after you.

Purple I am not a doctor but I am a real worrier and I read everything that I probably shouldn't read. Just got my BFP this week and now keep panicking about everything from miscarriage, premature birth, stillbirth, trisomy issues - you name it, I'm worrying about it.

I'm planning to do hypnobirthing. It really helps manage your fears and gives you something to do, something to FOCUS on and get your brain to shut the hell up about all the what ifs. The module I did before actually has a fear release sequence which you can do when you start feeling too crazy.

The other thing that helps is positive visualisations - everything from the lovely healthy, chromosomally normal egg meeting nice, normal sperm through to you easily, naturally and healthily delivering a lovely baby and breastfeeding effortlessly / bonding etc. etc.

So far it's helping.