How long should it take?

[AnneofIngleside]

My husband and I have been trying for 6 months, and I'm getting impatient. I know they say you shouldn't start worrying until you've tried for a year, but can people who have conceived tell me how long it took? The frustrating thing is I'm sure in the 1st month it worked, because I had a really strong metallic taste and a bit of nausea until a few days before my period, then a really heavy painful period. Since then I've been using ovulation tests every month with no luck (although they do indicate I'm ovulating). The doctor has agreed to check us both out as hubby might need to have arthritis treatment (he's only 30, I'm 29) which could reduce his fertility, so we really want to get on with it. Fingers crossed everything will come back ok. Any reassuring experiences welcome!

Wish DS it took 6 months, with this one it took 2 months.

18 months is average

know how they work out averages .. people fill out forms and say how long it took them to conceive .. so you have people saying 1 month and others saying 3 years and then you add them all up and divide to get 18 months

What kind of treatment is DH due to have? ..

with dd took 8 months (and we were really trying!!) 2nd took 7 months (sadly had m/c at 7 weeks) didnt try for 3 months on drs orders and fell 1st month and am now 26 weeks. Hope that helps xx

i know lots of people who have got pregnant when they have given up, or thought they couldn't get pregnant. seems to be 9 - 12 months for the majority.....glad doc is checking you out thought....try and relax, easier said than done though, but that will help.....and enjoy the trying for a baby bit!!

Hi - think the average is about 8 months. I had difficulty conceiving my 1st (boy now aged 3) took 10 months but periods not the normal 28 days - sometimes 32 - 35 days so fertile time not the usual day 10 - day 14. It was a bit hit and miss and very frustrating - finally started to take temperature in morning before getting out of bed (think it is called basal chart) and concieve straight away - your temp drops just before you ovulate.

However have been tryoing for nearly 2 years for 2nd baby - left it for 1 year before going to GP as took so long 1st time - they refered me to the hospital with "unexlained infertility" - had to then wait 3 months for an appointment and given 3 motnhs of Clomid tablets - didnt work then given another 3 months - this didnt work. Given a different type of tablet and husband now booked in to have a sample tested and I have to have an xray to check that my tubes aren't blocked - both happening in the next month or so.

It has been very hard + upsetting to watch family + friends announce they are trying for a baby, getting pregnant and having a baby and I am still waiting ! I have had good days and bad days and my poor husband has had to put up with my and my mood swings - he says it is like I have PMT all month for the last year. The only way to get through it is thinking how lucky I am to have had one beautiful little boy who is an angel and so well behaved.

We are planning on having a break from the hormone tablets if I am not pregnant after Christmas for a few months - we just want to get on with life - it is difficult to plan anything for next year when all you think is will I be pregnant next summer so we cant book holidays etc ! when you are trying to get pregnant all you think about all day is it is today, what are my hormone levels like + when you go into town shopping all you see is prams and new babies.

If you are over 30 and cant get pregnant I suggest going to the GPs as soon as you think as I feel I left it for 1 year but didnt plan on the waiting list for treatment being so long - thought it would be instant.

Good luck to everyone trying !!!

Thanks everyone for the replies - that has made me feel much better. Husband is getting his sperm test results on Wed, fingers crossed. My GP has booked me in for an ultrasound scan so they can check me out.

aitchie I really hope your second baby comes soon.

Not sure what the treatment is called they're recommending for my husband, but it sounds quite serious - he'd have to have regular blood tests and there are all sorts of side effects. He's thinking a few aches and pains might be better than the treatment, and he definitely wants us to conceive before he has it.

