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Am I mad? or have other's TTC done the same?

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Babymad4num3 · 19/08/2006 17:34

I just wondered if while TTC if anyone has brought things for the DB before even pg?
I have brought everything, a mountain of girls and boys clothes as well as two prams and whole nursery set up and loads and loads of other stuff, all I have to get is toiletries, bottles and a cot, that's it!
Am I mad? or have other's TTC done the same?

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compo · 19/08/2006 17:35

Had you given everything away then after your first 2 children?

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Babymad4num3 · 19/08/2006 17:39

Not really! the reason for two pram/pushchair's is i've kept old one but also brought a new one still kept most of the baby boy clothes but thats it everything else i've brought over the last 18mths!

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MrsMcJnr · 21/08/2006 12:03

I bought a set of gorgeous teddy bears last year on the basis that I had so many pregnant friends that I would most certainly use them as gifts but each time a baby is born, I can't bear to part with them so I guess I am keeping them for my own baby.

Also, when I day dream, my first born is always a girl. I really don't mind and would be delighted with either. I am one of 3 girls and my sister has 2 little boys so I'd be happy either way but it is odd that it is always a girl in my thoughts!

wannaBe1974 · 21/08/2006 12:30

sorry but this sounds a bit obsessive to me. I can see the logic to buying something with someone else's baby in mind and then feeling unable to part with it, and thus keeping it for your own baby, but buying a load of clothes, and worse still a pram, for a baby that as yet hasn't even been conceived is worrying imo. You really should take a step back and think about what it is you are doing. You have all these things but no baby as yet - how will all this make you feel if you are unable to have another baby? Sorry to be blunt but nothing in life is definite, and if for any reason you were unable to conceive again you would be left with all the things you had bought for a baby that never happened.

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Babymad4num3 · 21/08/2006 13:04

Thanks for pointing that out I cant help it buying thing for me is an act of staying pos!
And my Dh is worse than me there's another pram he likes and want to buy it I keep saying wait till we are pg first!
I think it comes from having very very little money with our first two children and unable to buy all the nice things we wanted (or some would of been nice )!
With my first DS (only 17-18yrs old) I had to have hand out's and pass me down's and second DS was a shock and wasn't planed at all, as well as some money troubles to, not to mention having to move house when DS was only a week old, and the expense of all that, times were hard!
I think this time it's was just forward planning gone abit mad but we are enjoying it too, and like I said before, it's a form of staying pos for us.
Please please don't judge me!
I have carmmed things down in the last 2-3 months, and I'm trying to concentrating on TTC a lot more now (With MN-ers help which very grateful for), so more before then after you might say!
Yes we have gone mad thanks for the confirmed part!!
We are not even going there with the "I cant have children full stop", and if it's god's will that I cant have anymore children, then there's always EBAY!
(soz if any spelling are not right cant spell )

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wannaBe1974 · 21/08/2006 13:43

no-one is judging you, I simply said that I think it is somewhat obsessive which I do. But if it's what keeps you positive then you shouldn't need to feel you have to justify yourself to anyone.

As someone who has been ttc now for nearly 17 months, and who has just found out that my dh has a low sperm count and therefore it is unlikely we will be able to have any more children, and having seen numerous posts on here from people who have been through hell and back to try and have a baby, people like Coggy who tried for 5 years before she got her bfp, only to have her dreams shattered when her ds was stillborn, I personally think we should never take anything in life for granted. Yes we plan for the future, but imo it is important to never assume that things will happen the way we planned, because more often than not this is not how things turn out.

If buying baby things is what keeps you positive then it is no-one's business but yours. Personally I like to think of the glass being half-full as opposed to half-empty. I cherrish the things I do have, rather than wishing too hard for the things I don't/can't have.

feedmenow · 21/08/2006 16:33

Hi Babymad! Just wondering if your comment about ebay meant that you'll try and sell all the stuff you've bought, or if you're hoping someone might be selling a DS or DD.....!

DogMum · 21/08/2006 17:36

Wannabe1974, DP and I ttc for 2.5 years. Then he gave up caffeine (complicated but unrelated reasons) and half a year later BFP! So don't lose hope completely. Actually, I'd also lost hope, which may also have helped. Good luck anyway.

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Babymad4num3 · 21/08/2006 17:45

Only the baby stuff, I wouldn't buy a baby NO! I will just go down the Adoptions rute if cant have any more children .

Talking about Ebay and babies there was some selling her first born's name, on ebay, if you won the auction you got to say what the baby's name would be!

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feedmenow · 21/08/2006 19:36

Sounds like a right cop out, not having to make a decision AND cashing in at the same time! The poor child could end up being called something utterley ridiculous! I wonder if the winning bid would be legally binding?!?!

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Babymad4num3 · 22/08/2006 00:27

All i know is the SUN newspaper found out and put it their paper, and if a heard right Ebay put an end to the auction!
Not just that but you can also buy fertility spell's "yes FERTILITY spell" world gone mad. There's a whole page of them on Ebay, some sellers have even got feed back, people saying, "I got pg because of the spell", ya right!!

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feedmenow · 22/08/2006 14:33

I'll take it with a pinch of salt if it came out of The Sun! Although I certainly wouldn't put it past a lot of people.....
I moght try and ebay the rights to my DS first day at school and see if I get anywhere

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