Too hasty?

[Whatamuddleduck]

Hi guys
Can I have your opinions please? I have been wanting ttc for a couple of years now, DP wasn't keen so I have waited. A couple of months ago we agreed I would get my coil out. I thought we were going for this month (very excited )but then he asked me to wait 6 months. I was disappointed but agreed. Now because I was upset he says fine do it. But I know DP well, he will hold that decision over me for the rest of my life, but equally the man is never ready to do anything, we would literally live in a hedge if we waited for him to be ready to make a decision. His reasoning was that a spring baby would be good, I have attempted to explain that unless you are real lucky you can't pick the month, anyways I suspect that's just an excuse. If I knew it would be yes in a few months I would be ok with that but I'm not sure he will ever say yes definitely.
Do I go for it, or wait?
Im early 30's so could really do with getting on with ttc but I can't just decide to do this can I? Or shall I just go for it, he can always avoid dtd . guess it doesn't help that my sister is expecting her forth!

I would say go for it.
Especially if you do want more than 1. As you then have to wait maybe 2 years between.
We started tying at 29. Had our first at 32 (icsi) and are now trying for second (icsi) at 34.
Womens fertility declines after 35.
If say you did have a problem you need to try for 2-3 years before ivf on nhs (if they dont know whats wrong)

On the other hand i really wanted a baby born sept -nov as thry are the oldest in year and that is a huge advantage. But as this icsi has failed that wont be happening.
Im sure it would be fine but i wouldnt advise waiting to anyone especially over 30, as you just dont know until you start

Go for it. We discussed ttc when i was in early 30's. Decided to buy house first. Did that 4 yrs ago. Then planned wedding. Decided while wedding planning to stop having the contraceptive jab.

Last jab sept 2012.
1st period june 2013.

Currently just started cycle 12 of ttc. I'll be 37 this year.....

Notalotta have you had investigations?

Not yet. I had an initial blood test when af hadn't turned up after 5 months. It was 'normal' whatever that means.

I spent two weeks recently trying, and failing, to get past the bastard receptionist at the Drs.

Do you mean they wont let you see dr? Or have more tests?
Certainly worth getting tests done to check ovulation, thyroid. And a sperm analysis.

does he want a child?

We have to phone at 8.30am for an appointment that day. I work full time 20 miles away and am at work by then. There is a mythical time in the afternoon where they release the first three appointments for the next day but i am yet to be 'lucky' enough to get one.

Its pretty impossible to get an appointment with my own GP at a time that i can go. Its crap.

That sounds awful.
I never worry about seeing my own gp.
In fact 8-9yrs with practice i have never seen them. I just figure they all have my notes. Also as it is a woman i think she works part time.
Good side is if i dont like them i hope i dont see them again

Thanks all. That is my worry really, that if we have trouble ttc time would not be on our side.
Good news this weekend, DP says yes and I got a very stern lecture about not drinking coffee if pg. his version of expressing actual interest, god for forbid that he do anything as soppy as saying he would like a child, although he did offer up a potential name.
Nottalotta, I'm wishing you a bfp in the very near future. Change gp! I joined one last week, had phone consultation same day and they have twice weekly clinics for all ttc/pg things. If there is an alternative gp you can get to do take a look, no one should put up with reception dragons!

Thanks what. I really should changed as i moved many years ago but have always left my address as my parents! Because my own GP is great. Some of the others not so great. Which is why i want to see him in particular. Going to look into the two practices i could register with.