No period after termination due Anacephaly at 12 week scan

[densie14]

Hi, my daughter who is 25 had her 12 week scan on 22nd July 2014 when it was discovered the baby had an NTD Anacephaly, she had a surgical termination on 28th July, this was a very much wanted first baby for her, she is devastated as you can imagine and desperate to fall pregnant ASAP.

The problem is she seems stuck in limbo, 9 weeks on there is no sign of her periods returning, she is not pregnant as she has done numerous tests and a blood test done at the doctors.

I am trying to find out if this normal, she has been back to the doctor who quite frankly was clueless and not a lot of help, she has contacted the consultant that did her op as she was worried about Ashermans Syndrome but he has said there is no way she could have that as he used the suction method not D&C so she mentioned provera to try help kick start her periods which has been prescribed by her Doctor but she hasn't taken it yet.

She is doing ovulation tests pretty much daily and has become nothing short of obsessive about falling again, just wondered if any of you ladies can offer any advice or have been through a similar thing, specifically having to wait so long for a period to return. The Doctor said to wait another 6 weeks which will take her to 12 weeks post termination which seems such a long time. She is so sad I just want to try and find a way to help her.

She is on a prescribed dose of Folic Acid also.. Please help!!!
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I would say, however frustrating, for me 9 weeks is very early after her op to try again. You have to get both your body and mind back to normal before you even start, she's only 25 and has heaps of time to get pregnant.

Being sad and frustrated won't help her ger her periods back or get pregnant, she needs to back off it all for a bit or she will make herself unwell, which won't help her get pregnant.

After a m/c or medical issues there is that huge concern that you will never get pregnant again, I had a m/c at 11 weeks and did, like many do, go on to get pregnant and have a baby. I think it was about 6-8 months after I got pregnant, which I now look back at an don't even remember the time it took. Most of the time there is no medical reason for the m/c or surgery, they just happen, which is the hardest thing to accept, I know, I have been though it.

I think the best way you can help her is as you are already doing just being supportive, not trying to give answers to questions that no one can answer. Being healthy and not too stressed is the best thing for her at the moment. You sound like a lovely Mum just trying to help your daughter.

Thank you CheshireEditor.... everything you have said makes complete sense, and I agree 9 weeks is too soon ttc in the scheme of things. I think the big frustration is that her periods have not returned yet.

You have hit the nail on the head saying that there are huge concerns that getting pregnant again may not be possible, she seems to need to prove to herself that she can. But yes I will continue to support her as her partner is too, and hopefully things will work out.

Its great to hear you had a happy ending, thanks again for taking time and trouble to reply.
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