POAS Anonymous: The story continues

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A new thread for anyone who needs support to not POAS until 12 dpo!

[freshstart4us]

Arrgghhh I'm ready to scream, and this seems like a good place! CD25, sometimes AF shows up at CD24, sometimes not until CD29. And not sure if I ovulated this month as we went on vacation and I was trying to be all related about things... So now I'm going mad, want to test but daren't. This TTC cycle 4. Every sensation in my tummy has me convinced AF is on her way but hating that idea.... Going slightly mad already!

[freshstart4us]

*relaxed not related!

[RedBunny]

Hey freshstart! Do you know when you usually ovulate? So you have an idea how many dpo you are? It must be over 10 though if you're expecting AF I guess. If you are 12dpo or more you can test!!! That is allowed!! (I usually cheat and test early anyway)

[freshstart4us]

Thanks RedBunny, I'm usually just a "wait til I'm late" tester, hadn't really thought about it from that perspective! Usually OV around CD10 or 11 but that can fluctuate, am currently probably 14 dpo or so. As I didn't test while on holiday, I can't know for sure. Feeling crampy, bloated and moody now though so 75% sure AF is on her way. :((

[Spangila]

Hello. It's my first post. :|

Trying desperately not to POAS. I'm 9 dpo and expecting AF in 4 days though not entirely convinced I didn't conceive last month. My last ovulation test came up negative so my (possibly stupid) question is if you have conceived, will an ovulation test turn up a negative result?

Also worried that after such a long time taking the pill (which I came off in November 2013) that perhaps it's the menopause. I'm 44.

(Be gentle with me)

[freshstart4us]

Spangila you pose some interesting conundrums. Can't answer the ovulation-negative-test thing but if it's any consolation, 44 would be very early for menopause these days. :) With the improvement seen in diet and women's general health in the last century or so, menopause has been creeping back, and the average age in the UK, Australia and the like is 51. Like general fertility though, genetics are the best indicator, so best guide will be the age your mother and maternal grandmother went through it.

(PS If you do POAS, here's sending you a bundle of positivity for a BFP!)

[Spangila]

Aww thanks freshstart4us. I'm guessing you don't ovulate once an egg has been fertilised but maybe I didn't pay enough attention in biology...

My mum is well in to her 60's and not really hit the menopause yet, plus I'm reasonably fit and healthy.

I've been very bloated for the last few week but maybe I've just got fat ;)

[newbie6]

Well me and hubbie got our fertility tests back and all good so I'm a little more reassured. Fingers crossed this will be our month! Good luck to everyone else x

[deeplybaffled]

Sounds like a few of us are teetering on the edge of POAS - have promised myself that I will wait till the weekend. Honest!

[Spangila]

I'm definitely waiting for the weekend. Promise..

[TerrysNo2]

Spangila welcome! I was pregnant last month and didn't know until I had 5 days of positive OPKs as they pick up the pregnancy hormone. I'd had what I thought was a period 2 weeks before that so assumed I wasn't. My pregnancy was ectopic though so that's why I'm still on here but in conclusion I would expect an OPK to be positive if you were pregnant.

[Spangila]

Big hugs TerrysNo2. Hope you get your BFP soon xx

[RedBunny]

That's good news newbie. Just waiting on that BFP then!!
Yeah spangila as terry says you'd expect to actually get a positive opk when pregnant as the hormones are very similar. Not until you'd be able to get a positive hpt though so you could test if you think you might be. Although I'm sure you've read already that some people have really short LH surges and maybe you did this time? Also I've read not all women ovulate every month anyway and it doesn't even mean anything is wrong, it just happens sometimes.
I have to say terry I think you're doing awfully well and being very brave. I've done so much bitching on here about losing my babies and you totally have my respect right now!!
Freshstart you are 14dpo ish? You have amazing willpower to always test when you're late!! I can't do it. I have to know if I'm getting AF. Though since last mc my periods are really really horrible so it is actually helpful to know if I should be expecting it I guess.

[TerrysNo2]

Thanks Red although I feel really sad about what happened I don't think it's my place to feel angry or sorry for myself as I have 2 amazing DCs already and a great life. I have said to DH though that I think I will probably get more upset about the result of the ectopic if we struggle to conceive as previously its been quite easy for us. The only thing that really makes me feel frustrated is that with my miscarriage, although I was devastated, I could tell myself that it probably happened because the foetus wasn't healthy and therefore it wasn't really a viable pregnancy and it felt more natural, like my body was doing what was right. The ectopic makes me because it could have been a perfectly healthy baby who just got stuck in my tubes. Does that make sense at all??

[RedBunny]

Yeah my first miscarriage was actually very sad but easier because it was just natural and happened when I was like almost six weeks. It was early, you know, it was just one of those things. The next was absolutely awful because I'd had a scan and seen my baby and the heartbeat and everyone assured me it'd be ok this time, and I had no idea anything was wrong until next scan. That was the worst. So I get what you're saying, for sure. It's hard. I hope we get good sticky babies soon.

[freshstart4us]

Terry and Red gosh you have both been through the mill with this. So sorry for your losses, and yes, as Red says, I hope we all get healthy sticky babies soon.

Was convinced last night that AF would arrive by morning, but she's still in abeyance, CD26 today, still not officially late though so like a couple of other posters I'm going to wait to the weekend. Fingers crossed for everyone!

[sebsmummy1]

I am 10 dpo and noticed some creamy cm in my knickers today. That is a pregnancy sign for me, but it was quite a small amount so I've decided not to test as I think AF arriving in a few days will actually be easier.

[RedBunny]

Yeah I'm not gonna hold off til AF is due. I'm a rebel. And I really like to POAS!! It's getting to be quite a hobby!

[freshstart4us]

Oh what a fun hobby Red! There with you though. I think we prob need to get get out more. Lol

[HappilyMrsR]

Great news newbie. Have you waited long for your tests? Just wondering whether to get me and DH checked out - I had good results from the 21 day test but not sure how to go about doing other tests and how long you wait before the GP will agree to it....

[newbie6]

Hi happily, I ended up paying for them privately so got the results quickly. It was £250 for me and hubby but I do feel reassured now. I think GP's if you push them though would hopefully refer you for tests but not sure how long you would need to wait? X

[HappilyMrsR]

Thanks newbie, really helpful. I would choose to do it privately so we weren't waiting as I'm sure nhs would insist on 12 months trying before they went ahead with anything. It's all so confusing! At least you now have peace of mind that it def will happen, just a question of waiting now! Good luck! X

[Lauren83]

Can I join you?

I'm 7dpo 5dp 2dt today

3rd ivf 1st with donor eggs (premature ovarian failure at 30)

We only got one really poor quality egg from the donor so not got much hope

Otd from the clinic is 4th Aug so 18 dpo but will be a miracle if I last til then

Good luck everyone

[RedBunny]

Welcome to Lauren!! I'm really sorry but I'm not smart on ivf. I'm not sure what all that means!!
But hopefully it will go well. So you are meant to be testing 4th august? I'm planning on testing the 31st July and I'll only be 12 dpo. That does seem like a really long wait for you!!

[Lauren83]

Forgive me too much time spent on ivf boards

Basically I'm 7dpo today (that's when the donors egg collection was so the equivalent of ovulation)

Clinics always give a long 2 week wait to cover late implantation and reduced the amount of chemical pregnancies I guess

I might join you and test at 12dpo :)

Good luck got yours and thanks for the welcome