Sperm count 0

[Panyanpickle77]

Today DH received the results of his sperm count, and he is completely infertile (sperm count of 0). To cut a long story short, last year he had testiular cancer, and chemo, and recently has been put on HRT (testosterone) which has azoospermia as one of its side effects.
Ok, so I wasn't overly surprised, but at the same time I felt completely gutted. Dh took it really well, but I could tell he was upset by the results. We both agreed that things could be worse, that we have 2 great kids (dd4 and ds1), and that its not the end of the world. We have the option of IVF, as he stored some of the good stuff before he had his chemo....................so why do I still feel so sad about it (crying even now).
I would happily have no more kids, safe in the knowledge that DH is alive and well, but we always saw ourselves with 4 kids (probably a really selfish attitude, but its what we wanted). Should we try IVF or do you think we should be content with our lovely kids?

no-one can answer that question but you, you know that....
i just wanted to swing by and say how sorry i am that you've had this result, it might not have been a surprise but i guess you were hoping.

mrsaek, if you have had it in your heart that you would always have 4 children and now this has been taken away from you unless you go through the ivf route then i would guess that you now want 4 children more than ever before.

your not being selfish, its a womans perogative to want more children until she is satisfied, however ivf can have quite an impact on the children that you already have as its a very emotional rollercoaster

that being said, you wont be content until you at least give it a go, so i think if thats what you really want to do then go for it, but you may if your lucky and i hope you are have 3 children rather than 4 (unless its twins oooerr)
depending on how much sperm dh has stored

i always thought i would have 3 children, then when we couldnt conceive naturally we had fertlility treatment and we had one child...i thought if only i could have a baby i would be so happy and content, but then i wanted another, and my yearning for my 2nd baby was strong and yes people could say i should be grateful i have one child and i would be if thats how my fate was to lie but i couldnt let it go until i had at least tried for another.

now after 2 children, i am counting my blessings, and we wont be going for a 3rd child but i know deep deep down i will always have liked 3

hope that makes sense

Cheers for the replies. We've decided to leave it for 6 months, and then we will enquire about IVF (he's been told that we'll get it for free due to him having had cancer!). By that time ds will be nearly 20 months, and we'll have a bit more clarity on what we really want.

the very best of luck then (when you decide to go for IVF, as i have a feeling you will...)