TTC - impatient and surprised!

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I'm relatively new to ttc, has only been a few months since I came off the pill, but after months of debating start dates with DH and being scared about the whole thing, I'm now impatient about getting pregnant, which is a surprise in itself, but I'm also surprised that I'm not already pregnant. That sounds quite stupid of me but after years of being ohsocareful to not get pregnant, I think I thought it would just happen immediately despite all the anecdotal evidence to the contrary!

Anyone else in same boat? Esp re surprise element? Think it's just the years of having 'take precautions' drummed into me that makes me so surprised that removing said precautions doesn't instantly equal knocked up...

Yes! Completely. I know it's irrational.

Actually I am a mix of being certain it will never happen AND also astonished that it hasn't happened at once. I think I may just be an idiot.

Lol, I cou'd have wirtten that myself!
During my first 2ww last week I had a sudden 'OMG what am I doing' moment, but then when AF arrived I was devastated. Also surprised, and pleased, how disappointed dp was.
So yeah, guess it's normal as well as crazy!

Yup me too. We debated on and off for over a year (!!!!!) about when to stop contraception. In the end i stopped sept 2012. Well, that was my last depo jab which would last 12 weeks. It took until June 2013 before i got a period. So i wasn't expecting to get preggars until i had had a period. But once i HAD had one, i expected it to just happen. I came on here and was told that statistically, i would likely be preggars by Xmas 2013. Well i'm not.

WHY NOT???

Aagh. I try to stay away from here as it feeds my obsession.

Me too! Keep saying all through 2ww oh I'm not ready (1st cycle) and having sleepless nights worrying I might be pregnant. Then today, day of AF due worrying that it might come and trying to symptom spot for preg. Honestly

I'm totally in the same boat. Am 32, been married for 5 years (we've been together for twelve). Last year spent the the whole year talking myself round in circles - do I want kids at all? next year? Maybe I should look for a new job? Do we want to do a big overseas trip?

We finished a major renovation on our house in December and then it was like a switch flipped ... I'm not clucky exactly, but cracking on with grim determintion with the next "project" ( - poor child!) Got my IUD out 23 December, AF arrived 29th, have been a total sex pest to DH for the last 3 weeks and now psychotically symptom spotting.

I hate to think what I'll be like if it takes more than a few cycles ...

I too find it wierd how much I am thinking about this! 2nd cycle but freaking out that I haven't yet had a positive OPK result and it's CD21! All this time all of us have been doing everything we can not to get pregnant, huh?! Never occurred to me that actually I might not ovulate (although had AF last month)

Glad we all feel the same

Ah I'm glad it's not just me! I wondered if I should have put this in AIBU...

I'm currently awaiting AF in the next few days... bah. So I'm now impatient for that to come and go so I can get on with next month...