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Upset at TTC taking so much time

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Bobo13 · 14/01/2014 16:22

Hi,
My DH and I have been TTC since just before our wedding in May last year - I figured I wouldn't show in 5/6 weeks.
I'm from a big family so rather foolishly thought we'd be able to get pg very quickly. Now, this long in, I'm really feeling quite down but trying to be positive for DH....he's a real worrier! AF is due this weekend. Feeling pretty nauseous just now, boobs are a little tender and I'm pretty tired, however I also get these kind of symptoms when AF is due.
Anyone else TTC for this length of time? Am trying not to tell friends and family as I don't want the added pressure of them asking. Getting very sick of people asking if we're TTC.

Could do with a little moral support if any of you lovely ladies can offer it!

x

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smorgasborgen · 14/01/2014 18:17

hello, yep I've also been trying since may. got prego in Oct but lost it seven weeks later. got my period today with lots of spotting for four days on run up t it so was v confused as period was early.
I think this is the first month where it has really upset me t b honest. it gets t you the whole expectation and then upset. x

PoppadomPreach · 14/01/2014 18:24

Just so you don't lose hope, both times I was pregnant, I was absolutely convinced my period was about to arrive as I had back ache and sore boobs. The only thing that I retrospectively realised was different was my legs were a bit wobbly (but that was just me - not a typical reaction!)

I totally understand the stress with not conceiving each month. After we had tried for around 12 months (I was impatient and had disposable income) we went for IVF and had DC1. I then got pregnant first month of trying second time - very unexpected, but obviously very welcome.

I guess what I'm saying is don't get despondent - period-like symptoms are not necessarily bad news. And just because it doesn't happen straight away (like it seems to be case for every single female you are surrounded by) does mean it is never going to happen.

But I feel your pain. Though it all happened several years ago, I do clearly remember that sinking feeling each month. Really, really good luck.

barkingtreefrog · 14/01/2014 23:39

TTC over two years now. Everyone takes a different amount of time. It actually gets a little easier.

lil1ady · 14/01/2014 23:47

I know exactly how you feel. I am also from a big family (1of5 kids myself) and naïvely expected to get pg quickly. Been trying since NIV 13 and I just feel like its never going to happen. I hate the not knowing and not being able to do anything. I've been lucky that my Dr has let me get 21day bloods done and sa for dh this month but if all normal we have to wait until the 2 year mark for any referral. Don't they realise I want a baby now! Infertility has been my biggest fear since I was a teenager!

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Bobo13 · 15/01/2014 10:15

Sorry to here of your loss smorgasborgen.

It really is so stressful. If only people told you this before hand! Have you guys been making any changes to try to improve chances of fertility? Now we're into the new year I'm trying to change my fitness levels and trying to eat as healthy as possible. Hoping that clean living will bring the baby we're so hoping for.
Thanks for your good luck wishes PoppadomPreach :-)
Hopefully this will be our year smorgasborgen, barkingtreefrog and lil1ady!! xx

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Bobo13 · 15/01/2014 16:27

Think January isn't my month. Just been to the toilet and my discharge was looking a bit pink - sorry if TMI! Guessing period will start tonight or tomorrow. Sad
Off to buy OPK's and vitamins tonight. Hopefully that'll help!! x

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CosyTeaBags · 15/01/2014 16:50

I've been trying since around May '13 as well, and no hint of a BFP

It is frustrating, but when I looked back over my cycles and worked out exactly how many of those months did I time DTD correctly, there were a few months where it couldn't have happened anyway.

So that made me feel better. Doesn't stop me from wondering what went wrong on all the months when I did time it correctly, but these things take time as everyone keeps telling us.

Keen your chin up

Shoegal30 · 15/01/2014 18:24

Yes I feel your sentiment - have been trying since Oct 12 and no joy.

Me and DH have been tested and all clear and I even forked out for a private HCG test which also came back clear. I have also had some pink discharge today which means this is another month I haven't got my BFP.

Poppadom I am thinking of going private to get things moving now as am so fed up and my hospital won't take any action until it's been 2 years. I'm not sure what the next step should be - IUI or IVF?

Sorry for hijacking the post OP.

smorgasborgen · 15/01/2014 18:49

hi bobo, trying t eat meals with more iron in them as I'm a vegetarian and just trying not t b too stressed generally!
it must b in my mind though because problems at work seem so much worse since trying t conceive. its like half the month I think.., well.. I may have something great t think about next week n then when in get pregnant I think oh my god BIM not pregnant and I can't move jobs due t mat leave etc! do u find that?? xConfused

Theo2005 · 15/01/2014 18:57

I know it's really hard but try to distract yourself. I know from experience that it is easier said than done.

Ginger is very good for preparing the uterus for conception. I drank lemon and ginger tea (cut down on drinking caffeine) and when ovulating placed warm ginger on inside of my heel. The month I made these changes was when I conceived?

Good luck your get there.

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Bobo13 · 15/01/2014 19:57

Thanks Theo, will try the Ginger.
Really know what you mean smorgasborgen. Work seems to be a real burden at the moment. I find during the 2ww that I'm much more interested in looking at prams I want to buy rather than dealing with office politics. Like you say you think of mat leave and convince yourself to stay. Although my companys mat leave is RUBBISH!
Maybe we should be taking up yoga to de stress! X

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smorgasborgen · 16/01/2014 12:10

we just get statutory mat pay but I wouldn't want t start somewhere and get pregnant! in reality I quite like my job, its just we're so short staffed that makes it stressful. Wine Wine

fhdl34 · 16/01/2014 12:21

Took us 4 years to conceive dd and we did it naturally after being told it wouldn't happen. Ds was conceived 4 months after periods came back. Track your cycle, get to know the signals your body is going to ovulate, basically get to know your cervical mucus, that was the biggest sign for us as to when to DTD.

Feelingfatty · 16/01/2014 13:37

Hi I feel your pain! With dd it took us 2 months, then we tried for dc2 for 13 months before finally falling pregnant in December. Looking back over cycles the month we did get our bfp we Dtd every day over fertile window rather than every other like we have on other months...not sure if that's just coincidence but hey anything is worth a shot Smile good luck Thanks

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