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Facebook has ruined my day!!

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Jenjenwoo · 05/08/2014 08:16

So I woke up thus morning knowing I didn't have to go to work (great feeling) as I laid in bed planning a day of dog walking and housework I decided to pop on Facebook and see if anything interesting is happening (I'm nosy)

Wish I hadn't bothered, up until going on Facebook I hadn't had a single pregnancy thought, it just felt like a totally normal day but Within minutes of been on fb I had seen 4 posts of people announcing their 20 week scan results and the due date of their healthy baby boy/girl.

This now means my day will unfold the same as yesterday and the day before that, the same way my days have played out for the last week - continuously obsessing over possible pregnancy symptoms, google searches of inspirational stories of women that got their BFP very late, wondering what's wrong with me if I'm not pregnancy and then telling myself to relax and try to forget about for a few days secretly thinking that if I do then in a couple if days time I'll get my BFP!!

Why is it that when you want something soo bad it seems like everybody else has it and that they got it so easily! I know this isn't the case, for all I know each of those 20 week scan announcements could of been the result of many months if disappointment or assisted conception but just feels like someone is playing a nasty trick on me at the moment!

Sorry for the rant xxx

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Pimpf · 05/08/2014 08:18

I know it must be hard for you, but you can't stop other people from being pregnant or wanting to share their happiness.

Maybe stay off fb for a while.

monsterowl · 05/08/2014 08:24

Really sorry to hear this! FYI studies of FB have shown that it makes people unhappy precisely because it encourages us to compare ourselves to others. So stay away :) Hope you get your BFP very soon xx

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Jenjenwoo · 05/08/2014 08:25

I know, I wouldn't want to take that joy away from anybody and if I get to that point I would scream it from the rooftops. It's just been an all consuming 7 days and waking up this morning and having ten mins of not a single pregnancy thought was lovely. A good friend announced her pregnancy yesterday and I'm over the moon for her.

I'm sure I'll mellow out as soon as I've walked the dog and fully woken up xx

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Choccyhobnob · 05/08/2014 09:24

How late are you? I'm 6 days late and tests all negative Sad

monsterowl · 05/08/2014 09:36

I don't usually contribute to these sorts of threads, so apologies if this is exactly the WRONG thing to say - but a friend of mine conceived her first baby only on her fourth, last-ditch IVF attempt. She is now pregnant with her second child, conceived naturally. (This is the second person I know who conceived using IVF and then fell pregnant naturally.) Another friend had a daughter (conceived naturally!) a couple of months ago after she and her husband had been trying since mid-2009 - they had tried loads of things without success. Jenjenwoo and Choccyhobnob, I hope you have your success stories very soon ... and Jenjenwoo, get off FB and treat yourself to a nice lunch (not right now, obvs)! x

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Jenjenwoo · 05/08/2014 10:15

Thanks for the advice guys, I'm not going anywhere near Facebook for the rest of the day!

My dog walk sorted me out, feeling better about things, we have an appointment at the fertility clinic later this month so will just focus on that.

I'm 14 days late choccyhobnob. I haven't taken a HPT since Saturday, they have all been negative but I of have unusual symptoms which lead me to think I might be preggers.
I I'm ridiculously tired, my tummy is bloated and uncomfortable, I have had AF like cramps on and off for 2 weeks, trapped wind, weird taste in mouth and everything smells of urine which is disgusting!

I do have long cycles they are normally 42 days and today is CD56.

I am going to pop to super drug and get one of their tests to do in morning.

Are you having any symptoms ?? I hope you get your BFP.

Xx

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BobsyBoo · 05/08/2014 10:34

I know exactly how you feel Jenjenwoo I don't go on as much now for that reason. There was two announcements in the last couple of weeks & it made upset me as we've been trying for over 18 months. We have already got a beautiful DD but she's about to turn 4 & really want a sibling for her. These 2 pregnancy announcement were 2nd & 3rd Babies & both were pg with their first after me.

Hope you get your BFP.

Choccyhobnob · 05/08/2014 14:03

I think all my symptoms are imagined! But bloated, gassy, achy back and legs, odd cramps a bit lower down than my usual AF ones. I'm drinking and weeing a lot but I think that's all down to the heat, nothing more!

I won't be too devastated if it's not my turn this month I would just like to know what my body is doing!

doobeedee · 05/08/2014 17:59

Don't forget that the ones doing the announcements may have been trying ages too. We tried for about 18 cycles and eventually had to take Clomid. No one knows this and assumed we timed it really well for the school year as our baby was born in October. Cue loads of witty remarks about good timing. If only they knew...

Pimpf · 06/08/2014 09:25

As doobeedee says, they could also have been trying forever, and as you've said, when it happens to you, you'll want to scream it from the rooftops and you have every right to, but remember one of your fb friends might be going through the same thing as you.

Avoid fb for a while. And I hope your symptoms turn out to mean your pregnant. Good luck

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