DH seems to be getting stressed about TTC

[Emslifechoices]

First month of TTC. Think my DH is a but stressed about it & feels under pressure. DH thinks we should be DTD more. Anyone else experienced this? Any advice?

I haven't been counting down the days to AF, POAS or using ovulation sticks as don't want to put us under pressure.

emslifechoices I think mine is the same, bless him. We are just starting cycle 3 and I'm doing the same with regards to ovulation sticks. I feel like its waaay too early to put that kind of pressure on us. I'm thinking we will just see what happens for a while first, though in a few months I'll start thinking about it.

Glad I'm not the only one Quietly! Neither of us slept v well last night as both our brains were whirring. I was worried that he was worried and he was worried that I was worried that he was worried! Spoke briefly this morning & I've tried to explain that there's nothing to worry about.

Anyone else experienced this?

As you're so early on in your ttc journey I totally agree no one has anything to worry about, but what I can say is this: it's very easy to just keep missing your ovulation window because you don't know when it is, missing that 24/48 hr window is really easy to do if your tired and take a few days break because you've been at it like rabbits! I'd say ovulation tests just help to narrow it down, it means that for about a week you know the time is right and you can know you've done all you can in that time, and then the rest of the month is fun. . Obviously if you start to feel like opks are putting pressure on you then don't do them.. but you could easily go 6 months missing it and start to really worry yourself when all it is is a case of missing it.

If you buy the pink clear blue ovulation test with the smiley face you don't have to pee on it every day.. just as and when you think you might be ov. Cheaper and there's no confusion over lines... its either a blank face. Or a smiley one! May be worth it.

Thanks Chasing. I only came off pill w/c 6 Oct so not had a cycle yet so can't really test yet as no idea if AF will be regular! Or can I?

DH does tend to over think things in general so he's worried that we should be DTD more or are we doing it enough. I said I don't want to feel we have to DTD - sounds extremely unfun! Anyone else had any success at calming other half down & encouraging them to relax about it?

Thanks Chasing. I don't think I'd thought about it like that, and I def didn't know there was one you could pee on as and when. I thought they were all every day type efforts. Good to know.

Ems I had a bit of a giggle over your comments because they sound exactly like conversations dp and I have! Brilliant ??

Always nice to know there are others in the same boat - Quietly!

I don't really understand why he's feeling under pressure. I've said it's just DTD like when I was on the pill but now I'm not. He's just worried that "now we're trying" he should be up for sex more. I keep saying that how would "trying" increase your libido! If anything it would put a dampener on it! We just need to carry on as before and let nature take it's course. I said the time to feel under pressure and worry is IF we haven't got anywhere in 6-12mths.

I'm now worried about initiating DTD incase he thinks I'm only interested in getting pregnant. Which I've reassured him is not the only reason I wasn't to DTD.

I think mine is a little worried because of his age. Hes 38 and seems to consider this a very bad thing. I keep trying to tell him that it's not. I've told him the same as you - we'll start thinking about worrying when we hit a year. Temp and ov sticks after 6 months, though I am reconsidering that after what chasing said.

I also have the same fear about dtd. We both have pretty high sex drives anyway (sorry for tmi) and we certainly aren't a 'once a week' kind of couple, but I have started thinking the same... What if he thinks I'm doing it to get pregnant. Think you and I are probably both overthinking this a little?