am i bonkers? nipper number 4

[tiredmumov3]

hi just wanted others perspective on this.
we are 29 married with 3 kids 8 months 2 and 5 also had 2 miscariages in between.after tellin everyone that 3 kids is enough for us i find myself broody again even visiting the farm park and seeing baby piglets was enough to make me gooey a couple of weeks ago.we could just about manage financially my hubby would love another the only thing putting me off is that during pregnancy i get a kind of anxiety condition i worry that everyone is gonna die my house is gonna burn down or some other massive tradgedy is gonna occur my rationality goes out the window i know its my hormones and mothering instinct but its not a nice place to be.upon giving birth i return to normal and become sane again.i just dont know if i can go through this again but i really would like another and i know i am so blessed with the ones i have am i selfish to want more? i dont know what to do!

being totally honest I would ask how you would cope with three little ones and that condition?

you're only 29 and your baby is only 8 months old.

think i'd wait at least a year before taking any action, tbh.

i have an 8-month-old and she is scrummy, and even though i am 35, there's NO way i'd want to get pregnant again so soon.

Hi, doesnt your name say it all ?
Joking apart, i know how you feel.
my ds 1 is about the same age as your baby and I have 2 older ones. If someone could hand me a bonny newborn tomorrow, life would be perfect. Its the pregnancy thing that worries me. Very interesed to hear how you felt, thats just how I get too.
Get a puppy instead ?

dont get me wrong im not a raging lunatic during pregnancy and my kids arent even aware of how im feeling just my bloke. i can function normally and i guess if we are gonna have another i dont want big gaps.but on the other hand maybe i need to think about me too.

thanks mrsnoah nice to know its not just me. it goes so quickly after delivery that its hard to remember how bad it is but im just permenantly aprehensive on edge cant relax constantly worrying about ridiculous far fetched worse case scenarios but its only during the pregnancy.
i was having a bad day when i picked my nick name baby was teething lol

4 is hard work, especially with an only 8 month old too. You are right you need to think about yourself. I would give it some time and then see. even if you waiting 6 mnths it wouldnt be a big gap.

I had three kids and two miscarriages then got pregnant again. I love having four. Mine are 8, 6, 4 and 18 months. I have to admit it is really full on but then you're a decade younger than I. In your position I'd definitely go for it. If I were starting over again I'd want six kids but I'd start much earlier.

All the best.

I would go for it!! Wait a while till the newborn glow has passed - check out if you still feel like this and go for it you are young! I want six and hopefully will try soon!

i think we will have another go but its just timing and my head issues.

its weird i dont feel young at 29 i am older than most people i know with small kids i was 23 when i had my first one i guess i dont want to be pregnant forever i work aswell so thats a factor too.

Bonkers

Joking apart if it feels right for you then why not? I would wait a few more months till your youngest is a bit older, goodluck by the way

maybe we will get santa outta the way and then make a decision

If you are not sure right this minute, just hang on a little.
See how you feel in, say November. Its not long and your 8 month old will be at a whole new stage.
I dont think you are selfish to want more, and I am a firm believer of you just 'know' when you are done having kids.

ahh cheers thanks for that mrsnoah

I agree with mrsnoah,you know when you have had enough,i have four children and two step children,and after four that was it,i never felt broody again,even now i love to hold a tiny newborn but am glad to say goodbye,my poor nan bless her had 14,dont know what happenend to her,she had her last at 48 arrggg!!!!

Yes I agree. I know I've had enough after four but there was a time when I wondered if I'd ever stop feeling broody. It's a relief to not be broody for the first time in seven years.

I thought I was done after DS2 was born but by the time he was 3 I was really broody. Now I've got DS3 and I can't imagine not having another one so guess I'm mad too he's 6mths so don't want another one yet but give me another 12 mths and I could be trying It's being pg again that puts me off too, I'd say leave it a while and see how you feel.

Am loving these names!! Damewashalot LOL !!
Anyone reading this thread must be laughing their socks off to see all these women with names that speak for themselves discussing whether to have more kids!

Right, collecting names here and now for a November thread entitled..
"Am VERY seriously contemplating having another child. Who will join me?

1. Mrs Noah

hi i will join you great idea!

Can I join ? I'm kindof a newbie but posted a similar thread earlier in pregnancy section as I'm considering nipper 3 after 2 years of swearing blind I'd never do it again!

I would join you but my DH may object.
I have 3, Ds 7, DD1 5 and DD2 2. Have been ready for number for 18 months now. Told DH a year ago. Still no luck in convincing him. I'm not giving up just yet.