Ready to ttc #1 just need to tell dh

[Purplecuddlykoala14]

Newbie here, not sure if this is the right place.
I always thought I didn't want dc but I think my clock has started ticking and i have been thinking about it a lot and that being a mum wouldn't be so bad.
However I am really struggling to have 'the talk' with dh. Most likely worried he'll say he doesn't want to.
Any advice / help would be much appreciated

I don't mean to sound harsh but I think if you're scared to talk to your DH about things like this, it probably isn't the right time to be having a baby with him. I'd work on improving communication between the two of you first. Doesn't he know you want children? Didn't you discuss it before you got married?

Thanks for the reply nomoretether. Not harsh at all. I didn't want my op to turn into a ramble! Yes we discussed it when we first got together - I didn't want any and he was happy to go along with it. That was 18 years ago and I was too young. For one reason or another the time has never been right to discuss it again until now. You're right need to work on communication, that is difficult as DH works shifts and is either not here or too tired.

Hi hun.
Before we got married my dh said he didnt want any more kids (he already had a ds from a prev relationship). I was heartbroken, i had fallen deeply in love with this man & took on his 3yr old ds as he were my own & i was only 19. At the time i just sort of agree'd and said ok thats fine....as ya do!! ....not
When we got engaged 2 years later i was over the moon, so excited about planning our big day & set the date for our wedding ect. At the back of my mind was the longing for a dc of my own, altho i love my stepson..it just wasnt the same.
Thinking about what to say & how to bring it up drove me insane.
We moved into our new home & i passed comment & said that the spare room would make a lovely nursery one day & smiled.
The reaction i got was not what i hoped for, dh said "no it wont, it wont ever be a nursery, i told you i didnt want any more kids". Again i was heartbroken, i sat upstairs& cried.
I made a decision & was prepared to call the wedding off, i explained to my dh that i couldnt go into the marriage knowing i would never have a dc of my own.
We argued, screamed & cried together that night.
After a long talk dh explained he was scared & he was left with his ds when he was only 6months old & was scared i would walk out on him like his prev relationship.
.....anyhow sorry for the long post....we got married & came off the pill on our 1st wedding anniversary & got my bfp the following month
Dh is besotted by our ds. I just wanted to share my story & say you just have to be open & beable to talk to each other. Xxx
Good luck hun xx

Took me a while to pluck up the courage to discuss it. We'd talked about it before but it was a 'well what about now' conversation, so it was quite scary. Just come out with it, that's what I ended up doing!

Thank you 1moretime and lavender20 for sharing. It has been driving me insane that's why I posted on here. And know that once we discuss it it won't be as terrible as I think it will be! I know he'd be a great dad and he probably says nothing as he thinks I don't want to. What scares me the most is being a bad mother ( I don't have much of a relationship with mine and worry that I would be the same) but that's for another thread.