I want a third. DP doesn't. Any tips on how to persuade him?!

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Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Did you have the third? And is it ok? I'm a bit worried that if I persuade him I'll be reminded of it every time the going gets tough!

If you stuck with two - did you make peace with that? How does it feel now? I don't want to be regretting not having a third in years to come.

I am 37 so it's a bit of a now or never situation.

Any advice gratefully received :)

If he really doesn't want another DC don't try and persuade him to is my advice.
Having 3 children is hard work. I love mine to bits but tbh if my third Dc had been born first then I wouldn't have had any more. She's that hard work.

Thanks cafe I have accepted that if he really doesn't want another then we won't but I worry I'll always regret it.
I am aware I am being ungrateful as I have 2 happy healthy children, but I always pictured having 3 and I'm having trouble letting go of that.

I have to disagree with cafe because I think you have just as much right to try and persuade him as he has to say no. If he absolutely does not want a third then it will soon become clear, but if he is unsure he may well change his mind once he has had more time to think about it.

I like your thinking busy :) - I'm going to make a good case for it but ultimately there is no compromise on this so I 'll have to stop at 2 if that's what he really wants.

I think I have anticipated most of the problems he'll have with it, and I have solutions for those but I guess he doesn't need reasons really.

That's my reasoning as well, we had a discussion the other day after accidentally getting pregnant but it then not sticking, he said what are your reasons, put forward a case and I said some people just want 3 ! There is no good reason really is there !

Anyway he has come round as I suggested leaving it until next year (I will be 37 ) but then dp is not good with surprises. He is better with things planned and I did erasure him about things like money and saving up for another one.

Reassure ! Not erasure thanks auto correct.

Thanks pretty glad you won your DP round :) Good luck with ttc.