Does ttc get any easier?

[Purplelilly]

It’s my first month TTC but we’ve been really wanting a baby for a few years. We had to get into the right place in our lives so we could afford a baby and I could get maternity pay etc.

This month my head has been focused only on ttc. I have massive and incredibly stressful and demanding deadlines at work, yet I find myself skipping a whole night of sleep, without getting in to bed, so I can read up on pregnancy and looking for signs I might be pregnant!

After I read up on early pregnancy symptoms I realised I didn’t have any except a bit of cramping (which I always have due to IBS). Every morning I’d wake up and feel my boobs, hoping they’d be sore. One morning I squeezed my boob so hard I bruised it for days! I got excited I wretched in the morning and dismissed the fact I’d rammed my toothbrush down the back of my mouth being the cause.

I’m not the type of woman who does this! I’ve never been baby crazy at all and I am usually very pragmatic and logical about situations. This has taken over my mind! So ladies, as the months go by, does it get any easier to be level headed about ttc? Does it become part of a routine instead of the dominant thought in your head, all the time?

Please don’t say it gets worse!

Hi Purplelilly

I think once you've made the decision to ttc it's hard not to think about it. I think it's also hard as like you said, a lot of the symptoms can easily be linked to other things like AF or IBS if you have it.

This is my 5th month of ttc and I have found that in order to avoid disappointment, I try to distract myself with other things and to remind myself that twinges in my stomach or feeling sick could be anything. I also spent the first month thinking everything from peeing more frequently and getting spots might all lead to a BFP.

I would say it becomes part of your routine and to just try and have as much fun as possible baby making

It is hard to start with as it can be a massive anticlimax. You've lived your life so far being told that you WILL get pregnant if you so much as think about having unprotected sex. So to build yourself up to the right time and then it not happen instantly is unexpected and disappointing.
I think it changes as months go on as it becomes less exciting... But then you get neurotic when you think it isn't going to happen and turn into a monster when AF arrives.

In a word - no. I don't think it gets easier, sorry! You do get to a point where you realise you can't let it rule your life and you have to just get on with things (though that still doesn't stop me symptom spotting and obsessing every month!) But hopefully you'll get your BFP soon and won't get to that point.

Ive chilled out a bit now going into 3rd month, it is just that 2ww that is still the exciting bit, af arrives and I feel shit then I have a week or so of normality, odd glass of wine etc then back to it around ovulation. I've realised itmight be a long road so trying to just go with it now

Hahaha OP I had to laugh at your post, the invented symptoms is an absolute TTC must I think! Plus, like you say you can be the most rational person in the world and TTC will send you crazy! I can't understand these people who are able to relax all the way through it- I'm very jealous though!

I think it doesn't really get any easier, but for us we've definitely found that we've lost the excitement. At first we used to think that we would be pregnant every month but now we always presume that we're not! It's not even been that long really. I came off the pill in October, started trying in December, but my periods were all over the place for a while, so really this is only our 2nd proper cycle of trying with any chance of getting pregnant.

I think the best advice is try to carry on with life as normal. The more you restrict yourself with what you can/ can't do in case you're pregnant, the harder it will be when AF arrives- unless you're one of the lucky ones who gets pregnant straight away.

Good luck staying sane!!!

Well as difficult as it is, at least we know that we're not alone in our craziness!

I will try and distract myself as suggested and try and get into the mindset where I presume no pregnancy each month! I looked through 8 pages of google results trying to see if having an itchy finger was a pregnancy symptom this morning haha! So might not happen over night :)

I have a lot to learn about ttc, so will focus on understanding all I need to in these early months.

I hope you all get your bfp very soon!