When to start trying again

[Spanielpuppy]

Our DS is 15months a gorgeous cheeky little boy.

It took 3 1/2 years to conceive with him. We were referred to a fertility clinic, diagnosed with unexplained infertility. I had 7 months of clomid which were possibly the worst months of my life. It made my reg cycles of 28days go to anything from 26-48. So ovulation sticks was near impossible to predict as was getting progesterone levels. I felt like I was consistently getting negatives. So after 7 months of clomid I stopped and was referred for IVF. We went to a seminar on IVF, I had a panic attack in the car park as it was something I didn't feel ready for. Dh comforted me and persuaded me to go in. Three days before our consultation with an IVF consultant we got our long awaited BFP. The pregnancy and birth were great no problem

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My point was now I thinking about number two. Don't quite feel ready but if it's going to take 3 1/2 years think maybe we should already be trying?

Does anyone have any advice, does your fertility improve once having a baby? Will it be a struggle again?

I know I just relax but will all know when trying to conceive or thinking about it it's easier said than done?

Any advice or stories welcome x

Relax and try now - or rather cease trying not to get pg. Even if it works now , you will have a sensible gap

I know what you mean. It took 2 MCs and over 2 years before I actually conceived my beautiful DD (who also decided to be conceived straight after an initial IVF inquiry). She is almost 2, and I've spend a lot of time thinking about when to try for a second.

I worry it will take as long - but then again also had to factor in not feeling ready for another baby yet! What if it worked really quickly?

Upshot is that we will be trying again after Christmas, when DD is 2.3. I think that a 3 to 5 year age gap would be OK for us. We've set a limit of 2 years on actively trying (after which there will have to be a serious discussion). Frankly I don't think I could take the stress of trying for longer.

Very sensible idea, I think we will take a similar approach.

Relax for now, and think about trying in the new year.

Just wondered what the likely good is of having trouble again?

I would just be relaxed about it for a while, stop taking precautions and just enjoy it. Hopefully things will happen naturally for you xx