TTC is stressful! my rant

[Cupcakequeen28]

My husband and I are in our 3rd cycle of ttc. Im finding it so stressful. When ever I get my period I feel so defeated. I work with mothers and babies everyday so I feel like I can never have a break from it all. I find myself up at 1 am thinking about what I may be doing wrong. My husband doesn't understand, he's so easy going and never stresses about anything which also drives me crazy and makes me feel alone. Any tips on destressing while ttc? Cant exactly glug down a bottle of wine ;)

I think it can be really hard and stressful. Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility? Has been v. helpful to me in understanding my cycle.

Personally, while I wouldn't drink a bottle, I think a glass of wine while ttc is fine, helps me relax and takes the pressure off.

Good luck, I hope it happens for you soon.

good luck op im ttc my 4th baby at the moment everyone around me is pregnant typical

I'm sorry you are stressed but you really need some perspective. I don't want to sound harsh but you have to accept it doesn't happen on the first month for everyone, it 'normally' takes up to a year. Once you can start putting your TTC experience into that context you will understand its likely you are not doing anything 'wrong' and that these things just take time. There is a perception that everyone immediately falls pregnant, it doesn't work like that.

Trust me, I know how frustrating TTC is. I am on cycle 35. Yes, 35. And at 3 months I felt exactly the same way you did! Little did I know three years later I would still be baby-free.... But if you carry on the way you are, you are not doing yourself any favours. And if it does end up taking a while, you will have made yourself completely crazy and had a miserable time in the process.

Read some of the infertility threads, have a small glass of wine (I have long long since stopped all that tww no drinking stuff) and cross your fingers that it happens for you soon.

Thanks I appreciate the advice. Nice to not feel alone