Sperm donation!

[Lucie84]

Hi all,

My And my wife have a DS through sperm donation, he's a happy bubbly little boy!

He's four now and we want to try again for a sibling for our son!

Our sons donor is no longer in the place to donate again!

Were a same sex couple and my wife was always going to carry our 2nd child, over the years things have happened an now that no longer an option.

She is infertile, her brother has offered to donate for us, he has his own kids and does not want anymore, he want to do something that means a lot to his sister, and will be the child's uncle! But we have every intention to be open and honest with all our children.

We are a happy family of 3 with supportive family's who are all aware of situation and have no issues.

My reason for posting here? We're not TTC yet! I just wanted to hear some other views on what other people think?

My wife an I are in a civil partnership so she will get PR (parental responsiblity) of the child.

Thanks in advance :)

I would be carrying the child so no bio link!

hi lucie .i have no experience of this but the only problem i see is if your wifes brother maybe wants to be envolved .say when your baby a bit older and he tried to say tell yous how to disipline your child how would everyone feel .on the other maybe your brother in law feels .that seeing how your wife cant carry the baby .at least it would have a genetic link with her .i wish you and your family well whatever you decide. and familys come in all shapes and sizes .

Hi Lucie, what a lovely gesture from you brother-in-law, I think it's important to understand that nowadays the 2.4 plus dog family isn't ordinarily the norm, we are ttc and my partner has a step- daughter, son in law and a step-grandson and she is pregnant ATM and he also has2 teenagers from the same previous relationship but it's my first baby, hopefully!!!! Do what's right for you x x

Thank you both for your advice :)

My family is a bit everywhere
I've a half bro
A full bro
A full sis
A adopted bro
2 long term fostered bro an their little sister!

The main reason I was asking what people thought was because I'm an over thinker, and like to hear what others think incase I missed something :)

Good luck TTC fingers crossed for you!

I've a tendency to over think aswell, I sometimes get very very stressed and my boyfriend has to tell me off for letting hints blow out of proportion!!!!!!

I am not even pregnant yet and I am worrying about his family, money, my job, gaining too much weight, just for starters!!!!!!

I so badly want to be pregnant, I'm nearly 35 and I am also worried I'll be an old mum when I go into hospital!xxxx

My sister-in-law had her baby at 38!

I wouldent worry about it or try not to anyway.

I'm just like you I read into everything.

I wish you the best of luck xxxx

Thanks Lucie, I just wish that my partner didn't work shifts, I just want to be with child now!!!!!!
I just wish I was 5 years younger but then I wouldn't have my lovely partner.
I wish you good luck too, let's hope we both fall pregnant soon xxxx