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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Tww starts tomorrow!

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Birdtable · 31/05/2014 21:04

Anyone else?? Ovulation yesterday and today and been dtd lots!! Ttc #2 2cycle. Let's hope we get our bfp!!

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RedBunny · 06/07/2014 17:01

Pinpan my daughter doesn't sleep either. But she's always been an awful sleeper and I feel kind of immune to it and this is also why I'm like I'll just have a bunch of them, I'm used to not sleeping anyway! I have no doubt it will feel different when I go back to trying to stay awake breastfeeding at night but at the moment I'm ok with the idea!! I just need the baby to hurry up and appear.... Or babies if I do get twins haha!! You never know, I'd have them all done then and not need to do all this ttc trouble again!

ladyflower23 · 06/07/2014 17:16

Sorry some of you are feeling so down at the moment. TTC really does suck arse! OPKs have confused me, and the sex gone all wrong, so think my chances this month are out the window. On the instructions of my OPKs it says the test line being nearly as dark as the control line is a positive. Well I had that on Thursday, then on Friday they were the same colour and then yesterday darker than the control, then today lighter again, so not sure which day counts as the surge! I had pains on Fri night which stopped during sleep then came back for a short time Sat lunchtime. Whether any of that was ov, I don't know.
Last DTD on Thursday night. Tried again on Fri, but late at night and DH was too tired to complete. Then last night he was too drunk (in fairness I was pretty drunk to, but that doesn't effect anything). I have also had no CM of any kind for the last few days, so don't think there is anything to keep his sperm alive.
I am wondering if the pressure is getting to him. It's getting to me. I am wondering if it would be better if we just keep not using contraception, but I stop monitoring and it will happen when it happens, or it won't. I hate feeling stressed about whether I'm ovulating, how long my luteal phase is, and how even when we do manage to have sex 'at the right time' I still end up not pregnant. Would it be better to just try and not think about it and what will be will be?

pinpan · 06/07/2014 20:01

Maybe have a month off trying so hard ladyflower, and just jump on DH when you feel sexy (that's supposed to be a symptom of ovulating anyway, right?). I got crazy obsessed with the 2ww the first cycle of trying, and a bit obsessed the second one, then gave myself a good talking to and feeling much more positive about it this time round. Thanks

ladyflower23 · 06/07/2014 20:35

Ah thanks pinpan. I think I might try the casual approach and see how it goes.Am fed up with thinking about it!!

RedBunny · 06/07/2014 21:21

Ladyflower that's exactly how I'm feeling now- I don't think I can keep on trying so hard. I've been trying very hard for almost a year now. Maybe I need to take some time out.

ladyflower23 · 07/07/2014 08:22

I do sometimes wonder if the trying so hard is somehow preventing it from happening. I don't know how, stress, desperation or something?! But it does seem people who don't try seem to have it happen really easily. Having said that, last night DH was telling me about this patch you can wear under your armpit that measures your temp and tells you when you've ov'd. I haven't done BBT as didn't want something else I had to think about and do every day drive myself crazy with, but maybe a patch that does all the work and analysis wouldn't be so bad?! Or maybe i should just bloody well take a month off!!

ladyflower23 · 07/07/2014 08:28

OK, just looked at it, costs £249-£899 depending on what version you get, so that'll be a no for now! Looks really good though, apparently gives you 6 days notice of when you are going to ov, pinpoints exactly when you ov, alerts you to any problems with your cycle and does charts for your doctor! Maybe something for the future if the laidback/not caring approach doesn't yield any results!! With the really expensive version you get free pregnancy test kits. We'd probably make our money back from those he he!

daisysunshine2 · 07/07/2014 08:49

Well I never even had to POAS, work with AF on Sunday morning :( onwards and upwards! Sorry to hear the crappy times going on on here too :( TTC is the worst emotional roller coaster ever! X

ladyflower23 · 07/07/2014 09:35

Sorry af showed up daisy. Fx for bfps before end of summer!

RedBunny · 07/07/2014 10:21

Sorry about AF daisysunshine. Now I know I am out it is absolutely horrible waiting for AF to start properly so I can just move on to next month. I hate it! Ttc is too much waiting. Waiting to ovulate, waiting to be able to test, if not pregnant waiting for AF so you can get to waiting to ovulate again! I hate waiting. I'm very impatient!!

TerrysNo2 · 07/07/2014 18:30

can anyone tell me why my opk tests are still positive, that means I've had a positive test on Thursday, Friday, Saturday and today?!?! Confused I forgot to take one on Sunday. I'm really confused

ladyflower23 · 07/07/2014 18:58

What you using digi or one with lines? Four days is long for a surge. Could you already be preggo?!

