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Baby no.4 WHEN????

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Lems · 30/07/2006 10:20

We have 3 fantastic DS (nearly 5, nearly 2 & 5 mths). DP & I know we want another child but when?? Our eldest DS is in full time school & DS2 nxt sept pre-school. We have a fantastic family routine all boys are good sleepers in own beds from 8pm, eat well, play well etc. DP & I are very secure & been together for 10yrs so having another now would'nt be a problem, BUT are we being fair to our 3 boys, they get 1:1 time and family time and are treated equally. Anyone else in same position?

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Lems · 30/07/2006 10:24

Oh & please no comments like 'are you trying for a girl?' We're really not bothered and we get enough of that from MIL!!

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mrsnoah · 30/07/2006 10:46

wait if i were you. your littlest is very little and still needs you a lot.
We want a fourth too and my ds is 5 months... lets do it together in a bit !!!

mrsnoah · 30/07/2006 10:46

i dont mean do IT together !!! omg sorry

shhhh · 30/07/2006 11:09

Now thats an offer you can't refuse lems..LOL..!!

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Lems · 30/07/2006 11:36

Oh you make me chuckle. Yes you see we carn't make the decission not to open the draw but if it were a happen accident we would be chuffed as was late last month! but not pg obvoiusley!

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Sallie · 31/07/2006 13:43

I would also love a fourth - mine are 3 and 11 months, 2 and a half and 10 months and yearn for no 4 yet there are financial considerations as well as the worry about the three we already have being sold short if we were to have another baby. My dh isn't as keen and our relationship isn't as secure as yours sounds so maybe I am just talking myself out of it. Would soooo love him to turn around and say, 'lets have another baby'!!

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Lems · 31/07/2006 14:06

I'm sorry to here about your relationship Sallie x

financially we are ok would be better off if did'nt waste so much (£260 for climbing frame for 2nd birthday and still having presents) but do manage and all 3 have new. My DP just says it's up to you your the 1 at home all day with them. And I'm only 27 and i know there is time but i would like to re-train and get back to working when our 'last' is in full time school.

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tiredmumov3 · 21/09/2006 17:32

hi im in your boat ds 5 dd 2 ds 9 months secure marriage both want another we are 29 own home and we both have good jobs ( im part time term time only youth worker) hubbys full time computer office geek. so we could do it but somethings holding me back all three i have were planned and we had 2 miscarriages in between pregnancys perhaps im scared of losin another i dunno!

tiredmumov3 · 21/09/2006 17:33

hi im in your boat ds 5 dd 2 ds 9 months secure marriage both want another we are 29 own home and we both have good jobs ( im part time term time only youth worker) hubbys full time computer office geek. so we could do it but somethings holding me back all three i have were planned and we had 2 miscarriages in between pregnancys perhaps im scared of losin another i dunno!

MrsApronstrings · 21/09/2006 18:31

we have four last one something of a surprise
mu gaps are 2, 4, and 3 years - in that order. No4 was due on no1's 9th birthday. The only thing I would say - and I am in no way being discouraging is that I have found it all round harder that I imagined. When I had No3 - although something of a chliche it really barely made much difference. No4 has been much harder although hshe is a very easy baby.
This may in fact be an argument for having a smaller gap! My older ones aren't old enough to be left, but have very diffent social needs fromthe younger two. wrote this an hour ago, then went out with out posting - hope it is still relevant

MrsApronstrings · 21/09/2006 18:33

tired mummy after my first 1, then2 and especially after my third I really wondrered if I was pushing my luck...I think it is quite a common felling

NotAnOtter · 21/09/2006 18:35

personally i would say dont rush in to it. Mine are 14,12,10,3.5 and 6 months and i have loved every minute of last two.
first three much harder...if you are young enough!

Sallie · 21/09/2006 23:11

I just can't bear to get rid of anything at the moment - maternity clothes or baby clothes etc just in case dh turns round to me and says he wants a fourth. DD2 is just one and I was already pg again on ds and dd1's first birthdays!!! Then again, as I said, still not sure about dh's fidelity so maybe not a good idea. When will I ever stop feeling broody? I guess part of it is that I had wonderful pregnancies and births with all three, and they got better. DD2's birth was serene and just wonderful and she has been a little treasure since.
I think four is great as you have a real gang then!

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