Preparing mind and body for conception

[KHQ89]

Hi ladies, I've been lurking and reading for a while but this is my first post. DH and I have been married for 16 months. I'm so ready to start TTC but he wants to wait until his birthday next June to start. Originally he didn't want me to even come off the pill until then but I have convinced him there's no point in getting a new prescription for the pill to take me up to June once the previous one ends at the start of May (ish). I guess I'm feeling frustrated because we both want children and he even admitted on Sunday that he does feel ready but still wants to wait. I do understand his reasons but I feel like nothing can be more important than trying for a little person who is half of each of us.

Anyway, I'm rambling. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice of things I can start doing now to prepare myself both mentally and physically so I feel like I'm at least trying to do something even if it's not the actual conception bit yet! I need something to get me through to next June that feels useful. It feels like such a long time away! Sorry for the long post, I feel like a fraud coming on here when I'm not actually trying yet but I'm so ready and just need to do something!

I'm waiting for Jan to start TTC, I have just started my prenatal vits. Will make DH start his vits for sperm cycle life. Month before I am going to start taking Omega-3 supplement. Also will take Inositol but I have PCOS.

Start keeping a calendar of ovulation and periods.
Start saving for maternity leave.

Get physically fit! I think the fitter you are the easier the pregnancy . A strong back is a bonus as bump is a strain on the back towards on the end of the pregnancy !

Thanks ladies, I really appreciate your advice. I knew I needed to make sure I was physically fit but someone else saying it has motivated me to actually do something about it! I know it's a long time off yet but just feeling like I'm doing something to prepare will help (I hope!)

Forgot to say, congratulations Kitten! I hope it's all going smoothly for you!

I would definitely track your cycles and how consistent they are, lots of that info will be helpful in timing your ovulation and when to DTD!

I have to say though, I read a quote from a doctor once who said 'If you are ready and want a child, just start trying'. I guess she/he meant that if either of you do have any 'issues' the earlier you find out the better chance of getting it sorted.

But then you have to be ready to deal with getting pregnant straight away too, which has happened to a lot of my friends! (and their DHs were most disappointed that the 'trying' part didn't take any time at all!

I've got the Ovia app which I've been using for the past week or so. A bit weird because obviously it is geared towards when you're actually trying but I figured it would be good to have all the information there when we start.

That's exactly what I've been trying to tell my DH, that we're ready so what's the point in waiting! I think although he's ready though it's a new idea to him that it is actually going to happen. He's a very measured, logical planner so I think he just needs that bit of extra time to get used to the idea.

I did try to convince him with "think of all the fun we will have trying". I think he was nearly tempted

my advice is if you are on the pill to come off of it now to get it out of your system, i have been on the pill for 9 years and i came off in December and my cycles are all over the place, you may be lucky and your cycle might go back to normal.
Try and eat as healthily as you can and track your cycles

Thanks Angel, I've been thinking about this and worried about things going back to normal after coming off the pill DH doesn't seem to understand that it could take a while to sort itself out but I am going to try to explain it to him again.