It took 8 mos with my 3rd and I was 26 yrs. old back then, now trying for #4 at the age of 38 for about 5 months nothing yet, had fsh, lh and estradiol bloodwork,doctor says I have bloodwork of a 20 year old, plenty of eggs and good ones. He says try for 4 more months and bring him in for tests. This is my second DH so he has no children I really want one bad with him and although my bloodwork was great, I'm not getting any younger so I am scared as well, sick of going to baby showers 3 in the past 2 months I'ts hard not to obsess because you want it so bad. I take extra vitamens, drink decaf tea, drink grapefruit juice,used preseed. My moods change, I'm happy during 2ww and then when my period does come, I'm depressed for days! and so on...With my third, we bd 3 days before O and I got preg. Heck, we have done it 2 days before, day before,day of, day after!!!!!! Nothing. I wouldn't be so upset if I weren't 38 So were all in there together and it's impossible not to obsess, I tell myself every month, no, I'm not going to test, no, just wait and I can never wait and then I'm in a bad mood the rest of the day. I think timing is everything and it just happens and all we can do is do our part and then let God and the doctors do the rest.

It took 8 mos with my 3rd and I was 26 yrs. old back then, now trying for #4 at the age of 38 for about 5 months nothing yet, had fsh, lh and estradiol bloodwork,doctor says I have bloodwork of a 20 year old, plenty of eggs and good ones. He says try for 4 more months and bring him in for tests. This is my second DH so he has no children I really want one bad with him and although my bloodwork was great, I'm not getting any younger so I am scared as well, sick of going to baby showers 3 in the past 2 months I'ts hard not to obsess because you want it so bad. I take extra vitamens, drink decaf tea, drink grapefruit juice,used preseed. My moods change, I'm happy during 2ww and then when my period does come, I'm depressed for days! and so on...With my third, we bd 3 days before O and I got preg. Heck, we have done it 2 days before, day before,day of, day after!!!!!! Nothing. I wouldn't be so upset if I weren't 38 So were all in there together and it's impossible not to obsess, I tell myself every month, no, I'm not going to test, no, just wait and I can never wait and then I'm in a bad mood the rest of the day. I think timing is everything and it just happens and all we can do is do our part and then let God and the doctors do the rest.

It took 8 mos with my 3rd and I was 26 yrs. old back then, now trying for #4 at the age of 38 for about 5 months nothing yet, had fsh, lh and estradiol bloodwork,doctor says I have bloodwork of a 20 year old, plenty of eggs and good ones. He says try for 4 more months and bring him in for tests. This is my second DH so he has no children I really want one bad with him and although my bloodwork was great, I'm not getting any younger so I am scared as well, sick of going to baby showers 3 in the past 2 months I'ts hard not to obsess because you want it so bad. I take extra vitamens, drink decaf tea, drink grapefruit juice,used preseed. My moods change, I'm happy during 2ww and then when my period does come, I'm depressed for days! and so on...With my third, we bd 3 days before O and I got preg. Heck, we have done it 2 days before, day before,day of, day after!!!!!! Nothing. I wouldn't be so upset if I weren't 38 So were all in there together and it's impossible not to obsess, I tell myself every month, no, I'm not going to test, no, just wait and I can never wait and then I'm in a bad mood the rest of the day. I think timing is everything and it just happens and all we can do is do our part and then let God and the doctors do the rest.

With my 2 DS they were happy accidents let say, but this time it's been 16 months and still noting, I've been tested for things and are still being tested for others! But with regards to "really strong metallic taste and a bit of nausea until a few days before my period, then a really heavy painful period" I had the same thing for the first three months of trying even sore boobs, late AF and so on, I believe when you want something so bad your mind plays ticks on you, I still get it from time to time but I know now it's just me wanting it so bad! Good luck!

It took us about 8 months to conceive dd. It was frustrating. Most of our friends seemed to conceive within a few months of trying. I was 30 at the time and went to the doctors after we had been trying for 6 months but pretended we had been trying for a year. I had blood tests to check I had ovulated which came back fine but by then my cycle had started to get back to normal.
My cycle for the first part of the 8 months was very long and I don't believe I ovulated every time. We used ovulation kits but it was all a bit hit and miss. The cycle we didn't bother with ovulation kits and just 'did it' every other day was when I conceived.

Try not to worry I'm sure things will work out for you. Good luck!