I just found out someone I barely know is pregnant, and I'm devastated

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First cycle. First try. And she wasn't even sure she wanted it. I am pleased for her, I really am. Her being pregnant has no bearing on my fertility. And the worries she has are normal.

But still it makes me so sad. I feel like I can't breath

I understand how you feel. I really do. I saw an ex friend of mine the other day. Pushing a pram. She said Hi, but I just looked at her, and gave a very slight unenthusiastic smile, She was obviously thinking I'd run over and offer my congratulations but to be honest I'm fed up congratulating people. It does get you like that..
However like you rightly say her pregnancy has no bearing on your fertility and nor does she on mine.

One of my closest friends has just told me she is 10 weeks, i really do understand, ive been on treatment for 6 months with no joy, i cant have anymore help either, i just dont know if i can face her, sound selfish dont i? x

No you don't sound selfish at all cdk.

You don't sound selfish. It's soooo hard

I've been trying for 21 months for my second, my colleague got pregnant first cycle of trying with her second, she's now a few months gone and I'm not pregnant. I totally understand how everyone feels.

Four years down the fertility line for me, and I can get upset by anyone's pregnancy. Poor DH tried to get me to avoid the news for days after Kate's announcement - ridiculous really but it is what it is!

My only crap advice is to try focus on why you wouldn't want to be in her shoes other than the pregnancy.