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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Weethree · 02/06/2014 12:58

I promised myself I wouldn't do this this time around, but here I am again with my am I/ aren't I pregnancy thoughts going round my head all day every day!

Feeling very sicky for a good few days but still hungry at the same time, sore boobs, want to cry about everything and have had a mild but constant headache. Feeling pregnant but think it's all wishful thinking as it's unlikely it has happened naturally. Don't have regular periods so don't have a date to go by for POAS and doubt I even ovulated so feel stupid for even getting my hopes up Hmm

I'm due to start clomid soon but wish I didnt have to go through it all again and that I was already pg.

Really annoyed with myself for falling into this trap again, anyone want to join me in a pity party Smile

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1moretime · 06/06/2014 22:30

Bless you jbee
So sorry to hear of your loss. Thanks I feel your pain.

I will keep everything crossed for you hun. Are you going to test tomorrow? Or wait to see if af turns up first?

Your DH sounds so caring, kissing your tummy etc & is bound to feel down & upset about the other announcements.
I really hope it happens for you both soon.

They say you have vivid dreams when pregnant so lets hope it is a sign for you.

Do you know when you ov this cycle & did you dtd lots? Xxxx

jbee1979 · 06/06/2014 22:56

Weethree, I don't want to make you sad, I'm sorry! I'm so grateful to have found this thread. I'm glad to find a fellow bin-rummager (you do go back for extra looks in the bin, don't you, it's not just me? Lol). I'm 34, stopped pill in Nov, AF 05/12, BFP in Jan - 33 days later. The nurse in recovery after ERPC said we must be very fertile as a consolation - I have no evidence of that and last 2 AFs have been 2 days long. No other children - took my time finding my Prince Charming Grin

1moretime - we DTD lots when I had o pain, and CM, DH lost the will after that - every time I looked at him he thought he was going to get jumped on!! We went back to Sunday mornings and I vainly hope the swimmers would last 5 days at least!!

I'm probably just settling down after MMC - but I wonder do I have PCOS - dr hinted at that before...

Will definitely be testing again tomorrow - it's a compulsion!!

I don't begrudge everyone else's happy news - I don't want THEIR babies, just ours, and I know now not to take anything for granted. I thought 12wks was "safe" - pregnancy is hard to attain and a lottery to keep hold of. Glass half empty - I'm sorry. We'll get there. Can't wait to meet baby Einstein after my dream!! Grin

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Weethree · 06/06/2014 23:11

That's ok I'm a bit of an emotional wreck anyway! Sorry just realised I interrogated you, I was just wondering about the details to see whether it was worth you doing anything more just yet. That's good that they think you are fertile and you are probably right that your body is just settling down but may be worth talking to your doctor about whether your ovulating and whether you may have PCOS. Mine has only just been diagnosed, god knows how Hmm

Please come back and update us and I will keep everything crossed that you get a BFP Smile

P.S yes I'm a bin rummager!

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Weethree · 07/06/2014 14:32

Got a BFN this morning Sad

Hoping for better results for the rest of you x

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jbee1979 · 07/06/2014 17:09

still BFN here too - although I have imagined the faintest of lines all day - I took a picture of it and kept the stick - I think its a crease in the internet cheapie, they're so flimsy! no AF yet so I'm still in the running.

going out tonight to celebrate DH's birthday. I will be having wine - I expect to have a nice dark FMU in the morning, when its still BFN I'll call it a day and try to stop POAS everytime i go upstairs!! lol

Inshock73 · 07/06/2014 17:20

Can I join the pity party? Been ttc for a year now, got pregnant first month last year followed by a mc at 9 week. Had all the tests done everything is normal, DP had sperm test his swimmers are in good shape, my cycle is like clockwork every 26/27 days so why the frigging hell isn't it happening?? Only disadvantage I have is my age I'm 40, but based on my health (Bmi of 22, eat healthily etc) and test results there's no reason for it not happening. I wen paid to see a consultant privately six months ago and he advised against ivf because he felt strongly I would conceive again. :(

Inshock73 · 07/06/2014 17:25

Anyone seen the film Bridesmaids? And that part at the bridal shower when the new friend gives the bride to be a trip to Paris an the old friend speaks out? I've had so many friends and colleagues announce their pregnancies or have babies in the last 18 months I swear the next announcement I have to endure might jut be greeted with the 'Your fucking kidding me' line :)

stubbornstains · 07/06/2014 19:28

I have been known to put my test stick in the bin, take it out again, put it in the bin, take it out again, prise the little plastic cover off the front to be able to stare at it even closer, put it in the bin, take it out again, march down to the kitchen and throw it way down into the main kitchen bin that's full of thrown away porridge and other yuckiness so I can't rescue it....and still come back later and peer hopefully into the rubbish to see if I can spot it for another look! Blush

Inshock73 · 07/06/2014 19:33

Hi Stubborn :) I've been known to do that too! And worse!! I've carried the sticks around in my bag for days and kept looking just in case they look different in a different light.

ContentedSidewinder · 07/06/2014 19:46

Just wading into this as I have/had irregular periods due to endometriosis.

When I was TTC I bought on-line testing sticks, peed into a little cup every night at 6.30pm and dipped the stick. When it showed I was ovulating my period was exactly 14 days afterwards.

My cycle could be anything from 24 to 45 days (thanks endo) so predicting when the right time to DTD for the best chance to conceive was difficult.

I don't know if this would help anybody but it helped us narrow down exactly when to be shagging like mad Grin

Good luck to everyone and sorry for your losses and sadness.

