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All aboard the love bus! Get your ticket for a February BFP!!

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KittyVonCatsington · 18/02/2014 22:53

We're are getting dangerously close to 1000 posts on the other bus so thought I would start another one. Will update stats in another post. Fingers Crossed for lots more BFPs Grin

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missmrsmummy · 20/02/2014 20:29

Zermatt 10-14 day luteal phase is considered ok Smile

kitty I'm hanging on to see how you get on! Fx you get that bfp - you so deserve it!

Sorry to AFs. I'm feeling very sorry for myself today. I am sick of people telling me not to 'try' - how do you not 'try'?! Impossible!

LittleMissSunshine33 · 20/02/2014 20:33

Missmrs I am the same people say "it always happens when you stop trying!" Wel look at the January bus there seemed to be loads and all those were trying! Wink

MrsExtraOrdinary · 20/02/2014 21:15

I've got a theory about the January bus! It just so happens that Christmas and new year involved a few bank hols, time off work and merriment. For some, a time worry is less and focus on having a good time. Also I expect let's Face it far more sex!!! Grin

I know after 18 mts ttc last time after mc a Christmas snowed in with lots of sex solved it! Plus I had given up ttc and got heavily involved in my own business on the run up to Christmas, thinking dh and I were never going to have our own baby together. But fortunately we did. For me this baby would be icing on the cake but I do accept I was very lucky last time and really struggled with a stressful pg, traumatic birth and huge surgery subsequently. I'm probably off my rocker even considering it actually but thought we'd give it a whirl for our ds to have a little friend now I'm well (ish) again.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for everyone. But don't underestimate how much stress can be detrimental. We all have good months and bad months where coping with it is easier on the road of ttc.

missmrsmummy · 20/02/2014 21:28

Do you think anyone who says they're 'not trying' is actually not trying? What do they even mean? Just having sex carelessly? I can't imagine not being obsessed one you've decided to go for it?!? How do you do that???

missmrsmummy · 20/02/2014 21:34

Although Mrs I can see how you were distracted so I need a distraction! Hmm, can I start my own business?

MrsExtraOrdinary · 20/02/2014 21:44

I think that was just it! I got bored of waiting for a baby that wasn't going to appear! So I threw myself into a life that didn't involve a baby. Didn't mean I wasn't trying, just filled life to the brim with everything else so it wasn't the only thing I was worrying about. I really did think my body had completely failed me and I was pretty inconsolable. I had children with my xh far too easily, but I watched them walk away every other wkd and the sadness was overwhelming that dh and I would never share a child together. But once I had come to terms with the fact it was might never happen it became more bearable for me. Smile

Knottyknitter · 20/02/2014 23:03

One more day to go, and started off feeling pretty nonplussed. No PMT ymptoms, but no possible preg symptoms either, although felt a bit ... Strange. Was crossing fingers, but something felt too familiar.

Yes, well.

Now have decided snuffles, irritating but pointless cough and raging fever. I suspect AF will follow, I never notice her sneak up when I feel peaky.

missmrsmummy · 20/02/2014 23:32

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LittleMissSunshine33 · 21/02/2014 07:11

Must be hard being off missmrs as I'm sure it's become your focus how long are you off for?
I do see what you mean MrsEx I don't feel stressed by it I am of the mind what will be will be but then I'm still fairly early in my journey I don't know if I'd still be saying that in another few months time Blush

Treaclepie19 · 21/02/2014 07:13

missmrs dont let other people put you off. There is always a reason people will give. For me its "you're too young". I haven't told anyone we are tryong but they still decide to say it.

Do whats right for you and your family, not anyone else :)

MrsExtraOrdinary · 21/02/2014 07:48

Missmrs that must be extra hard having to meet up with babies! I think I'm feeling for you as I remember it being so all consuming before for me. I worked from home so I had too much time on my own and think I was sending myself slowly around the twist. Please don't think Im being callous, I know stress isn't a thing you can always switch off. I'm very capable of being a complete stress head riddled with anxiety. But when I get bogged down in whatever it is I find it helpful to change the routine of the day, break the cycle of how I think. That probably doesn't make any sense but perhaps if you've got some more time off and your feeling up to it, change the patterns of being at home. Sometimes it's all too easy to over think. None of us ever know how long this ride will be.

EnglishGirlAbroad · 21/02/2014 07:54

I know how hard it is MissMrs when you're off and your whole focus is on a baby. I'm living in a different country with no friends and only a part time job. I have far too much time on my hands. I think the reality is that there's very little we can do beside DTD, our bodies have to do the rest.
I'm healthy, I eat well, I exercise so in theory it should happen soon enough.

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KittyVonCatsington · 21/02/2014 08:13

Well today is AF due day-no sign...yet. I am just too scared to POAS though. Not sure if I can face another BFN. Think I might buy a FRER today and test tomorrow if AF stays away. I only have ClearBlues at home and worried they might not be sensitive enough. It would be easier if it wasn't Half Term. Help me take my mind off it today ladies!!!

