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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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should I be TTC?

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Newmom2b · 24/01/2014 07:04

I'm bm at a wedding in mexico in August... What would you do?
Have kind of waited to start TTC for the past couple of months because of the wedding but we can't wait any longer! If we were lucky enough to get bfp straight away (which I know is probably unlikely) I will be due in Oct.
Thanks for reading...

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hopefulgum · 24/01/2014 07:12

Go for it. It may take a lot longer than you expect. And if you do fall pregnant straight away, you can still be a bridesmaid with a bump.
Good luck!

ZingSweetApple · 24/01/2014 07:22

how old are you?

I've been to Mexico, the climate is brutal,loads of people get the shits,; plus you have to check with GP nearer the time if you are fit to travel if you will be 32 weeks or over at time of flying either directions.

I wouldn't try now.
I have 6 kids, pg #7 and I know the debilitating medical conditions that can occur in 3 trimester, such as PSD.
and with #3 I was sick daily from 6.5 months onwards (as nausea and sickness returned!) - honestly it was horrible. I was sick everyday.

So obviously your decision, but I would just enjoy my time there,have a great time and start while there!

cookielove · 24/01/2014 08:17

I am a bridesmaid in June in California, we ttc so i wouldn't be pregnant out there but have a young baby instead, had a mmc in sept.

Fast forward three months we had an ooops moment and now i am 5 weeks pregnant i will be 5 ish months pregnant at the wedding if it all goes to plan this time!

My point is, you have to do what's right for you and not plan your life around other people's

ZingSweetApple · 24/01/2014 08:28

cookie

I think there's a massive difference between 5 months (congrats! ) and 7 months pg.
people -rarely- go into labour even at 30 weeks.

And it's a 10+ hour flight to Cancun.i flew to Hungary when 33 weeks pg with DS1 (2 weddings in two weekends then back to UK) and it was not fun.
but I'm Hungarian, so I knew I'd be ok if anything happened.

Anyway, I'm just being cautious, probably because I have been there.

(sorry if it sounds know-it-all )

LIG1979 · 24/01/2014 09:03

I found a 3 hour flight tough at 27 weeks although I found I was at my best during the 3rd trimester. Everyone finds pregnancy different and you don't know how you will be till you are.

However, if you delay ttc for this wedding, there may be something else by then to delay again. As someone who took 11 months to get pg and stay pg with dd, I would crack on with it as you don't know how long it will take and if it does take longer than expected you will be glad you started earlier.

cookielove · 24/01/2014 10:05

Ahhh thanks zing yy totally agree about the difference that months can make in pregnancy and flying!

Let's hope the op doesn't get pregnant straight away :) making her flight a bit easier!

ZingSweetApple · 24/01/2014 10:13

on the side it's so bloody cold here I'd love to be in Mexico right now..

we went for our honeymoon and had and absolutely brilliant time!
[wishIwasthere]

naty1 · 24/01/2014 11:49

I would say start trying. Also consider your age ? Could take longer over 35. (From someone having done icsi)
I think 3 months is average.
If you are ready for the child put yourself first I'm sure your friend will understand.
My sister had bleeding at beginning of pregnancy so didn't want to fly then. So you never know.

Armadale · 24/01/2014 11:53

How old are you?

SlimJiminy · 24/01/2014 12:45

There are very few things I'd postpone ttc for. Health reasons = yes. Being a bridesmaid = no. Crack on with your own plans for your own life and fit everything else in around it. Having a baby is too important to work around other people's plans imo... regardless of your age. You could be 23 and have fertility problems - no-one knows until they try.

naty1 · 24/01/2014 12:50

I Agee any age could have problems but 23 -lot more time to get fixed before declining success.
A 3 year wait for investigating and getting treatment is not great. If you are already say 32 you would be straight into lower success from 35.
I saw a post for a menopausal 30 year old so you do really never know.. :(

seasavage · 24/01/2014 13:00

I told my BM's 'under no circumstances put your life on hold for a day in my life'. If trying now is right for you then do it. You might feel not travelling might not be for you if you are into later pregnancy. You can bow out gracefully. Just keep abreast of any financial commitment points (out of nicety in reality I'd have done cartwheels if my ttc bm had backed out at any point due to bump). You're friends or family. The addition of another person to that dynamic can't really hurt?

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals · 24/01/2014 13:03

I'd wait until the wedding is over so I could enjoy the cocktail list but that's just me. I think I would probably limit any major travel to under 30 weeks pregnant, 25 ideally.

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Newmom2b · 24/01/2014 14:50

Thanks for all your comments, I'm 31 and this would be dc2, I was fine in last trimester with dc1 however that's not to say it would be the same with dc2, so I hadn't thought of that. Dc1 is 2 so don't want there to be a huge gap in age so don't want to leave TTC till after the wedding but might just see what happens and let nature take its course. Like some of you said, it may take a while... I like to be organised and know what's happening but I guess you can't do that when TTC as its not so easy to plan things! X

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ZingSweetApple · 24/01/2014 20:57

If you do go for it please, for the sake of peace of mind try to time it that you are no more than 6 months pg when flying back.
it will make your life easier as you don't need GP's permission to fly under 32 weeks.

trust me, it's very stressful to have bought your ticket and then you are told your travel might be refused for medical reasons!

also you might want to let the bride know that it's a possibility you might need an a style of dress that is adjustable or can be altered easily.

good luck, whatever you decide and have a great time in Mexico!

Tranquilitybaby · 25/01/2014 00:45

I'd wait, it'll be 30c plus out there, you need vaccinations before you go (hepatitis and typhoid are highly recommended now) and you could be very pregnant.

Much as I love Mexico, we stayed at a 5 star resort last August yet most of us at tummy troubles at some point out there.

ZingSweetApple · 25/01/2014 20:11

tranquility

I'm ashamed to say I completely forgot about vaccinations, which is an excellent point!

naty1 · 25/01/2014 20:16

Can you do them early?

ZingSweetApple · 25/01/2014 20:59

I think there's a time limit on them, vaccinations generally must be done less then 3 months before travel, so depending on when in August is the wedding I'd get them done early June, to allow for the entire time spent there being covered.
then OP could start TTC early Sept (as soon as 3 months are up).

And as long as they are effective one is advised to avoid getting pg - so an early vaccination would not help.

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