1moretime · 07/06/2014 19:54

Sorry AF turned up weethree & jbee
I will keep my fingers crossed for your bfp tomorrow morn jbee!!

Sorry about your mc inshock Sad
Haha! Your fucking kidding me! Love it.

stubborn iv done the exact same thing, i convince myself i can see a line all the time.

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Weethree · 09/06/2014 10:26

Welcome I shock Smile
Sorry things aren't happening for you, must be so frustrating.

Well I'm still feeling really sicky and have sore boobs, want to cry all the time and feeling like crap generally. Really don't know what's going on and I have absolutely no cycle to go by so not sure what to do now Confused

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stubbornstains · 09/06/2014 19:06

I guess the final resort is going to see your GP.At least they'd be able to confirm you're definitely, definitely not pregnant. Maybe POAS once more before you go.

I think charting could still help you even if you have irregular periods, as you get clear signs as to when you have ovulated (I don't think the cervical mucus thing is as telling when you have PCOS though, as apparently you get loads anyway...?)

I bought "Taking Charge of your Fertility" a couple of weeks ago, and found it v. informative- it has lots of info about the differences you might see if you have PCOS, too. It's also got its own website, where you can plot your chart online, with some v.v. well-informed moderators on the forums.

It has actually helped me see what was going on with this stoopid delayed-ovulation cycle I seem to be having at the moment- and helped me to confirm that I have indeed ovulated, just 2 weeks late Hmm

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Weethree · 09/06/2014 19:22

That's interesting Stubborn, thank you I will have a look into that. I have made an appointment with the GP but have to wait nearly 3 weeks Hmm atleast I will know one way or another by then.

The one good thing is, they are going to start me on the clomid soon and then I will be monitored by blood tests to check for ovulation so atleast I will know what's going on then!

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ClaireF2013 · 09/06/2014 19:30

Can I join in, please!? Not able to talk to anyone in real life, either-that would just add to the pressure. I am currently in my first two week wait. My periods can be irregular (5-6 weeks, depending on what Aunt Flow feels like doing!!) so I just took a rough estimate to work out my ovulation date and kept an eye on my cm.

I feel sore down below, and my right boob has had a very odd tingling/strange sort of tickly pain on and off today that has caught my attention-but then these could just be normal and I am only taking notice now! So frustrating :( I had to stop myself going mad and buying tons of tests today...! Is there really any difference between the Superdrug sensitive tests and the sensitive ones on eBay? The ones on eBay claim to be the same as the NHS uses, BUT I am a nurse and have done quite a few tests on pregnant women at work that have showed as negative! I can't wait to be able to test. I know it is ridiculous, as such a small chance with the first cycle, but you never know...

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Weethree · 09/06/2014 19:41

Of course Claire, welcome Smile

Have a Wine and join in with the symptom spotting, agonising waiting and total brain consuming thinking about it all the time!

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ClaireF2013 · 09/06/2014 19:53

Thank you! You are right, it is agonising. I don't know why I am even so broody all of a sudden, it is like something has just gone off inside my head! My husband has always been very broody, but has been waiting patiently and never complained (he is 27, I am 26). I was not on the pill, so hope that increases my chances!?! Argh, it is horrid!

1moretime · 09/06/2014 20:15

Weethree.. .3 weeks wait for a doc appt..thats shocking!!
I hope you get sorted soon hun & get some answears.
Once you have the blood tests you will beable to see if you are ov or not & then advise on what steps to take next.

Taking charge of your fertility sounds interesting stubbornstains think i will have a look.

Welcome claire the 2ww is horrid...i find myself having every preg symptom going & convince myself that this is it!! Lol. Im 6dpo going by fertility friend & have lotsa dc & cramps..boobs are a bit tender too.
I have pcos & irreg cycles too Sad but comfirmation of ov would in itself make me happy. As i have pcos tho i dont know if i can rely on bbt xxx

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Weethree · 10/06/2014 21:14

Thanks 1moretime, trust me 3 weeks is standard where I am Hmm

Well I feel like I've got AF pains today, God knows if it's actually on its way though. Also got really sore and swollen boobs, could also be AF th

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Weethree · 10/06/2014 21:15

Oppps sent too soon...

Could also mean AF is on it's way, so frustrating not having normal cycles!

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1moretime · 10/06/2014 21:30

Could be AF or pregnancy symptoms weethree.
I will keep my Fingers, toes & eyes crossed for you....cant say il keep my legs crossed coz i def wont!!Grin

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Weethree · 10/06/2014 21:52

Thanks 1moretime

Fingers crossed will be just fine Smile

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Weethree · 12/06/2014 13:51

Hows everyone doing?

I'm not sure what's going on with me, spend half the day feeling sick and half wanted to eat everything, sore and swollen boobs, sooooo tired, really really bloated to the point of not being able to wear my normal trousers as they are digging in but I've lost weight??? Also having period type cramps and pains!

Wish I could get a BFP to go with these symptoms Smile

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jbee1979 · 12/06/2014 20:10

How long since last AF? :-) no BFP here but I reckon I got my first evap line today. Only a squinter with 20/20 vision could see it!! I forgot to check it - was too busy eating chocolate cake while DH went out to see his dad. CD 39 today :-/

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Weethree · 12/06/2014 20:22

Havent had an AF for nearly 3 months but that is nothing new! I was told by the consultant you can ovulate without having a period so I'm hoping that's what happened with me.

That sounds positive (excuse the pun) take another test in a few days maybe? Smile

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