I'm back for a moan (sorry!)

[decafgirl]

Hello, I've been a way for a few weeks because dh and I decided we'd have some time just chilling out about ttc, no opks, no temps (although I'm rubbish at that anyway!) and no books, internet etc obsessing. Anyway, deep down I harboured a belief that maybe not thinking about it was another method of ttc. Maybe if I said I wasn't thinking about it, it would happen for us. I was wrong!

After having bloods taken at the start of this cycle (because my periods seem to come and go as they please) everything came back as normal (ha) so I just got on with things. We had more bd than usual and I really relaxed being away from work which is a cess pit of bitchyness and therefore very stressful.

Yesterday my body did something I'd never expected in a million years and started my period bloody EARLY! Of course I got all excited thinking it was an inplantation bleed but it's clearly not. I'm so p*ed off with life! I'm back at work next week so my stress levels will be through the roof again and I never know when to expect ovulation because this cycle has been 40 days but they can be as long as 67. I really don't know what to do.

I know so many people have been trying for much longer than me but every month that goes by is like a kick in the teeth. I'm frightened my dh is going to start blaming me and I haven't told any of my rl friends we're even trying so I can't talk to them about this either. Aaaagghhh!

Somebody please tell me I'm not insane!

DCG

i had same thing last month; early af. cycle went from 31 to 29, after i'd had a faint line on a first response 4 days before thought af was due (ie on day 27). af started off v lightly but hovvered around thru a week, and was too much to be implantation (obv i'd already had faint pos so wasn't anyway).

good luck for next month; frustrating innit

decafgirl

You are not insane!.

Have your periods been irregular like this for a long time?. If you have been ttc for nearly a year now then you should be referred as a matter of course.

I would start asking tough questions re the blood test (did the GP give you the results?)and ensure that the hormone levels tested (presumably they tested more than one hormone level) were actually compared against one another. Did they test your LH and FSH levels?. If they did both levels but did not compare them then the test is meaningless.
LH and FSH can be okay if looked at separately but it is only when compared that any abnormality is seen.

They need to test and compare LH against that of FSH.

Do you have a printout of your results?. You should have a copy or at the very least have these explained to you properly.

Irregular periods are often caused by hormonal imbalances; in this regard polcystic ovaries or its related syndrome are common culprits.

Have you been referred to a gynae; if not I would insist to the GP that you are referred asap.

It is all too easy to be fobbed off and you will need to be persistant in order to get answers.

Take the understandable frustration you have and use this pent up energy you have to get answers.