Second marriage...baby or not?

[Jodienicole]

Hi I've been married a year and we are both 41. We both have children between 19-8 from our previous marriages. My husband has had a vesectomy and we are trying to decide if he should have a reversal. My questions are... Are we too old? Has anyone had success after 6 years (vesectomy) of a reversal? X

Hiya Jodie. I'm in the same boat. I'm 36 and DH is 50. We both have 2 children from previous marriages (ages between 10 - 13).
DH had a reversal last March after 8 years and it was a success in terms of his sperm count returned. Since then I've been pg twice but unfortunately had chemical pregnancies. But he's Def not firing blanks anymore!

Similar situation, but found out I was menopausal so that answered out should we shouldn't we question! One thing, I remember feeling very pushed out by my mother having more children - I was 12/13 and then 18 when she had my step-siblings. To be fair she is NPD - but DH and I were strongly veering against having more for that reason before we found out we couldn't anyway. Our boys would be overjoyed but DSD would go totally off the rails. If you think that your DC can take it then fabulous.
I have heard of vasectomies being reversed - it is about 50/50 though and takes a bit of recovery so your DH should really get on it ASAP!

Asteria. My parents had my brothers when I was 11 and 14. My older sister and I were basically left to do what we wanted with minimal parenting and really went off the rails. We turned out ok in the end (sort of ) but I completely understand what you mean about being pushed out. My Mum loved us, but forgot to be a parent to 2 teenagers since she was concentrating on a baby and toddler.