Broody! Is it time?

[Lilwelshyrs]

Hi all,
I'm new here :) I figured this was the best place to come for some support :)

I'm 27 years old, married for two years. We don't own a house, but don't see much wrong with renting in this current market!
Work wise, I have stopped working freelance and have taken on my first permenant position which is great because of maternity leave options and holiday etc.
Husband is currently freelancing again and I think we'd like to wait until he gets a full time job again before trying for a baby again, but that's not stopping these crazy feelings!

My husband and I tried for children before we tied the knot and were unsuccessful. I have since found out that I have polycystic ovaries. This didn't come as a surprise. On finding out that having a child meant drugs and possibly IVF we agreed that we would put trying on hold. As the year went on, the thought of children became less and less of a priority to the extent that we actually decided that having a child was the last thing we wanted - ever... Ever ever...

Until yesterday...

I had a dream about having a baby and in it, I dreamt I showed my husband our newborn baby girl. Seeing his reaction in my dream stayed with me all day and I realised that I despereately want to have a child with him...

Where has this all come from?! What do I do about it?! I've recently been seeing a doctor about getting a coil fitted to ensure the chances of me getting pregnant were almost nil, and now I feel like doing a complete 180!

For the polycystic ovaries, I'm now on metformin and to make sure I don't get pregnant I'm also back on the mini pill... Can hormones be doing this? Is it really how I feel? Won't my doctor think I'm nuts for changing my mind so quickly?

Any advice or personal experience would be greatly welcomed :)

Thank you
C x

I haven't really got anything useful to say other than that feeling hits you like a bus. I was in my 30s and no way ready then suddenly, bam! It was all I could think about !
The problem you have is that your husband may not share your new found excitement especially if youvd recently agreed together that you don't want kids. You need to sit down and be honest with him.
It could be hormones, it could be your age or it could be that you've just changed your mind. All I would say is that if you know there's a good chance you'll need fertility treatment then the earlier you start the better in terms if your eggs. At 27, your eggs will be in far better nic than at 37!

Hubby and I have chatted about it since the dream and he's not adverse to the idea of having a child... he's a very laid back guy and doesn't get as emotional about stuff as I do... He's open to entertaining the idea again as he is aware that it's not going to be a walk in the park getting me pregnant :)

OMG- you sound just like me!!!

I'm 30 and my DH is 37. We have been married for 2 years and up until about 4-5 months ago I was adamant that I NEVER wanted to have children; that our life was perfect as it was and it was not going to be my priority to have a baby EVER. I would look around me at others with babies and feel sorry for them (how awful is that!).

My DH also already has 2 children who come to stay during the summer holiday so I felt like I got the perfect mix of both worlds; the family days out and cosy nights in AND the spontaneity of luxury foreign holidays at the drop of a hat, and lie ins every weekend...... bliss !!!

However since turning 30, my priorities have changed significantly. Suddenly I cant think of much other than having a baby. And luckily when I spoke to my DH about it, his reaction was "phew, me too"

So now I'm off the pill (since September) and from next month we are going to start ttc! We talk about it all the time now and I'm pretty excited..... and nervous!

So I think it's just one of those things that comes with age. One minute you think your life is perfect as it is; the next minute you feel something is missing. I would go with your heart..... just make sure you are both totally on board first! x

P.s I also have PCOS so thought it would never be possible anyway. I got diagnosed at 15 years old and was told "you will never have children"..... I didn't care then- now I'm pooing my pants!

Hi Rose!

Nice to meet someone in the same boat :)
I don't quite know if I have polycystic ovaries with or without the symptom.... I'm not 100% sure what it means tbh...
We tried for 2 years already so I know that I'm going to have a fairly drawn out process so I think starting now is a good idea... At least get some of the different options and methods tried and tested!
Are you taking anything to combat the symptoms of polycystic ovaries? I'm on metformin which is supposed to make me a bit more fertile? It reduces my risk of type 2 diabetes and helps me lose weight (I've always found it hard to lose weight and it turns out it could be down to the PCOS!)
Xx

We weren't sold on The kids thing
Friends had lovely ones but I didn't get it
One friend then had a miscarriage which was so sad that night I went home went to bed and woke up crazy broody...
When it old my husband almost confessionally he said well ok, let's see, it took the pressure off us 'deciding' almost
Yeeeeears later, after a fairly high maintenance wonderful child, we're in same position with let's go for #2...
All I can say is age hormones do seem to do something
I went from high flyer to maternity leave in no time
Hopefully here ergo again
Good luck
X

Hello Lil!

When I was diagnosed with PCOS at 15, the doc put me on a high hormone pill to try to regulate me (my main symptom then was a continuous 3 month period...... it just wouldnt stop no matter what i did!) Although I have changed pill brands a few times since then; I have essentially been using BC for 15 years straight so haven't a clue what my cycles are like.

We went straight to doc when we decided we wanted to TTC and she said if nothing happens within 6 months come back and they will help me. I think I'm lucky with my docs cos I know others make you try for at least year before providing help; even when you have PCOS!

Also for me PCOS has the opposite affect. I find it almost impossible to put weight on!!!! I know its a strong symptom for it to screw your weight up one way or the other. My friend also has it but it has made her very overweight.

So have your cycles formed a pattern now? How long did that take? X

I'm so new to forums at the mo, so please excuse my ignorance, Haha... What's BC?!

I haven't become regular at all... In fact, when I suspected I had PCOS I was about 18 years old but I was told I wasn't allowed to be tested until I was actually trying for a baby - very frustrating! My cycles have been almost non-existent with the exception of the 5 months leading up to my wedding day where they were 29 days exactly... Then I skipped a period and they have gone back to being irregular or non existent again...

I've been put on the metformin which I've been taking with the mini pill, micronor, as whilst metformin isn't an infertility drug as such, but I've been doing some reading and it's got a high success rate amongst us PCOS sufferers :)

Xx

Haha! BC is birth control.

Yeah i'm on CD 22 with absolutely no signs of having ovulated or AF arriving any time soon so I think my cycles could be irregular for a while. If only I had joined MumsNet sooner and read up about a lot of these things; I would have come off BC sooner! Very frustrating!!

However I'm not really in any rush- we are still very young! There are plenty of people on here that are 35 years plus and are only just starting to conceive their first so that makes me feel better (kinda!). However I've also read about a lot of people who have been ttc for a long time (3 years plus) So I'm glad I have decided to start now.

I am on the Nov bus thread- might be worth you hopping on if you haven't already!

Ok... Again... CD22? AF? Is there a dictionary I need to refer to so I can catch up on this new lingo?!
I'm sure I'll be speaking it in no time... Haha!

We're not in a huge rush either... It's good to have time on your side in our situation :)

What's this thread you're talking about? Where can I find it?

I'm doing my best "lost puppy" impression haha! Glad I've got someone to help :)

Sorry! AF is Aunt Flo.... period! And CD is cycle day. When I first joined every 2 minutes I was goggling Mumsnet abbreviations cos I didn't understand anything! You will pick it up in no time!
I see you found the November bus thread . They are a great bunch... they explain so much that I didn't even know existed! See you over there!