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To go for number 2

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 16:30

My bf is desperate to have baby no 2, our dd is 20 months and I love her with all the world. I can't decide if I'm ready for no 2 yet, as totally remember the tiredness etc. However, it took me a year to conceive her which included a miscarriage at 12 weeks, which broke my heart and made me totally shitless of ever loosing another baby and at that point even just being pregnant
Now 3 of our NCT group are preggers, bf is 43 so not getting any younger but am I ready?!!!

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 16:33

Oh and I definitely DO want more children, just do I want one now?Shock

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 16:35

Plus I may lose my job in sept as contract is up, so we might be hard up. But is there ever a right time?

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PurpleWithaMysteryBun · 22/04/2014 17:09

Just wait, if you want no.2 then the time will come where you feel ready IMO and waiting until September seems sensible.
I had a hard time Ttc no.2 similar story to yours accept mc at 10wks. No.3 was conceived first month and I am now 19wks. Fertility is highly random and I think it is more important that you feel ready in yourself rather than feeling pressured because your chums are having babies and DP is broody.

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 20:24

Hi Purple, thanks, I just remember when we were ready to start trying for dd, I wanted her there and then! And the wait was so frustrating! Shock
I just can't decide if I'm ready.Confused

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PurpleWithaMysteryBun · 22/04/2014 20:30

If you can't decide, why not wait? I think it would be worse adjusting to a pregnancy when you are not sure your ready. Much better to be overjoyed at the +ve rather than mixed feelings :)
I am sure broodiness will hit soon, as soon as they are a bit more independent/your getting more sleep it generally happens :)

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 21:17

I do think it definitely will happen soon, I loved being pregnant and would love to be again, there's just this fear of looking after two little ones! Wink

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PurpleWithaMysteryBun · 22/04/2014 21:58

I have really loved having two! Found one harder as they need all of your attention all the time. Also already used to not sleeping with no.2 and less worries as you have more experience, less of a steep learning curve :)

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 22:13

Yep I can certainly see how 2 play together.. In time anyway! We just got a kitten and that is teaching my dd that she's not the only small thing in the house, and for her to be nice and gentle so that's a good startGrin

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Stars66 · 22/04/2014 22:16

Just thinking how there will be none of that going for coffee and cake and sitting and chatting with boobs out cuddling baby, with no 2, it'll be chasing dd around soft play or park with boobs out Shock
And will there be time for baby massage, and the expensive classes I took her too?

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nickelbabe · 22/04/2014 22:19

I'm having the same problem now (dd is 28mo)

if it took a year to get dc1, then it might take as long again,.or it might be qyicker.

our dd only took.3 months so that's a panic too.

I.really want another, but don't know if I want to give birth again Shock
I had a really hard time.

but I want to do the baby thing again.

dh and I had unprotected sex last night. letting fate do its thing.

oh, and dh is 52 (was 50 when dd was born)

PurpleWithaMysteryBun · 22/04/2014 22:48

Stars baby classes and groups unfortunately are restricted for no.2. Unless you wait until oldest is at nursery, benefit of this age being they are better amusing themselves at soft play.etc
There is not the same luxury of time and napping as there is with DC1. I had a 2yr 10m gap with first two and it was lovely having some time with new baby while DD was at nursery and I benefited a lot from her being older and more independent.

PurpleWithaMysteryBun · 22/04/2014 22:49

Oh and a lot of groups are just for babies so you cant take a toddler as well :)

PurpleWithaMysteryBun · 22/04/2014 22:50

Good luck Nickel giving birth is daunting, however there is nothing to say it will be the same second time :)

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Stars66 · 23/04/2014 10:19

That's so true about the free nursery hours when dd hits 3, then we can have the time to go to said tiny baby only groups Smile

And please don't stress about the birth, as purple said you might have a very different experience, I certainly wouldn't let that put you off going for no 2. I'm not worried about the birth, I had a lovely relaxing water birth and felt very lucky that it was a nice experience, so will keep fingers crossed your next one will be like mine was! X

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nickelbabe · 23/04/2014 21:51

thank you :)

I know a lot of people who have said number 2 just slipped out in comparison Grin

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Stars66 · 24/04/2014 13:06

Nickel - "slipped out"!??!?! Hummm yes I hope that happens too!!!Smile

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nickelbabe · 25/04/2014 17:33

you don't sound convinced Grin

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Stars66 · 25/04/2014 17:52

I've heard stories where no 2 and 3 have popped out with a sneeze before getting to the hospital, but after going through labour, I just can't believe it!!
Btw - I told oh that I don't want an Xmas baby as a good reason to hold off for a little while, but after he asked me how long pregnancy was (???!) he said well if we start now, it'll be a jan baby. My argument was lostShock

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nickelbabe · 25/04/2014 22:41

I was due an advent baby but she was 16 days late. born 12th december in the end. really good so farxas we don't have to buy her presents !

I'm getting worried today as I feel ab
bit sick and.bloated...

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Stars66 · 26/04/2014 10:10

Worried or happy?!Shock

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nickelbabe · 26/04/2014 20:37

not sure! Grin

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Stars66 · 26/04/2014 21:26

Well I hope it's the answer that you want!!!Wink

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nickelbabe · 26/04/2014 21:35

yes. I'm

nickelbabe · 26/04/2014 21:36

I'm sure it will be.
it's the overthinking that's the problem here.

whatever happens will be the right answer.

violetlights · 26/04/2014 21:42

I'm pregnant with my second, and my first is 18 months. I am finding him really hard work at the moment, especially as he usually get up at 5am (after falling alseep at 8pm). Buuuuuut...I knew I wanted another one, so thought why wait? In for a penny in for a pound... Confused Tbh though, I don't know if I'm 'ready' but I wasn't really with the first one either!! Just trusting to fate it'll all be alright by the time they're 20 Good luck whatever you decide. :)

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