Ttc #2 for 12 cycles now, how can I drag dh to a clinic?

[Patienceisapparentlyavirtue]

It took 2 years and multiple medical/early mcs to conceive dc1, and now we have been trying 12 cycles to get dc2, ever since my af came back after bfing, and no luck.

Just like last time, I've had all my blood tests (incl day 2/21)and got the all clear. I think it's partly a religious upbringing, partly optimism, but mostly fear that something will be wrong with him, I suppose.

Has anyone else had this challenge? Did you find a constructive way of getting help? I really want to get referred to a clinic, they might help and if it doesn't speed up the process, at least it would feel good to be progressing with something. We feel so lucky just to have dd1, and appreciate that our difficulties are small compared with lots of people here, and try to be supportive to all my pregnant friends but I feel like crying a bit every time someone jokes about needing to start work on the next one, or another friend from not complains about getting knocked up too quickly after the first one

Nct, not not!

Ugh, just reread and am making no sense at all. Somehow deleted the bit where I mentioned the main point, about him refusing to get tested at all, just like last time...

Threaten to shag someone else!

Seriously, it's difficult, but some men really think of their maleness as their ballsac and sperm quality.

My DH's sperm were so bad they wouldn't give the results on the phone, and DH had to insist as he didn't have time to go to the clinic, they were really worried that he'd get so upset.... But he didn't care a jot. He's never thought of himself as a sperm count.

Overhaul the diet, and feed your DH zinc rich food, oysters, pumpkin seeds etc and have a strong coffee about half an hour before you dtd. It will improve sperm quality and swimming ability.

Our clinic would accept samples from home, if they were delivered fresh within half an hour. Maybe your clinic would do the same.
Sometimes it's the thought of the cubicle with the shag mags puts them off. Can you go into the clinic with him?

Thank you Venus (such an appropriate name! ). I think he'd much prefer to avoid having to do it at the clinic, maybe that's an option. I'll look into it!