To plan the wedding or not when TTC?

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Hello everyone,

This is my first post so hi!

I am having a dilemma about what to do. We have been ttc for 6 months now and engaged for a similar amount of time. We hoped to get pregnant before too long and have our first baby and then plan our wedding for late summer 2015. It now feels like the pregnancy may not happen any time soon and I feel completely in limbo as now don't want to book the wedding for next year in case I am pregnant! But want to get married!

We are due to have some preliminary tests done (SA for him & 3 and 21 day bloods for me) and then possible referral to fertility clinic. Partner had operation on testicles as a child and I have been queried as having endometriosis.

Has anyone else been in the same situation? I know there is no right or wrong decision but hearing some of your experiences might help. Thanks

PS I am 30 and DH 38

I would plan the wedding. You can always reschedule it later on if you do get pregnant and don't want to have the wedding then. Especially as you have problems conceiving, I would try not to put all other things in life on hold. What if you are unlucky enough to never get pregnant?
Also, why don't you want to be pregnant on your wedding day? I know that there can be plenty of reasons why you don't want it, but maybe it wouldn't really be that 'bad'?

Thanks for your reply fattycow. I think you are probably right, you can't put everything on hold when ttc. And I guess the pressure equals more stress and less chance of a bfp.

I guess I'm not keen on the risk of feeling unwell on the most expensive day of my life (and special/romantic etc!) and would like to wear the dress of my choice and have a glass or two of prosecco! But it comes down to the fact want a baby more.