Please will you have a look at this please?

[TulipChewlip]

www.canyouseealine.com/view_home_pregnancy_test.php?testID=55988

It is what I think it is, isn't it?

We are not ttc. I have been taking cerazette religiously, I don't think we can cope with another child. I'm anti-abortion.... Oh god :(

Thank you bythewishingwell. I'm worried that my gp and DH will say that! I know I've definitely not forgotten a pill. Definitely!

I don't think we'll be trusting it again now.

Hopefully your doctor will be more understanding than mine! They know that no contraception is 100% effective, and while a lot of accidental pregnancies may well be due to not using contraception effectively, they shouldn't automatically assume that to be the case.
Your DH at least should definitely be on your side. Have you told him yet?

No I've not told him yet. I have a doctors appointment on Friday for my next prescription of cerazette, they'll ask me if I could be pregnant etc, so I'm going to use that as my opportunity to tell him I think.

In sure it will all be fine, I've had time to sleep on it now and I'm not as panicked as I was yesterday, it will definitely be a struggle but lots of things in life are.

This was me last month, found out so unexpectedly I was pregnant with no4 I only took the test cause I saw itin cuboard and something in my head was saying just take the test lol, come up positive straight away. Partner was not happy, neither was my mum. But i couldnt even think about an abortion, I said everything happens for a reason. Il still only be 24 when the babys born and my youngest is 14mo and im supposed to be starting uni next year, it is tough to get your head round at first but im feeling ok about it now I suppose. Good luck :) xx

Thanks mumxof3x, congratulations on your pregnancy. :)

I caved and told DH this morning, I couldn't help it really, I was feeling so sick (not sure if pregnancy related or worry) and if had strange not-quite-crampy feelings in my abdomen.

He's devastated as I expected. He wants to me to have an abortion. :( :( :(
I don't know if I can.
He keeps saying he wanted us to buy a new house and for him to be working less hours (he works crazy stupid hours, about 70 a week!)... I can understand all this and he's not wrong in what he's saying. He's on anti-depressants so obviously that's a factor plus he has an autoimmune disease that flares up when he's stressed out.
I'm scared to tell him I want to keep the baby. I don't agree with abortion and he knows that. I know the timing of this is absolutely terrible but it is what it is... Totally unplanned.

I think he probably knows deep down that I can't have an abortion. I would resent him so much afterwards. And if I don't have an abortion then he would resent me and probably the baby as well.

:(

Oh Tulip :(

He might have just said it as a refex reaction as it was so unexpected. Maybe leave it a couple days or so to sink in and then talk to him again.

He's said the same thing all day wanttobeamummy :(
He's been really upset all day about it, crying and generally sad.

What will be will be now. Before we decide anything we need to check with his med nurse to see if the new medication could affect an unborn baby, I've tried googling and it has varying answers wrt birth defects and such :(
Best thing is to speak to her first. Then go from there. I have an appointment with my own nurse practitioner on Friday (ironic ) so will talk things over with her.

Bah what a situation. Most people would be thrilled! And so would we if the timing was better.
I feel so guilty posting on this board about it when so many people are trying :( I think I'm going to ask mnhq to move the thread somewhere else... Where though?

Well, there's no denying it. I'm definitely pregnant. I want to be happy about it, but feel desperately guilty that DH really doesn't see a way to be happy about it.
I do think he's accepted that I cannot end this pregnancy, I think he's trying I get his head around it but I feel so bad. I know I'm not a bad person for wanting to keep this baby but I do feel like one.

Thank you to everyone who has replied, I'm grateful

Mine reacted same way tulip, as did my mother and me and dp have barely spoke about it since, everything seems so strained at the moment. But I have said to him that I do understsnd how he feels and he is right in someways, however it is me thats got to live with my choices so I would understand if he wanted to walk away. Hes chose not to obviously but I feel like iv pushed him away. Can totally sympathise with you. Hope you are ok xxx

Hey mumxof3x, I do feel like I'm pushing him away, or that he's distancing himself. :(
Things have a way of working out so I'm not worrying too much, well, I'm trying not to worry too much. It's difficult.
I'm ok really though, thank you. I've got my head around it, I'm mentally preparing for it, I'm not going to give birth tomorrow anyway so he has time to do the same.
He's not going to force me to terminate, he's told me that already.
Crossing my fingers, he's at work now, he had a good talk to his boss yesterday about it all so at least he has someone he can go to, like I come here. Xxx

We'll I started bleeding this morning. It's over, DH is relieved but sad for me. I feel so shit and sad.
I just want to cry, I really wanted this unexpected baby.

Oh, Tulip Are you sure?

I'm so sorry. Make sure your DH knows how you feel about it. I miscarried the first time, and my DP at the time was relieved; I think he didn't really realise how upset I was, and so wasn't very supportive.

We're here if you want to offload.

Lots of people have bleeding in early pregnancy. Are you going to visit an EPAU to be sure?

I really don't know, I keep wanting to think 'maybe it's implantation' or something, it mostly brown with the occasional pink/red spot. Started at 11:30 ish this morning. I don't need a pad or anything with it. Trying not to get my hopes up. My doctors wants a urine sample from me on Monday morning anyway so I'll go in with it and explain, then they know. I think I'm still to early for EPAU to be interested in seeing me, they don't see anyone until at least 6 weeks here. It doesn't feel like when I miscarried before, I had pains and cramps and heavy'ish bleeding right from the get-go. I have niggles in my abdomen but not pain, closest I could describe them to is cramps, but not quite - hard to describe really.
DH is trying to be supportive, really trying. But he sad at all about losing the pregnancy, which makes me even sadder :(

Thank you for answering my post.

Sorry, should say DH isn't sad at losing the pregnancy.

Meh, :(

Surely the EPAU would see you if you were concerned about bleeding?

I know you don't want to get your hopes up, but try not to give up completely- lots of people who have minor bleeding go on to have healthy babies. It doesn't sound like much if you don't need a pad?

I hope you manage to get some rest tonight.

Thank you bythewishingwell, if bleeding gets any worse I'll ring them next week, if bleeding stops or at least stays like this then I'll do another pregnancy test next week and go from there.

Just pulled up at work now, cried the whole way here so I look ridiculous. Could really have done with staying home bit if I did I know I'd just be sad all day, at least this is a distraction. xxx

Sorry to spam, just keeping track of what's happening. Was bleeding again yesterday but it was brown again with just off boys of red.
Today nothing.
But every pregnancy symptom I had has vanished so I think it's just a matter of time. Pregnancy test I took half hour ago is still positive (just) so there's something still there.

Off boys??

odd bits

Oh no tulip, hope your ok. Have you been seen by anyone? Iv had bleeding in all of mine xx

No I haven't been seen by anyone yet hun. I did go and give my urine sample to the reception at my doctors surgery today, I warned them I might need a referral to the EPAU rather than a midwife appointment though :(

That's still quite a clear positive.

I'm surprised the EPAU won't see you until 6 weeks. Could you convince the GP to refer you to another one?

I think I'm going to ask them Alpaca, last time I mc'd they would see me until 6 weeks because there's nothing they can do regardless of what they see.

Well, there's nothing they can do for a MC at 6 weeks either! I would push them for a scan.

When I went to the EPAU they seen me but couldn't find anything when they scanned me so they done blood tests every 48 hours to see if my beta HCG levels were increasing. Unfortunately, I miscarried but they still done a very thorough investigation.

Thinking of you today