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Hmmm..should i stop at 2 or try for a boy?

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noonar · 29/08/2006 21:51

I have 2 lovely dds aged 2 and 4. have always been really into stopping at two and being grateful for what we have and 'not going there' as far as trying for a boy is concerned...but this weekend seeing my brother's new baby made me broody. talk me out of it please!

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:02

bump..or no bump? pardon the pun!

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Scoobydooooo · 29/08/2006 22:04

Oh i am exactly the same, i have one ds who is 4 & one dd who is 7 1/2 months & i am very broody too, i know it would be the completely wrong thing to do but i can not think of my life without having another baby, dont care what sex though

On the other hand dp says noooooo so i would have to invite the postman in

Scoobydooooo · 29/08/2006 22:05

It really depends how you feel, do you feel your family is complete?

TooTicky · 29/08/2006 22:06

Have another baby if you want another baby, regardless of gender. I knew somebody who was trying for twins - the last I knew she had 10 kids and was going to keep on trying...
...admittedly, the chances of having a boy are greater, but some people do have 5 or more of the same gender.

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:06

it's easy to not bother about the sex if you have one of each tho, scooby! lucky you, my dear...i am lucky too, i know.

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Nemo1977 · 29/08/2006 22:07

mmm I wont be any help here as Iam always broody but I think if the feelings are quite strong you might regret not following them...however i am the pg one with a 8mth old and nearly 3yr old..lol

ja9 · 29/08/2006 22:08

don't try for a boy...

let go of all notions of a boy (easier said than done?)

and when they're gone, consider if you want a no. 3

Scoobydooooo · 29/08/2006 22:08

I know what your saying about the gender thing & it's also easy for people to say have a baby no matter what gender because i think deep down everyone would like to have the experience of having a boy & a girl. I know i am lucky but it has still not made me want to stop

bananaloaf · 29/08/2006 22:08

i have 2 dss. tonight i definatley do not want another one but tomorrow i will. if i had had one of each sex then it would have been a closed book. i am the only one in my group of friends that have a single sex family rest now all have a boy and a girl. trouble is unless you go in for gender selecation there is no garuntee and then will you want for number 4? i always said that if i had to healthly children by the time i was 36 i would stop. ds2 was born in March a month of my 36 birthday.

Scoobydooooo · 29/08/2006 22:09

Also what happenes if you have another girl? will you keep trying?

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:09

to be completely honest, if i knew i was going to have a boy, i'd probably go for it. trouble is, i'd like another pregnancy, but not sure how i'd manage with another baby. crazy, i know.

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Yorkiegirl · 29/08/2006 22:11

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Scoobydooooo · 29/08/2006 22:11

I knwo what your saying because i sit & think the same but then when i think of the reality of it all i think i must be mad, there is no way at this point in my life i would have another but when dd hits 2-3 i know i will be thinking about it alot

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:14

i'm definately not going to go on and on hoping for a boy. it's just not a healthy thing to do, imo. but i can't help the pang of envy i feel when people i know hve a boy. the irony is, with dd1 i was desperate for a girl, and couldnt belive my luck. then second time round, kidded myself thst i didnt mind either way..but i did.. abit...but of course i love dd2 dearly.

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wrinklytum · 29/08/2006 22:15

Quick hijack.Just hope you are doing ok yorkiegirl.Hugs to you and dds

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:17

yes, yorkiegirl, we've not chatted before baut i heard about your recent loss. i also hope you are bearing up. it must seem very trivial to you right now, reading threads like this.

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tegan · 29/08/2006 22:22

I have 2 dd's (8.4 and 2.4) and have decided with dh to start trying for another, if it's a boy great but I would be just as pleased with a girl.

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:23

good for you.i think that if we ever have another, i'd have to be really sure that we'd be equally happy with another girl.

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Yorkiegirl · 29/08/2006 22:24

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QueenEagle · 29/08/2006 22:31

We have 5 children. dd, ds1 and ds2 from my first marriage. ds3 and ds4 from this marriage. So dh has not got the girl of his own that he wanted (although my dd is his in every other sense except biologically).

I sometimes wish I was a few years younger then I might consider having one more as I love being pregnant and love babies. But I am now 36, and with my youngest coming up for 2 at xmas, I'm looking forward to him being out of nappies sometime during the next year, having him walk more than using the pushchair etcetcetc.... I want to work, earn money and have some time to myself so more babies has gone out of the window now and I/we are happy with what we have.

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noonar · 29/08/2006 22:32

you're right, yorkiegirl.

dh and i were just chatting, saying that having another child is like playing snakes and ladders...just when you think you're winning- ie getting your life back- you slide right down to the bottom of the ladder again!

on that cheerful note, good night all!

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pebblemum · 29/08/2006 23:08

Im in the same boat as you noonar except i have two boys. Dh and I would love to have a little girl. When i was in labour with ds2 the midwife was 100% he was a girl as was everyone i saw throughout the pg. She was so certain that she didnt even check when he was born. Im ashamed to admit i was a bit disappointed at first but that only lasted about 5 seconds, once i looked into his gorgeous eyes i loved him too much to worry about what gender he was. Now i wouldnt be without him, even when he is being a little monster

Dh and I have recently been discussing whether to go for baby no.3. We have already said that we would try all natural methods in order to increase our chances of having a girl but accept that it isnt fool proof. For a long time i didnt want to have another baby as i didnt know how i would feel about having another boy but now i know that i would love it regardless of its gender. The thought of never having another baby is much worse than worrying about having another boy.

I have always thought of having three children but until recently i was quite happy to settle for two as i didnt think i would want another boy but thankfully ive got over that. A baby is special regardless of its gender, i would never think about having another baby unless i was 100% sure i was happy to have another boy.

mrsnoah · 29/08/2006 23:40

I have 2dds and waited 6yrs before trying for another.
The way I see it is you cant lose.. You get a girl; 3 girls is great 20yrs+ down the line, get a boy and its a nice change but then do you need another boy to keep him company??
Having said that; we did try for a boy more out of fun than anything.... whispers(it worked)

mrsnoah · 29/08/2006 23:41

pebblemum I think your last line is very wise and wholeheartedly agree. Little people are little people regardless of their sex.

all4girlz · 30/08/2006 00:31

i have 4 dds 12 5 3 and 1
12 yr old from ex p

always wanted 2 close together with dd3 I really wanted a boy but was not to be.

dd4 was totally unexpected and i couldnot get my head round that the baby would be anything but a girl
She is the most gorgeous wonderful addition to our family but would not have planned another one it was fate I was back at work.
I would think more along the lines of being able to afford another baby both time and effort wise as well as financially, I feel a little guilty as I do not have as much time for my others but feel very forunate as I have 4 healthy girls and I am a SAHM for the next couple of years, do not yearn for a boy -- too busy vetting all the little boys in neighbourhood husband material lol!!
good luck with what you decide truth be known I would have another baby either gnder--if I was not getting on and we won the lotto!!

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