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BFP - surprised and terrified!!

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Orlea · 28/01/2014 15:41

So being a bit oblivious, I was 8 days overdue for AF when I realised (last week) and didn't manage to pick up a test til 10 days overdue. I got a very faint line, wasn't sure if it was really there or imagination, so I left it a few days and then tested again this morning... it's definitely positive this time!! I told DH and he is pretty damn happy, but also slightly Shock while I am mostly terrified! I came off the pill in Oct and we only started offically ttc in late Dec, and we assumed it would take a while, if not ages... No particular reason, just trying to be realistic, as most of our friends have spent at least a few months ttc and I just assumed that would be us too... I was geared up for a few months of trying at least! Obviously I am pleased as well, and I don't want to offend or upset anyone who is ttc, but I am just really shocked about how quickly it happened. Has anyone else been in the same boat? How did you feel?

So now, instead of stressing and worrying about getting pregnant (which was what I was trying to be prepared for), I am now stressing and worrying about being pregnant already (which I was expecting to have a few more months get my head around), what might go wrong, what don't I know about (everything!!), what I should and shouldn't do... I've already done a load of calculations for dates and think I'm probably due late September/early October, but I couldn't get a doctor's appointment til next Monday! That's another week! I've been googling a lot which isn't always a great idea so any steers towards more reliable info would be great... what should I be doing/not doing/reading/thinking at this point??

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Newmom2b · 28/01/2014 17:38

Congrats! Don't worry, what you're feeling is perfectly normal! Happened to me too, spent ages waiting for dh to be ready to TTC and when he was, after me telling him how long it could take we fell pregnant in the first month and then were so shocked and panicked! Currently sat with my ds watching gruffalo, he's 2 now! If there's one thing I learnt its don't Google? Enjoy your pregnany x

gwenabee85 · 28/01/2014 19:51

Congratulations! Off to waterstones for some books :D

babytinks89 · 28/01/2014 19:59

congratulations Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin Grin
well I was kind of in a similar boat.. I only missed my pill accidently last august... 7 weeks later I had no idea I went back on my pill but I was pregnant! happened so quick for us!
although we werent even trying so was a shock to the system.. but sadly for no reason I lost the baby at 10 weeks scan showed no heart beat! was heartbroken! we had just adjusted to it all!
so me and dh been trying ever since Smile no joy yet!! but hoping for a big fat positive mid feb!

you must be so excited! I am so jealous haha!

so whe do you expect you fell pregnant? calculate from the first day of your last period youl be able to calculate how far on you are.. any symptoms yet?

Tranquilitybaby · 29/01/2014 00:11

Aww congratulations! Let it slowly sink in and soon you'll be grinning from ear to ear. ??

weebairn · 29/01/2014 07:05

Congratulations!

Yes, I am feeling similarly dazed - persuaded my boyfriend to let me take my coil out in December as it would probably take "ages" to conceive - it took 4 or 5 months the first time. I was pregnant 3 weeks later… :D

Once it's sunk in I'm sure you'll be thrilled! I am alternating between cloud nine and panic!

weebairn · 29/01/2014 07:14

Oh and don't panic about making appointments, finding everything out, etc. Pregnancy takes AGES.

weebairn · 29/01/2014 07:15

All you really need to do at this stage is take folic acid and avoid alcohol. The rest is detail.

Latium123 · 29/01/2014 07:56

I am in exactly the same boat. I could have written your post. We were terrified it would take months if not years and second cycle and boom…up the duff! I know exactly what you are saying about transferring the worry about not being able to conceive onto worry about the pregnancy. I am doing the exact same thing. I am a few weeks further on than you though and what I can say is you will get used to it and when the full on nausea and tiredness hits it will feel more real and weirdly reassuring. Re the doctor, I would;t worry about that, they won;t do anything other than ask you to make a midwife appointment when you are about 8-10 weeks. I have my midwife today, argh!!! Best of luck to you and please try not to worry (advice I also need to take myself!!) x

Orlea · 30/01/2014 11:28

Thanks for all the congrats Smile And congrats to all the ladies in similar boats! babythinks, so sorry, fingers crossed for your Feb BFP.

I'm now trying to get my head around things by talking about all the baby stuff (names, prams, schools... I know, I know!!) but DH (understandly) won't until I've at least seen the doc. What works best for me is to think about and plan things way in advance, that way when they happen (often quicker than expected as time is flying past now I'm past 30 Sad) I'm not shocked/panicked... this obviously didn't work this time!!

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