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November bus opening doors- all aboard for BFPs!!!

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IamEvan · 14/09/2014 16:55

I know its waaay early for a November bus to set off but AF arrived today kicking me off the September bus and with DH away next month the October bus is not an option. Anyone fancy joining me in the long wait? I don't expect much action on this thread for a few weeks but it would be nice to have some company. My stats are below:

iamevan, 35, TTC#2, cycle 6, BFP due 7th November

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Jcandy · 27/10/2014 08:07

Hi everyone I've just been kicked off the pregtober bus so I'm hoping there is still a seat available for me here.

Jcandy 30 ttc #1 cycle 3 bfp due 25th November

broodylicious · 27/10/2014 08:11

Morning all. Happy Monday! Our schools were off last week so it's back today for them. No packed out parks or soft play for me and dd, hoorah! Next holidays are Christmas ShockGrin

spinning, any movement on your dh situation? Hope you're friends again soon xx

Cd12 here. Not dtd as yet this cycle because dh has been working lates, no clear positive opk yet and I don't want to get into the shagathon too early and it all become tiresome/for a purpose (which obvs it is for a purpose but ykwim) Considering buying conceive plus today but wonder if it'll just be a waste of money. How many of you use it/have used it and like to attribute a bfp to it? I had a dream about it last night and so I feel as though I should try it this cycle for some reason! I so want a bfp this year - like everyone else on this thread, I know!

MrsGingerbread · 27/10/2014 08:54

Hello!

7dpo here and no symptoms. Which I thought was really dull. Until I realised that of course a lack of symptoms is itself a ...SYMPTOM ;)

Not long now until the November bus gets motoring. Woo!

Treaclepie19 · 27/10/2014 08:56

Broody my first month using preseed I got my bfp but then I've also used it for 6 months since and nothing.

I'm on half term, going to be working every day though as we're having lots of monitoring and things after the holiday.

spinningirl10 · 27/10/2014 09:13

MrsE, I'm thinking I'll take it from tomorrow cd5 but maybe not at all if things haven't improved with dp.

He's a really deep thinker, he doesn't shout, he just goes off and retreats into himself and thinks and thinks for hours on end. I had a brief conversation with him this morning and he's said some things that have raised questions about our relationshipSad I feel exhausted, ds is back this morning and at work with me. Trying to carry on as normal and not bawl my eyes out. I'm sure this is more a discussion for the relationships thread but I feel happier here with you and I don't want my relationship with dp dissected over there, I just want my fabulous dp backSad

MrsExtraOrdinary · 27/10/2014 09:19

Oh dear spinning, I completely understand the familiarity of the buses and that's why I just can't leave. I'm a bit of an over thinker myself. Would it help to explain a bit more about the argument. Why's he not keen on your new job? Don't feel you have to, but we've all been chatting long enough to have a vested interest in getting you through this Smile

Blueskygirl30 · 27/10/2014 09:20

Oh Spinning I'm sorry your Dp is being that way. My DH dies the same when he has something in his mind, goes quiet and won't talk about it for a while, which I find so so hard and upsetting. I hope you're able to have a chat about it soon and get back to normal. You're definitely most welcome chatting to us....we're all on this journey together!

Blueskygirl30 · 27/10/2014 09:21

DH does the same! ^

spinningirl10 · 27/10/2014 09:27

Thanks ladies,

He says it's nothing to do with the job. I haven't told him they've offered it to me. He didn't ask about the interview so I didn't mention it. The other stuff seems far more important now. It wasn't even an argument, it was something I said that he didn't like and it's made him think about lots of other stuff. I know I'm not making sense, I can't say anymore now. I need to do some workGrin I might pm you later MrsE, I'm not sure I should fill this thread up with all my worriesGrin

MrsExtraOrdinary · 27/10/2014 09:29

Feel free to pm me any time, honestly spinning, I need distracting from half term and 6 children running riot! Wink

spinningirl10 · 27/10/2014 09:31

Haha thanks MrsE, I'm an ex smoker and it's always been the first thing I turn to when I'm stressed! I'm absolutely desperate for a fag!!!

wanttobeamummyin2015 · 27/10/2014 09:33

Oh no spinning I hope you can have a better conversation with him and get it all out in the open :( my DH is the same, really deep thinker, doesn't get angry but we have had some difficult conversations in the past. It is horrid at the time but you can work through them - it is muh better to talk things through, that is how you fix them. Hope gongs look up for you soon, we are all here to listen!

tootssw17 · 27/10/2014 09:35

Bit low today- still no positive opk- and cross with dh.

I am losing weight as part of ttc and he smoked so much at a wedding yesterday I got so upset- I am trying my hardest to be healthy and he cant commit to not smoking- it's not like he is a smoker morally just when drunk with a certain group of puffers. The smell just makes me retch but it's the unfairness in how much he is prepared to not / sacrifice that upsets me. I was too angry about the principle of it to even dtd in our hotel last night and so little cm that when attempted this morning- tmi I know sorry- that I was not in the mood- got out of bed and ignored him.
Not a way to make a baby! I am pretty sure you need to at least like your dh/ dtd to conceive :)

So now I am still resentful but it all feels petty today!

