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BF still no AF - and think I am going CRAZY

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Thankgoodness · 08/07/2014 08:45

OK so first of all I realise I have little to complain about but recently I have been feeling really down about the fact that the whole bloody world seems to be pregnant except me (slight exaggeration perhaps but still). I ache for a baby. It actually hurts that I want one so bad. Literally felt tears prickle my eyes when I saw a lady walking with a newborn in a pram yesterday.

But here's the thing:

  1. Sex is horribly painful. Like agony. I have been seeing a gynae and it is improving slowly but still far from pleasant. Frustrating and upsetting for so many reasons! So, obviously, hardly any of that happening.
  2. Have not had an AF since spring 2012, which is when I fell pg with DD. Am probably not even ovulating. Now this is almost certainly cos I am still bfeeding. Now I don't want to stop this as DD still seems to really need and want it and to be honest I love the closeness with her so don't want to give up just to get my fertility back. But I am starting to think that is the only way. I work and we night weaned but still nothing. Not a whisper. I don't want to wean her totally and then find I don't have another baby for some reason. It would make me too sad. Plus I have no idea how to wean her at the moment without some serious meltdowns - from both of us!

I know I am so lucky to have DD and I know I am very lucky to have such a wonderful bfeeding relationship and to have the choice about potentially returning to fertility but I can't help but feel so frustrated that my body hasn't got things going again!!!

Please be kind. I realise there are many women going through awful ordeals to get that first baby. I am not trying to say that what I am going through is comparable. Only that I am feeling sad and frustrated and in need of some kind words - and any advise to get AF back other than total weaning would be great!!!!

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MarvellousMayhem · 09/07/2014 04:29

I think many women can relate to feeling like everyone is pregnant or got a new baby when you are trying for a baby. You are not crazy Smile
Is there a particular reason you want a baby so soon? Eg your age? Your daughter I think is under 2? ( maths not my strong point!)

Thankgoodness · 10/07/2014 21:44

Thanks for the reply!

I am 31 so age is OK (tho I would like 3-4 babies ideally and if it takes ages to get fertility back, I should probably crack on). But that isn't the main reason. I also think 2-3 years is a great age gap, but even that isn't the main reason. The main thing is that I just can't stop thinking about having another one. And if I knew I would happily and easily fall pregnant in 6 months time then I could live with it but there are no guarantees.

In my heart I just feel so so ready to be pregnant again. But feel so powerless to make it happen! Sad

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Blondie276 · 11/07/2014 17:53

Don't apologise. I know exactly how you feel as I am desperate to have another and my DD is only 6 months!
I stopped BF in feb and got my AFs back in March and although they have been regular , I don't think I have been ovulating. Not the same situation but I feel for your frustration as I feel the same. The problem is when you decide you want something, not achieving it is hurtful no matter whether you have a child already or not. Don't feel bad about it.
I have started acupuncture to try and 'get my body working' and I have to say it has been amazing. Made me feel so great and revitalised. I've seen one that specialises in fertility so may be consider it ( I'll try anything that might help!)
I hope they return soon for you and I hope you feel better too.

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