TerrysNo2 · 07/07/2014 19:08

cheapies from Amazon, don't see how I could be pregnant as I had a period 18 days ago, a proper one too (heavy for one day then light for 2/3 which is normal for me) Just going to do a test in water to see what happens

TerrysNo2 · 07/07/2014 19:11

water test was negative!

RedBunny · 07/07/2014 20:37

You know I was looking at cheap opks online the other day and some website had different sensitivity opks. Which I thought odd and didn't have time to read properly but I think it had something to do with detecting lesser hormone? To give you more warning? Or maybe it's to do with estrogen kind of like the digital ones where they tell you your estrogen is rising so you have warning you're getting LH surge coming? I don't know. But otherwise that's odd. I don't think you can have an actual LH surge that long??

RedBunny · 07/07/2014 20:39

Oh no thinking back I'm sure I've read you could get a long surge if your body keeps trying to ovulate but it hasn't happened yet. Maybe that's it?? Do they usually work differently for you?

TerrysNo2 · 07/07/2014 20:51

I haven't taken any since we were trying for DD but when I did that (and took the same tests) I would get a positive for 1 or 2 days max. The test line is also loads darker than the control line everytime. I've just taken another one with really clear wee (so not concentrated at all like they recommend) and its still a strong line. I have been getting the barest amount of EWCM but usually I get loads of it and this is like once a day and a tiny smear?!?!? Confused I am very puzzled.

Oh and for the past 2 days I have been having lower tummy cramps, all across my tummy, at one point today I was bent over in pain and thought I was going to be sick. Its really odd, think I might start a new post to ask others too.

RedBunny · 07/07/2014 21:01

Does sound a lot like being pregnant then.... Are you certain your period was a period and not a breakthrough bleed? Had you taken a pregnancy test before that?

TerrysNo2 · 07/07/2014 21:13

yes I took one a couple of days before AF arrived and it was BFN

TerrysNo2 · 08/07/2014 07:14

here is this mornings OPK with FMU, which the pack says shouldn't even pick up an LH surge?!? I guess I'll do a HPT today although I really don't think or feel pregnant and I definitely had a period. The only weird thing about the period which I didn't think too much about at the time was that I didn't have any period pains like I usually do but as it was my first since coming off the pill I didn't think much of it (and I usually, esp pre-pill get really bad cramps).

This is so frustrating!! Esp as I expect to get a BFN and then I'll just be confused until AF arrives!

Tww starts tomorrow!
ladyflower23 · 08/07/2014 08:21

Hi Terry. Are those the Onestep tests from Amazon? I wonder if they are very sensitive. I am using them this month and got one day almost as dark as control (which they say counts as a positive), one day same as control and 1.5 days darker than control and then it went back to lighter and I haven't tested since then. I also had positives with FMU. I agree with redbunny, might be that you are trying to ovulate, and that also might be what the pain is. I would defo do a HPT to rule out pregnancy though...which could also explain the cramping. It might well be neg, but at least then you can definitely rule that out.

TerrysNo2 · 08/07/2014 08:48

yes they are the one step tests from Amazon.

RedBunny · 08/07/2014 09:06

AF here today!!!! I'm going to the doctors as it's been so heavy and painful since my last miscarriage I went and got some painkillers last time for it so am going to ask for more. I'm also going to ask about the spotting for days before AF. I'm worried that might be a problem, and now I know it is happening every month I shall check.
I hope it's a nice sympathetic doctor and not one that will make me cry. I feel emotional enough as it is....

ladyflower23 · 08/07/2014 09:22

Oh I'm sorry Redbunny. Yes go to the docs and get to the bottom of the spotting. You don't need something else to worry about. Maybe cry as you walk through the door then they have to be sympathetic Smile Let us know how you get on x
Pinpan? How many DPO are you now? Are you going to crack and POAS soon?

TerrysNo2 · 08/07/2014 09:30

Sorry about AF RedBunny , I think it's a good idea to go to the doctors as they are there for us all.

I feel a bit embarrassed sharing this here but I just got a BFP and I feel really confused about it all. I wanted another baby but I was supposed to be just seeing what kind of cycle my body is in for a couple of months and then start properly trying and I'm so sorry that I've got my BFP and I feel like this when you guys are trying so hard. Basically what I want to say is I am going to post elsewhere as I am all a bit confused and I didn't want you guys to read it elsewhere as you've been great with your advice on here. I mean, I am happy too but just feeling a bit overwhelmed as I really really really was NOT expecting that.