Looking for support/success stories after VR

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Hi Everyone!

I'm totally new to this and my husband & I have not been TTC for long.

However it is complicated we got married a few months ago and haven't been "stopping" it happening since then but I had been on the pill for years so its taken a while for my cycle to get back to normal. Happy to report I had "normal" 28day cycle this month.

Anyway my hubby had a VR 18months ago after getting it done 8 years previously in preparation of us getting married and wanting a family. He already has a son (14) who I adore but all of a sudden I have become very nervous it wont happen for us.

My fertile window is next week and I think its going to be our first proper chance of conceiving since coming off pill etc.

I'm still under 30 so my chances are good but if the VR didn't work I will be devastated. We haven't has a sperm test as I wanted to try normally for a while (crazy but I suppose sometimes you have to hope). And its only really hit me how badly I want a baby since we started trying.

Not really much point to my post other than a bit of a rant and looking for some positive stories.

Good luck everyone TTC this month xx

Hey fingers crossed, we've only been TV for a month since I hady coil out and got my period today after 30 days so feeling a bit mardy but trying to think and be positive.

All I seem to think of is getting pregnant, I just seem consumed by it 24/7!!!! I'd become so convinced I was pregnant that I'd even tried to predict my due date and maternity leave dates!!!!!

My partner already has a step-daughter who is pregnant herself and she already has a toddler too and my partner also has 2 teenagers but we really want to extend the brood!

I am now looking at the next "window of opportunity'' ready to try again!!!!

How are you feeling?

I mean "tycoon " Not TV!!!! X

This new phone!!!! Ttc not TV or tycoon!!!!

Hi Bellabutterfly2014! We have been planning starting a family for the past couple of years but now we have actually reached the time to start trying I feel like a nervous wreck! I suppose its due to realising that if the VR didn't work I may not have kids due to a decision my DH made in his "previous life". My step son is in his early teens :-)
All we can do is try! Good luck in your "window of opportunity", everything crossed for you! How are you feeling? xx

Hiya Fingerscrossed, my DH had his 8 year old vasectomy reversed last May with Mr Harris. What we both did in preparation previous the surgery was start with supplements, and I also bought myself the Advanced Clearblue Fertility Monitor so that I could actually pin point my 'fertility window'. It is expensive to buy plus the sticks every 2 cycles, but it's worth it when you don't have to second guess ovulation symptoms and miss the window.

The reversal was a 2nd option for us as 2013 we went for 3 IVF cycles because all the doctors, even the doctor at our fertility clinic kept saying that a reversal would never work. So he had a TESA (sperm aspiration) and I did get a BFP the first 2 cycles but sadly miscarried both. After our 3rd unsuccessful cycle he researched high and low for VR and we came across Mr Harris and went for it with blind faith. So for now we are TTC naturally.

Cycle 1 I did get pregnant although I never saw 2 lines on a HPT I did have all the symptoms. My gynae confirmed that I indeed had gotten pregnant and had a chemical. We have an appointment in September to have his sample tested as we have to send them to the surgeon.

Do you mind me asking why your DH hasn't had his sample tested? I personally prefer to be in the know even if it's bad news than being left in limbo month after month. It's best if he does get them done as then you can move forward with different treatments of IVF if needed, which I am pretty certain you wont be needing . Fingers crossed for you xx

Hi Curlyjay

Tbh it was me who didn't want it tested. I suppose I just want to try and be "normal" as crazy as it sounds. He has had the whole normal first marriage baby thing and this is my first shot. (He is 10 years older than me). We had sperm taken and stored at the time so at least we have that to fall back on.

I am taking folic acid

When he had the VR done (18months ago) I went back in the pill as we didn't want to get pregnant then but wanted VR done as soon as we could afford to. I always was fine with the fact he had it done but now I feel devastated. Suppose it's maybe all just became real.

Fingerscrossed for you! Glad to have met someone going through the same thing x can't speak to DH as he feels bad enough about getting it done in first place (he was only 30) x

Hey fingers crossed, I'm feeling excited but worried it won't happen for us. Although my partner didn't go for a vasectomy, with his ex having already having a daughter and then them having a son and a daughter I know if he'd stayed with her they wouldn't have been thinking about more children; however my partner, although his children are nearly grown up knows how important having a child of my own is to me but I know I'll be more devastated than him if it just doesn't happen!!!

I'm also taking frolic acid. I'm 34 and he is 42 so I am aware that it might be harder for me being older x

Hi Bellabutterfly. I totally understand how you feel. It's hard when there is already a step child. I am very lucky and get on amazing with my step son but he isn't mine. As awful as that sounds I want to experience the whole mummy thing. I'm 29 and my DH is 38. He wants a baby as much as me but I can't help be jealous that he has already had a "family" with someone else and it may not happen for us.
So glad I found this site as none of my family know about VR. Wishing you all the best of luck! Xx

Thanks fingers crossed and good luck to you aswell. It is hard dealing with a family already established, we are worried about the kids reactions although we hope they'll be excited about the prospect of a baby brother or sister. I am toying with the idea of buying an ovulation testing kit if I don't fall pregnant this month!!! Xx

My stepson has already asked us if we want kids so he already knows it's on the cards. But the proof will be in the pudding....

Keep in touch xx

Hey, will do!!!! Trying again now, we'll not right now!!! But this month!!!! Will keep on touch!!! X