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Conception

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anyone ttc number 3 want to try together (not literally)?

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DaffodilField · 09/12/2014 13:42

Mine are nearly 4 and nearly 2. DC1 took over two years to conceive and I was on here several hours a day in a desperate fug. DC2 happened first time trying. He is nearly 2 and I feel ready to try for one more. Always thought my family would have three kids, though am terrified of messing up our stable happy family by doing it all again, especially as nights just got better (finally).

Anyone similar?

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tossedsalads · 29/01/2015 19:03

good luck Lilly. I'm waiting for CD1 as we have only decided to start in feb.

Lillygolightly · 29/01/2015 20:46

Thanks tossedsalads its an exciting time TTC though frustrating too, wishing you lots of luck on your TTC journey.

Embolio · 29/01/2015 21:58

Hey all, can I join in? We decided a couple of days ago that we are going to start trying for number 3 - although we might leave it until March/April to actually start....

I have 2 DS's - 20 months and 2.7. Like DaffodilField DS1 took 2 years to conceive and DS2 was a little first-time surprise, heh. I'm 36 too.

So: Folic acid at the ready, once more into the breach etc!

Lillygolightly · 29/01/2015 22:21

Yes Embolio please join in.

In a way I am tempted to hang on TTC (too late as am impatient and already started) as if this month was to be a BFP I'd be due around Oct/Nov. My eldest DD's Bday is Oct, followed by mine in Nov 2 weeks later, then my sis a few days later. Xmas/new year then follows with youngest DD's birthday in Jan. I literally spend months worrying about money and presents and parties and I'd only be adding to it with another birthday in the mix. Though if BFP happens, I wont be complaining.

Sorry about my little rant there. Good luck TTC :)

Romeolovesjuliet · 29/01/2015 23:02

Ladies, I'd love to join if that's ok. Recovering from a mmc but hope to be trying again next month. Have a DS 16 months and DD almost 3. Baby we lost would have been due in July, hoping we can still fit one in by the end of the year if we're lucky. Excited to be thinking about another baby (although mc will mean I'm neurotic one of again) and this will definitely be our last so it feels like a really big deal for some reason!

tossedsalads · 30/01/2015 06:58

Sorry to hear that Embolio. I get what you mean about it being the last, so it seems like a really big deal.

Is anyone else slightly scared about the effect it will have on the other two children?

This morning my daughter got up at half five and my first thought was what would I do if I was wrecked from being pregnant as well! Aah sometimes I feel it would be much easier to put it off, but then I really don't want to!

Embolio · 30/01/2015 10:14

I do worry a bit about the effect on the other two, ds's are v close in age and great little friends, they can't remember a time without each other. I'm an only child and dh is one of 2 but with a big age gap so sibling dynamics are a bit of a mystery. I think we can make it work though (confidence born of ignorance, haha

Lillygolightly · 30/01/2015 10:53

I do worry about the two but with them being at school now and age 10 and 5 they are not as dependant on me and they have a nice sibling bond and spend a lot of time playing together. I think it will all be good in the end ;)

choco311 · 30/01/2015 12:27

Hi ladies, can I join in please?

We are currently TTC #3, my DD is 4 and DS is 2. We were debating whether to go for #3 when I fell pregnant but sadly lost the baby to a miscarriage at 7 weeks in december. Its been really hard as it all felt like it was meant to be - none of the crazy trying/TWW, baby would have been born in July which meant similar school year gaps for the 3 kids etc. Since then we've been in emotional turmoil about whether to go for it again but we have decided to give it a go for a few months and see what happens. I'm trying hard not to go too crazy but sadly that is against my personality!

At the moment, AF came yesterday which has been a bit rough. I'm a bit taken aback at how sad it has made me feel and its kind of made me re-live the miscarriage a bit. Still, forcing myself to be positive.

My main dilemma now is what to do about this month - if we go all out and I magically fall pregnant, the baby would be due the day after DD's bday. Not such a major problem, but her bday is only a week after DS's! I really don't want to take a month off trying, but I don't think I can cope with 3 birthdays so close together and feel its not fair on them. I know there is no guarantee with due dates etc, but I was a week early first time around and bang on with DS so I feel its unlikely I would be really late (which is what I would want). I know I'm being over controlling, which clearly is impossible with TTC!

Its so weird, so many different thought processes compared to TTC the others - I too worry about the effect on the kids, can we go through it all again (mine were not good sleepers!), can we emotionally put ourselves through it again, what if I miscarry again? Its all such a distraction - how is everyone else remaining sane?!

Molotov · 30/01/2015 14:48

Hello all, can I join please?

I've been very conflicted for the last year about whether to TTC #3 (I have an epic thread on Larger Families, if anyone is interested).

We have 2dds aged almost 6yo, and one who who is 2.9yo. Both took a while to conceive, with dd2's conception being particularly stressful: 2y - and she was conceived on my 6th cycle of Clomid.

Essentially, I've been undecided because I'm worried about rocking our little boat; we'll need to move house and I worry about how another sib will affect them. Also, my two beauties can be a handful sometimes ... how to balance 3?

Also, if we had another baby, that baby would be born by ELCS (VB dd1, ELCS dd2). I recovered well after dd2's birth but worry that I won't be so lucky with another (in terms of the actual surgery, recovery and postpartum effect upon my body).

Then there's the actual getting pg bit!

But, dh has explicitly said that he would like one more baby and this has influenced me a lot. I think about whether or not to try again on a daily basis and I think I may regret not at least trying further down the line.

At least if we try and don't succeed, I'll know we tried. And I'm already so fortunate to have the two gorgeous girls we do have so ...

We weren't careful with contraception this month. I don't think we did it on the right days, so unlikely to be pg. AF is due 6th Feb, so we may well take the plunge in Feb!

(I found TTC and it not happening for a long time incredibly distressing and isolating last time, as it was only me, DH and my DM who knew. It's going to be nice to share ).

tossedsalads · 31/01/2015 11:47

Molotov- I've started to read your thread now, it's very interesting. Especially as I have felt conflicted too. Hopefully will get to finish it later

choco311 · 31/01/2015 13:40

Molotov, I feel in a very similar way to you (I'll try to track down your thread). I suppose the difference is I am pushing it more than my husband. At times I feel almost desperate to have a baby and feel like it is the only way I'll feel ok again after the miscarriage. Then on other days I think, 'what am i doing, life is good at the moment why rock the boat?!'. I do feel that I would regret not going for it when I can't ever imagine regretting having another baby, no matter how hard it is. I come from a big family, which while it was annoying at times growing up, I love it now! More and more I feel like there is someone 'missing' in our family but it's really hard to fully convince my husband when I have doubts. I think I will go round in circles forever unless we just go for it!!

Molotov · 06/02/2015 10:17

AF arrived yesterday so I am due to OV again around 18th Feb ... just need to pluck up the courage to try (but not really 'try')

Droflove · 06/02/2015 10:55

Can I join? DH and I have been joking about another but its really on my mind for the last month. I have a 24mth old and a 5mth old. I just started a thread to try and clear my head about whether this is mental or not to have another so soon (assuming I get pregnant easily again, worked first try for DS and DD). I think DH is happy to try again. DD is NOT sleeping and I'm still combination feeding but have a lot of support. I'm kinda thinking, to hell with it, lets do it. How lovely will it be to get them all to the easier stage quickly, dealing with the hellish part all in one go! So maybe we will start trying this weekend. I've had one AF last month.

tossedsalads · 07/02/2015 00:04

Molotov have read your whole thread and completely empathise with your dilemma. I'm now on cd3 and supposed to be trying on 18th of this month but too scared to decide either way!

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