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Dh has had his results

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wannaBe1974 · 31/07/2006 18:25

dh has had his sperm test results, basically they confirmed what we were afraid of, count is very low, only 20% of what it should be. GP didn't really offer any advice, said to keep alcohol to minimum (dh hardly drinks anyway) not smoke (dh doesn't) wear loose clothing etc. And that was it. said to go back for a repeat test in three months just to be sure.

so that's it I guess. At least we have a reason now why I've not been able to, and I'd imagine am unlikely to ever conceive again. I guess these things happen for a reason. At least I have an answer now, so can hopefully try to put it behind me and move on.

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Beccy1974 · 31/07/2006 18:29

wannaBe

20% is 20% better than nothing hey

and there must be other ways to raise it.. diet, and things??? did they mention anything like that?

tell your DH that he only knows as he's been tested. He's among millions of guys who get told this and millions more who have no idea.

I know it's easy for me to say but I'd get right onto finding alternative remedies & stuff above & beyond anything gp may have mentioned. remember gp - jack of all trades.. they prob no less than a lot of people on here about pregnancy etc (i know this as i've recently told a few facts to a gp. ie he asked what does ewcm stand for )

I hope I'm conveying positivity and on your side vibes rather than souding like a patronising arse

SlightlyFamiliarPeachyClair · 31/07/2006 18:33

If putting this behind you is wghat you want, good for you and I wish you luck. However if not, then see it as an essential building blovck in the puzzle. A nutritionist is a good idea (DH lived on brazil nuts before ds1 as we were told the family history of low sperm counts), and have you been reffered on to see a specialist?

trace2 · 31/07/2006 18:46

wannbe just been asking about you, please dont give you want so much! and tell dh there are ways of building it up to (hugs) you can e-mail me if you want, [email protected]

bobblehead · 31/07/2006 18:58

So sorry Wannabe but at least this way you know what is wrong.
I think zinc and selinium are meant to help with sperm, but I'm sure there's other things out there as this must be a common problem.
Whatever path you choose to follow I wish you lots of luck and I hope your dh is ok (I know men have a thing about their sperm.)

DollyP · 31/07/2006 20:02

So sorry wannabe.

Agree with post about diet if you decide to carry on. Sending you hugs. X

coggy · 31/07/2006 20:07

wannaBe - sorry it wasn't the answer you both wanted.

My DH's sperm was going in cirles and not very good. I gave him multivits and zinc and the next test he did was 100% better.

Don't give up if you're not ready to.
X

weewilliewinkie · 01/08/2006 08:12

just wanted to say zinc zinc zinc! Get him eating lots of foods rich in it - it def helps. Selenium is good for both of you to take. Try eating sunflower seeds and strawberries, these will help.

Remind your dh he is NOT alone in this, as Becky1974 said.

good luck xx

longwaytogo · 01/08/2006 09:08

wannabe1974 just to give you some hope dh had a test and there was only 1 alive sperm we had two more children soon after that - remember it only takes one so there is still hope [hugs]

biglips · 01/08/2006 09:09

fingers cross for you xx

coggy · 01/08/2006 10:19

Wow - longwaytogo - that's really cool to know.

SittingBull · 01/08/2006 10:38

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wannaBe1974 · 01/08/2006 10:39

thanks all for responses. Not really sure where we're going to go from here. Dh says he will do whatever it takes but I think he really doesn't want to talk about it/admit that there is a problem. I can understand that, after all men feel like they're not a man if they can't produce a child don't they. But it took me all night to get dh to tell me what gp had said. Apparently he said that dh isn't infertile but has "limited fertility". He said that in gp's unscientific opinion, the way to get best results is to only have sex once a month, on the day of ovulation, because the first ejaculation after a period of abstanance contains the most sperm.

Dh has apologised for not being able to give me a baby, and he's also said that I need to figure out what I'm going to do with my life now that we're not going to have any more. So tbh I think he's just resigned to it now, I wonder if trying to do anything about it just emphasises the fact that he's got a problem and that's why he's being quite non-commital about it all.

I keep turning over in my head the fact that there won't be any more, I had my life planned out, I wanted two children, now that I've only got the one and he'll be starting school in a year I guess I need to start thinking about where to go from here, whether to get a job etc.

I know that one shouldn't lose hope but I do also think that it's best to be realistic, and that now we've been told there are fertility problems, it's best to accept we can't have another baby, then if we do it'll be a nice surprise.

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MrsBadcrumble · 01/08/2006 10:40

I go on an ivf website sometimes and I've heard of wondrous results from a particular regime, is it Zita West, or Wellman, or something? There's the Foresight programme too. Sorry I can't be more specific (my dh is firing blanks after chemotherapy so not much point putting him on the vits...) but if you google, I'm sure there's loads out there.

Natty1806 · 01/08/2006 11:21

I know it must be very hard for you at the moment. I think in a way it is easier for the women to have the problem because we are the ones that need children not just want them and therefore we are willing to do what ever it takes.

Give hubby time and if he wants another one i am sure he will be willing to see a specialist and see where you go from there.

Like others have said though there is still a chance.

Best of luck to you hun. x

shhhh · 01/08/2006 11:38

feel so sorry for you. Can you go privatly to get further tests and advice..?

It took dh & I 4 years to finally get dd...It was taking us around 6-9 months to get pregnant and the 1st 2 occasions I mc. We were all set to go private for tests to us both when we found we were expecting dd. TBH I would hang on in there as like others have said 20% is better than 0% imo.

BTW I'm pregnant again and we only did it once unprotected. How does that work after 6-9 motnhs each time before..??!

Don't give up hope, think positive and go for it if thats what you both want to do. Be as supportive to your dh as much as possible as he needs it right now. Good luck xx

trace2 · 01/08/2006 12:01

wannbe you can ask to see some one dont let them tell you no, phone up if you have too, and as i said if you want to e-mail me you can any time

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