Speaking of others' babies, went to babysit my SiLs two boys-one 2 yr old and one about 6 months, last night. They are just gorgeous! Managed to get my baby nephew back to sleep as well so felt pleased I wasn't totally useless with little ones (it has been a while since I have looked after my sister's two and techniques are easy to forget). Instead of feeling jealous though, which I was worried I might, I just couldn't get over how cute they were and kept thinking "I want one!". Might be because they are my family though. Not sure how I would feel if my best friend announced she was pregnant...it's am up and down time TTC isn't it?!

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CagedMango · 21/02/2014 08:19

Morning! Well I got another bfn on an ic this morning so that puts me in limbo. Might use my frer tomorrow but will be really upset if it is negative and I've been saving it for when I get a positive on an ic. This is the first month when I've actually felt I might be and I'll be so sad if I'm not. And I've only got 5 ic left! Ho hum. Nothing on the opk either.

treacle how are you getting on? I've got my fingers crossed for you.

missmrs have you tired yoga for stress? I don't want to try to teach you how to suck eggs but it really helps me and has got me through some really stressful times (and helps me cope with my stress in general). It's important to get the breathing right and there are loads of free classes online. I find this helps too-I've described you all as my self help group to DH Smile

Treaclepie19 · 21/02/2014 08:40

Thanks mango
Still nothing, bfn. Really hoping my period isnt just going to skip a month... Not that it ever has before.

Having more symptoms but probably all in my head.

Knottyknitter · 21/02/2014 08:57

Bfn here too, but no AF. At least I can pick up some decent cold caps when I head out later. Will bite the bullet and get ov tests for March, too. Do I need the monitor or not? What sort are you all using?

Owlie84 · 21/02/2014 09:01

BFN here too! Bah :(

Sorry everyone else with a BFN, it's so upsetting!

CagedMango · 21/02/2014 09:07

It looks like I've got good company being in limbo then treacle and knotty.

I use the Internet cheapie opk. It's just a strip that you dip. I think I got 50 of them for about £7 or £8 (eBay). They have lasted about 4 cycles (and I gave a load to a friend) and I've got enough for at least one more cycle. I think they are a great investment and I'm a fan of preseed too.

CagedMango · 21/02/2014 09:09

Oh no owlie. How many dpo are you?

CursiveLetters · 21/02/2014 09:10

I too am in late period but BFN limbo! Not feeling discouraged yet tho as I still don't feel AF coming on. Will just keep testing each morning. (Does first morning wee really make a diff??)

MrsExtraOrdinary · 21/02/2014 09:13

I'm in limbo too! Although not unusual for me to have a late one every now and then. 3 days late today. I'm not doing any more tests until next week as im sure af is on the way! I think she's scared to come out at half term knowing even a 5 minute sit down this week is impossible! ShockClever really! Grin

Hazelbrowneyes · 21/02/2014 09:13

Hi all, sorry for the BFNs. Let's hope they turn into BFPs soon!

Quick (probably stupid) question - I'm in the 2ww. I have a cold and sore throat...can I take anything like lemsip or beechams?

katecupoftea · 21/02/2014 09:19

Poas for the first time this morning. Bfn obvs (February bus trend). I shouldn't be surprised as I tested early, have no symptoms and think I missed ov but still couldn't help feeling really disappointed...

barmybunting · 21/02/2014 09:26

Oh goodness ladies, I am not quite sure how to type this without laughing! It's my birthday today, I woke up feeling a bit Sad as I was sure I would be pregnant by now when I came off the pill shortly after my birthday last year. But anyway, I'm lucky to have my parents visiting today and DH is home for my birthday for the first time in 5 years as he has been deployed for the last 4 years over Valentine's day and my birthdays. DH had told me to make sure I was free on a specific weekend in a few weeks time, so I was hopeful he might be planning some time together as we've been struggling to spend decent time together with work recently. Well, I opened on present from him this morning, and we are not doing something nice together that weekend, he has booked me on a course to learn about car maintainance for my birthday!! I hate cars! Grin He said I had always said I needed to learn more as I've had some interesting car problems when he's been deployed. Those problems have been my car engine going on fire and flames coming out of the bonnet as I drove on a motorway at midnight, 400miles from home, and a car accident in which someone drove into my car sideways at 40mph in a 30zone, and hit me so hard my car I was pushed across the other side of the road onto the pavement. No amount of car maintainance would have avoided those situations!! I can only laugh really, DH is normally brilliant with presents and he was so pleased with this idea Smile . If you see a mad woman on a car maintainance course in a few weeks, muttering and wearing a birthday badge, it'll be me!

DH then told me the roof was leaking from the loft, could I phone a plumber? So I am waiting for the plumber now and he's gone to work. What a start to the day!

On another side, I'm still getting flashing smileys on the clearblue opks on cd24 today, getting fed up of waiting! Does anyone not get a peak on these, only highs for a few days then back to lows?

Treaclepie19 · 21/02/2014 09:34

Haha aww barmy, bless him!

Sorry for all those joining me in limbo...
I just feel like sitting and crying. No sign of af and an endless amount of BFN's.