Hello. The drama of mine and DH's decision to ttc has been played out across several threads on here but for those who haven't seen it will do a quick recap.
I have wanted to TTC since we got married just over a year ago but things weren't right then, we didn't have permanent jobs, I was doing an MSc etc. That all got sorted out in September and in October DH said that once I had the all clear from Cardiology we could TTC.
I got the all clear in December so we were going to start in January but at the last mo DH pulled out and said that he wanted to wait till the summer. I agreed to this because I want him to be ready but I obviously found it quite difficult.
Since then DH has increasingly talked about children in a positive life and even got a bit soppy about them. He has picked out names for them and of his own initiative asked if we could sit down and work out the finances of it all which we did and they were fine.
Anyway last night we were talking about finances again. DH grew up in quite a financially insecure family so wants to give his children a better life. However he admitted last night that if we wait for that it will probably never happy because there could always be more money.
He also started talking about the benefits of having children younger in terms of being more fit and active for them but also still being quite young when they leave home and still able to go on exciting holidays etc. He therefore said that we could go ahead now.
I did tell him to sleep on it which he did but he is still saying yes this morning. My MIL says that I am over thinking things and that men don't usually get properly into parenthood until they are actually holding their child and that I should take this as the green light to go for it. I was just wondering what others thought? Is agreement enough or should I be waiting until he is as keen as me? Do guys ever reach that point?