frustrating pregnancy announcements

[PerpetualStudent]

So Im TTC #1, AF arrived today so into cycle 3 (no time at all I know)
But nevertheless am feeling bloated, crampy, tired & a but pissed off with the world. Am organising a hen party & at this point, up pops an email from the SIL of the bride to be - brightly letting me know she can be the designated driver because she's pregnant. Again.

Her baby is 4 months old.

sigh

So help me out here, let's vent a little - what's been the most insensitive/hilarious/awkward/heartbreaking pregnancy announcement you've endured when TTC?

SIL, who knew we had been trying for 14 months at this point, announcing her pregnancy to me, in front of her nct friends in soft play, then telling me it was ok if I wanted to cry. Cheers.

Oh dear, that sucks. It is so hard when AF arrives anyway let alone when you get announcements like that.

AF arrived for me yesterday and I was so positive about this cycle - I am organising a baby shower for one friend next Saturday and my best friend is due to give birth in a few weeks. They both fell pregnant straightaway and I am now on cycle 7 so just feeling pretty pants, imagined myself being pregnant by now. Still at least I can enjoy a few in the sun.

Hope you get your BFP on Sunday Gemerama!

Last summer I announced I wanted to try for a baby, fiance said not til this year as we haven't been together long enough, I cried.

A few weeks later as I was leaving the house to go to his family dinner he announces his sister is pregnant. He'd known for months and she'd found out she was 6 weeks preg after 8 weeks of dating.

I obviously did the grown up thing of crying and refusing to go to the dinner. Then came on that afternoon to really top things off. A year later we're finally trying and about to go into cycle4... never really forgiven him for making me wait since then! Not that getting knocked up after basically a one night stand is my ideal but we were engaged at this point!!

I miscarried my first pregnancy. A few months later DH was diagnosed with testicular cancer. He had to bank sperm and we were told that the treatment would probably leave him infertile. I thought I was coping quite well, until SIL sent her 12 week scan pictures in an email with the subject heading "Surprise!".

I had to leave work, pretending that I felt ill, because I couldn't hold it together. It all had a happy ending, but it sticks in my mind as a dark moment.

My best friend told people that she got preg quickly but because she knew I was struggling she told me she struggled too she just didnt want to admit that it wasnt instant. Now I like to think that everyone struggles really because it made me feel better!!

This is the most brilliantly funny thread for all the totally inappropriate reasons! I'd love to join in! I don't have a good story but will wait to hear more of yours!!

I am HATING the Facebook announcements. flip the news feed up and there's a new 12 wk scan OR the babygaga "my little girl is 26wks old and developing nicely".

its not that I'm not happy for these folk, I am, I don't know what problems they've experienced or how long they took to get pregnant.

its just galling after losing my baby. I'm jealous. people don't realise how something like that can halt someone else's day.

I don't want their baby, they're very lucky and I wish them all the best - all being well I'll have my day too - but not on FB - I'd hate to think someone struggling with TTC or after miscarriage was reading their news feed and crying!

that said, maybe I'm oversensitive still - I get in the car, pull down the sun blind and see airbag advice re: child seats - that has made me cry too!

I'm like this, ttc for 11 months now.. No luck. A close friend hasn't put on fb yet that she is pregnant, she has told us, and it really upset me. Hated myself for being so pathetic!! The fb announcement should be along soon I imagine. Kills me that these things seem to happen for others but not for me. I don't think I'd put it on fb for that reason - don't want to upset anyone else.

At 12 cycles of TTC and nada I'm definitely not doing any fb announcement if I do get pregnant. Also will be texting my friends who are also TTC without success so they don't get a face to face ambush.

One of my colleagues got pregnant first cycle with her first baby. We had a works cocktail night while I was trying to conceive and she was having a strop that she hadn't got pregnant yet and had been trying for ages. I had been trying for longer than she had took me 16 months in the end. I was pregnant by the time she went on maternity leave but still wanted to give her a slap!

I held it together for about 10 minutes, then made my excuses, came home , cried, and to cap it off DH thought I was being unreasonable!

We have been ttc#2 now for 23 months.
Last week, 4 close friends and colleagues made pg announcements. Some have had 2 babies while I'm trying to have one. It sucks.

My BIL and his wife are trying for another baby (their first is under 1 and they will get pregnant easily super health freaks). Me and DH have been trying for two yrs (ttc #2) and MIL knows this but constantly compares BILs wife to me who is a better parent, breastfeeds on demand and adores her son blah blah blah. I understand your frustration OP. It's shitty.

I dunno why most of my post has a big cross through it. Never mind. Its still shit.

It is shit.

I think the worst one was when one of my best friends had called me to announce her pregnancy just as my periods had disappeared for no apparent reason at about cycle 9 of trying. She didn't know we were trying (I didn't want people asking if there was any news every time I spoke to them!), and of course I was happy for her, but sad for me at the same time. I did get pregnant a few months after though.

Found out this afternoon that BIL and SIL are upduffed by 6 weeks following her eptopic pregnancy that resulted in surgery after she m/c'd in February. Am extremely happy for them but utterly, utterly jealous. Esp as my cycle is all kaput atm and I know deep down I'm far too fat to get preggers. Nevertheless, I've been a bit of a green eyed monster all afternoon.

I understand completely OP, I really do.