Hi ginger. I know you know me from another thread but just in case anyone jumps on here because of the title... We were ttc for 20months. We had tried everything and some months were just absolute hell. Some of the times we 'had' to dtd were just awful ... Well awful to get going anyway. I am do lucky my DH managed every time.
He was desperate for a baby and it broke my heart seeing his face every month. That was the hardest part.
We went through all the tests (fortunately with fairly competent healthcare workers so no messing around).
On month 20 we had a laparoscopy, we had both been on vits for 6weeks ish (I'd been on folic acid the whole time of course), we used preseed, had reflexology, used opks and dtd every day around ovulation. I also gave up drinking. We got our BFP finally. I'm now only 6+2 so keeping everything crossed but it did FINALLY happen.
I remember hideous milestones like buying folic acid on 3for2 but thinking i'd never need them all as I'd been on pg vits soon - I bought folic acid loads more times. I did countless pg tests due to phantom symptoms. I cried so much. I avoided some relatives who I knew were desperate for us to be pg.
... But we got there! I should say, even though we did loads the month we did get pg there were other months when I did loads of things too. For me, it was either the lap or more likely just my time. Other than dtd, I'm not sure about the rest of it but it helped me feel in control.
I really hope this helps people as this forum kept me sane through it all.
Good luck! It can happen!
I am due on 20/3 which is the day after my lovely dad's bday.