On Cycle day 12 so surely should have some cm! Anything would be good!

Agree with above question ( sorry in phone so can't see who said it!) where is uterus to feel ov pain?

Treaclepie19 · 27/10/2014 09:38

Oh spinning my DH is the same. He thinks everything through then talks it through eventually. Rather than shouting or arguing.
Don't worry about taking up the thread. We're here if you need us :)

Oh toots men are frustrating sometimes aren't they :(

MrsExtraOrdinary · 27/10/2014 09:48

Spinning me too! Before I was pg I did used to have an emergency pack of 10 I resorted to perhaps 4 times a year. Problem was dss kept stealing it which resulted in more rage. Because I could never have anything of my own! Woe is me!

I absolutely know that if I'd met my dh sooner he'd have done my absolute head in. The things his ex accepted I'd never have done and he's had a long time in training with me and I'd say there's still room for massive improvement. I'm a hard woman but We don't see certain things the same way at all. Hopefully there is a way through for you both. You don't always have to agree on everything to make it work.

spinningirl10 · 27/10/2014 09:49

Treacle thank you, we're really good at talking things through, it's just difficult while I'm waiting for him to be ready! He won't talk until he's ready even though I'm desperate to.

Toots, sorry you're pissed off with your dh. My dp smokes but he's down to about 3 a day and not around me so I live with that. Well done on losing weight, that's not easy.

MaGratgarlik1983 · 27/10/2014 09:55

Morning all, just a quick question - I had quite bad AF-style cramping this morning after I went to the loo about 5am then went back to sleep and when I got up it's gone. Bbs feel sore as well. Am only 4 or 5 dpo - anyone got any ideas what this might be??

LemonDrizzleTwunt · 27/10/2014 10:32

Hello all, can I join in?

I am totally new on these boards and don't know the form, so please direct me if I'm doing anything wrong!

Coil has come out today, folic acid started yesterday, gave up smoking yesterday too, and am ready to do this! BFP due 12th Nov I think!

I need some support and encouragement because this is the first time we've ever DTD hoping for a baby as a consequence, so although I'm beginning to be excited, I'm also quite nervous!

victoria401 · 27/10/2014 11:02

Sorry you've had argument with dp spinning. I had massive row with mine a month ago which resulted in not ttc that month and I thought we might even split up! Since all the crap came out in the open and aired though things have been amazing between us. Must have been what was needed to make us realise how special we really are to each other. Chin up x

Well the dtd commenced last night, too early to count but refreshes the supply for later in the week. Can never be sure when I'm going to ov tho due to slightly irregular cycles. Somewhere between 12 and 18!

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Dozygirl · 27/10/2014 11:44

Haha proof drunkeness is definitely a contraceptive for us too Grin

gennibugs · 27/10/2014 12:19

spinning hope you can talk with DH soon. relationships are like a roller coaster sometimes. I hope whatever it is you can sort it out. I think you should keep posting here if it helps, no one minds and it's a supportive bunch on here.

victoria I have not seen you in ages - how are you?

Welcome lemon and all other newbies.

cd4 here so we are at the boring stage!

ohlordyplordy · 27/10/2014 12:38

Thanks ladies. I'm certain dp bro/ wife aren't being rude on purpose to upset me, I just think that in their minds unmarried couples are valued less than married couples and that I could only be an auntie to their kids if we were married. I could understand it if I was one of a chain of girlfriends, but we've been together 12 years, I was the first real girlfriend he had, and I was a part of the family before they even met/ married/ had kids.
It got to me in particular this time as it was a thank you card with a pic of their new baby on it, and i'm still feeling a bit fragile after cp. Dp won't say anything to them, they don't see each other often and don't chat on the phone, so he would have to make a point of phoning, which would make it a big deal - he's a don't rock the boat kind of person. I'm just going to have to ignore it and not let it get to me.
Sorry for those of you having arguments with dps, this ttc lark is so stressful simmering away under the surface , that I think sometimes we all need a chance to vent, and unfortunately that can be at the one person that we shouldn't. Hope you get it sorted out x

victoria401 · 27/10/2014 13:00

Hi genni, you still here too? :-( I'm not too bad. Been one hell of a year with all the fertility tests and referral to clinic, but we are plodding along as you do! Cd8 here, yawn!

ohlordy can't believe your not sis in law is being funny about u not being married. So many people don't these days. My sis had her 2 dd's 'out of wedlock', shock horror! Lol! My dh is wierd about the uncle thing tho, refuses to call my sis's dd's his nieces, they are MY neices. I try to explain he married into my family so they are OUR neices. I will call any of his siblings children my neices or nephews, I even call his family mum dad bro and sis!

broodylicious · 27/10/2014 13:06

No, I meant conceive plus lube sunbathing - I've heard a few people somewhere talking about it and with my dream, I just figured it might be an option for me this month. Something to try anyway! Smile

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