Struggling with bfn after bfn

[OrangutanThang]

Have just had news of another friends bfp and although I'm happy for her I am struggling to control my sadness that it still isn't happening for me. Does anyone have any advice or hugs? Feeling super emotional this week.

I've gained a stone since starting TTC in the spring and have been drinking way too much alcohol to deal with the stress and disappointment. This is a good thing to avoid, that's my advice!

I have started a new exercise regime now, eating better and am trying not to think too much about ttc (says she on mumsnet discussion board!).

How long have you been trying? We are on cycle 7 and DH had a sperm test over summer which showed low count and 100% abnormalities. We are hoping it was a one off bad sample. Next test due in October. Fx

Not sure how well it's working though. We were watching Sarah Beeny's Double your House for Half the Money and not only did this young couple have a 500k house they were doing up, they also 'fell' pregnant during the project. As you do. I did almost throw my phone at the tv, like eff off!!!

Life's not fair sometimes x

After 18 months TTC and two miscarriages I can finally say I no longer expect to see a BFP and so it hurts less.

Personally my best advice would be to not test until you are late for your period. Then the likelihood of seeing a BFN is greatly reduced.

Yes, I agree with New Era in the first couple of months I was testing in the week running up to AF. No point testing until you are a day or two late.

I agree... I have been testing in the run up to af being due and then when she finally turns up I am utterly fed up.

I would also say try to carry on as normal and not think about it all the time. We were ttc for 11 months with ds then on the one month we went on holiday .. (drank more than we should, relaxed, had fun) we got a bfp so sometimes as hard as it seems I think relaxing is the key.

Having said that if anyone at the time of ttc had told me to relax I would probably have screamed at them lol.

sending hugs and lots of luck xx

As Tiffs says it's easy to say now on the other side but I do remember all too well the feeling of TTC.

Our strategy was to focus on doing all the stuff that would be tricker once parents.. Holidays, city breaks, theatre nights out etc. I tried to really enjoy our freedom of married life and having disposable income to spend guilt free.

Also- took sml amount of control and bought clear blue fertility monitor. Worked for us first month- could be fluke but made me feel like I was doing something.

Really hope it happens for you soon. X