TTC and have an interview coming up, do I hold off starting work or get on with it?

[Natalie1989xo]

Exactly that really, we have been trying for a couple of months and i have been head hunted for a position and invited to interview (awaiting confirmation of date).

I would really like to start my career rolling and in the same vein we are continuing to try and conceive our #3. The maternity benefits/pay aren't an issue for us financially I just don't want to decline a potential opportunity.

Am I completely bonkers for wanting both? I figure that I could potentially upset people buggering off on mat leave soon after starting if we fall pregnant.

Has anyone any reassurances, advice or experiences to share?

I would go for the job and keep TTC - it could take some months yet. Just be aware about not getting maternity pay if you haven't worked at your new company for long enough as it may impact on what maternity leave you can afford to take.

I haven't got any experiences but my opinion is go for both, you might not get the chance to have promotion again for a while and you don't know how long it could take you to get pregnant, you could be really lucky and fall straight away or may take some time, and if you do fall straight away and get the job, it's not the end of the world, could always say it was a surprise lol!!!

good luck in what ever you decide

Thanks for the replies. I really don't want to have to 'pause'my career to wait to fall pregnant.

If I am lucky and fall quickly I will follow your advice and say it is a surprise. The only downfall is that I am subject to an assessed first year, but I can't be the only one who has had their children around the same time. Surely?

I recently turned down a fantastic opportunity because ttc#1. Similar situation to you in i wasn't reliant on maternity benefits, but in the end I felt what with the rest off "real life" outside work (we're moving house and will be further away from step kids so I'll have to step up and do morning drop offs etc) and the fact the company is very small, I didn't want to shaft them.

I met with the director and told him exactly where I was and why I was going to trn him down and honestly it was te most positive conversation I've ever had, career-wise. He's definitely got a lot of time and respect for me now, and as good as said the door is open once all this baby stuff is resolved (if it's ever fucking resolved that is, my shit shit sub-fertile body is letting me down!)

Obviously it's your choice, but I have to say how positive it felt to say "no" and I really think I've laid some very strong foundations with that firm and done my credibility no end of good.

Good luck!!

I am not working at all at the moment and so this would be my first qualified position after finishing my degree. Obviously there is no guarantees with the job but I wouldn't want to be viewed as pissing them about. They are a large private company who are growing so the opportunity would almost definitely. ome up again. My newly qualified year ideally should be 12 straight months assessed so I guess it would be an inconvenience for them if i left on maternity leave.