Anyone else out there about to embark or has had IVF?

[Nelli30]

Hi there, My dh and I have been ttc for 2 1/2 yrs. We caught a couple of times but unforntunately lost both babies. We have had all the tests and I have had a laparoscopy which have all shown that nothing is wrong. I get so very down about it sometimes, to be honest most of the time. I work in a surgery so am constantly involved with new pregnancies, births and even terminations which is so very hard to deal with even though obviously I know you just have to detach yourself from it. We have IVF booked to start in November/December and I was wondering if anyone out there is in the same boat or has had IVF and could enlighten me as to what to expect. I feel a mixture of emotions, scared, excited, terrified of it not working, disappointed that we have been unable to conceive naturally, especially as my dh has a 7 yr old already (conceived naturally) I'm just very mixed up and also I have read that alot of people have tried clomid, but we were not offered this option by our consultant and wondered if its something we should look in to?!
Thanks for listening once again!!

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hi nelli. can't be long but just saw your note. my dd was successful 2nd attempt ivf baby. best of luck. will catch up in a bit.

Haven't had IVF but some colleagues have - one now has twin boys aged just 1 while the other has a 2 month old boy. Girl with 2 month went through a lot of sessions before being successful - her one big bit of advice (I have another friend trying) was to remove stress from your life as much as possible. Good luck. I'm sure you'll get some good advice on here from people who have been through it.

i agree. my 2nd attempt was "technically" worse than the first one so never believed the embroys would survive. the difference was me. i had reflexology and reckon this is why we were successful. recommended session to a friend just before she was to embark on ivf and she became pregnant naturally... like you she has nothing physically "wrong" with her.

My colleague swore by acupuncture!

hi iam on the injections prior to ivf is there anyone who has also been on them? im on first month had pregnyl injection monday started to bleed today i dont know whats happening
Paula

We tried for 3 years to conceive, but I have polycystic ovaries so this was never going to be easy. We started on Clomid - no good and spent many more months than recommended on it with varying doses. Then had a laparoscopy to check that PCOS was the only battle we were trying to overcome. All ok. Numerous sperm checks for hubby all ok too. Eventually were referred for IVF in March 2005, the day after our NHS trust agreed to fund one cycle. Started the treatment in May/June last year doing injections (oddly the first step was to be put on the pill....!). I was very nervous about doing the injections. Not because of a needle phobia, but because it seemed such a responsibility to inject it correctly - so much to remember if you've had little experience of injecting - and if it was going to fail then I didn't want this failure to be because of my inability to inject the drugs properly. For a few weeks our world revolved around drugs and the timing of injections (as opposed to our previous life of constantly peeing on sticks and having sex at certain times). On the 7th July when the bombs went off in London, I was working in the City and was having major panic attacks at being able to get home again to inject at a certain time. From then on I took all my injecting kit to work with me! Anyway, we carried on, I responded well to the drugs and had 12 eggs collected. The same day, hubby provided his sample, and we left the clinic awaiting a call the next day to see if any had fertilised. I made DH answer the call from the embryologist who confirmed that we had 9 fertilised eggs!! Went in the following day for embryo transfer. 2 Grade 1 embryos were transferred and 5 of the others were of good enough quality to freeze. Two weeks later I did a test - positive!!!! The next 2 weeks I found even harder than the 2 weeks prior to testing as we had to wait for a scan to see how many had implanted and whether they were ectopic. The scan revealed that we had lost one but that one little fighter had implanted correctly. It's bringing tears to my eyes now repeating all that happened to us this time last year, but we are now parents to a gorgeous son born in April this year. As a 35 year old I know my time is limited, but I am comforted by the fact that we have other embryos frozen so may try again - although I realise how incredibly lucky we were with our first attempt in view of the success rates for IVF not being higher than 30% at best. Good luck with whatever path you choose - I tried not to let it take over my life (difficult, I know) and always assumed it hadn't worked because the odds are always against you from the moment you step on the IVF road. I hope it all works out for you. Sorry for waffling on, it's been quite therapeutic going through it all again. HTH!

Hi Nelli30, I have two adorable kids, both IVF. I had my first at the ripe old age of 39. It was a 3rd attempt and initially I was carrying triplets (just a few weeks), then 2 heartbeats were detected and a little later just one. I was ok with that because all I wanted was A baby. Anyway,I did end up being incredibly lucky. I was actually bed bound for three months after the first 6 wks of pregnancy due to bleeding and then to cap it all my little girl was born 11weeks prem at just 2lb 11oz. Do not give up hope. I will also add that although this was a 3rd attempt, we did the IVF treatments one after another (while all the bodily functions were used to it IYSWIM). Injecting was not an issue as it was a means to and end and yes ut is a stressful procedure but you HAVE to relax, I know that now and it will help you. I went on to have a DS 3 years later who was a first attempt. Bingo! There are so many injections to do and so many blood tests to have but be positive, it can cause a lot of heartache when it doesn't work but put it behind you and see it as another step closer, go for it again. Sadly I NEVER had any eggs suitable for freezing. But no matter, what it is harder to give up on the IVF quest than it is to carry on. I wish you all the luck in the world and more.