TTC no.2 - DD1 (now 14months) took 3 years to conceive

[Griffomais]

Anyone else out spent a long time trying to conceive DC1 and now trying again? My DD is only 14 months but I'm turning 38 this year and feel my time is running out since it took so long to conceive her. I'm a bit nervous incase by some miracle it happens quickly. I just don't see her as an only child.

Anyone?x

Hi griffomais DS is 16 months and we're about to try for number 2. It took us 2 years to get to him, although I was pregnant in that time and we had a late loss. I'm trying very hard to stay cool and not be desperately 'trying' because if we get back into the whole cycle of hoping each month it will be so depressing.

Fingers crossed for both of us number 2 comes quicker (and easier)!

Anecdotes aren't data but...two friends of mine. 5 years TTCing DS1...DS2 born this month, 18 months younger. Another, 3 years TTCing DD1, doing everything by the book...DD2 born a year later. Good luck!

Thanks BanKimoon I feel like you - trying to be cool about it because last time was so awful I was on the brink of a breakdown when I got my BFP although this time around I don't feel the same desperation I just know I'd liked a sibling for DD. If I was a little younger I'd wait another 9 months so the age gap could be bigger but as I've learned it could take quite some time. I wish you lots of luck :0).x

Stoaty that is so good to hear thank you it gives me hope.x

Very reassuring to hear stoaty thanks!

Griff I agree I don't feel the same pressure either, but then I worry once we admit to ourselves we're 'trying' and have a couple of months of hoping and failing I'll get sucked back in. such a bloody emotive subject. I actually got pregnant with DS the first time we really 'tried' after our loss so I think subconsciously I'm hoping it will be easy and forgetting the horrible emotional rollercoaster of it all!

Are you trying now? I think I'm due to ovulate in about 10 days so we'll go at it...the positive is that it's nice to make some time for sex after being so busy and tired with a baby for the last year or so!

Kind of BanKimoon we are not using contraception so I suppose we are. We've agreed to "not using protection" this year and to see what happens. If we're lucky then great if not then we'll just be grateful to gave DD. just a fancy way of saying let's try :0)) without all the pressure.

I'm the other way round, fell pregnant with DD without trying & tried for no. 2 for 2 years & have just given up TTC. I was 38 last year. I'm still hoping that I'll manage to get pregnant anyway as I'm not using contraception but I've given up tracking my cycle & timing DTD around ov. Just going to DTD if/when we want to & not because we have to.

My biggest worry is my DD being an only child but I think I've given it my best shot.

I've heard lots of stories of people taking years to conceive #1 then conceiving second time round very easily. Good luck I hope it happens when you're ready for it.

bobsy so sorry to hear you've had a tough couple of years. It's so hard to cope with wanting a baby and not succeeding, the out of control-ness of it all is very hard too. Hope that relaxing about it all will help you and you conceive a sibling for your lovely DD soon.

Thanks BanKimoon. 24 months of AF arriving when all I want is a baby is awful. As we conceived with DD so easily it never occurred to me we'd have problems second time round, & it was always important she had a sibling & I feel guilty about that. My OH has a low sex drive so were not exactly going to be regularly DTD so chances of me getting pregnant are very slim.

So sorry to hear of your previous loss & really hope your second baby arrives quickly for you. I've done OPK's, took my temp, used a Fertilty app & took loads of different supplements & it's got me nowhere & it's just made it stressful & it took over my life.