Anyone else struggling to conceive after miscarriag?

[Luckystar1]

Hello all.

I had a mmc at 10 weeks at the beginning of Sept. We've been trying desperately since then. While I appreciate it's not a hugely long time, every passing month brings overwhelming sadness and fear.

Since my mc, my post ovulation (or at least when I think I've ovulated) symptoms have gone from having none (pre mc) to sore boobs and mood swings.

I'm asking for a private gyno referral as I can't mentally deal with the constant fear that 'something' is not right.

Just wondered if anyone else is in a similar boat, or has been and has any positive stories to share.

hi lucky didnt wanna read and run, I like you had a mc in august and after my periods changed dramaticlly I was going from my usual 28day cycle to a 44 day cycle, no longer had painful boobs before my period either, Im not sure why so i cant help much but if it makes you feel any better im now 5weeks pregnant :) sending lots of luck your way!

Thank you. Wishing you a very, very happy and healthy 9 months!

Hi lucky,

Think I am in a similar boat to yourself, mmc mid sept. Have had three cycles since 35,34 and 30 was 28 before that.

Am still struggling and the mood swings since have been truly awful, although having said that they seem to have ceased this past few weeks. I think it has taken this time for my body to get back to normal. Have your cycles lengthened?

I am using opks again this month as last month (first time i had used them) they gave me a peak and exactly 14 days later AF came! Also, this month I am dtd for a 28 day cycle and if no + opk will continue for the 30 day cycle.

I know what you mean about the private referral, I am tempted too but I have decided i only will if I have another MC.

I am still sad over the MC, I don't think that will ever change but am trying to plod on, what day are you currently in your cycle?

X

Well my cycle hadn't changed in length (31/32 days) and opks indicated a lh surge when anticipated, but the change in symptoms prompted me to think I was hormonally imbalanced (or changed at least...!). The last 2 months I'v. also had one (and a mean a solitary) spot of blood the day before af! Very weird!!

However, this month I took she oak (and Australian Bush essence) which seemed to bring ovulation forward!

I'm on cd22 I think and I think I o'd cd 17 (so 5 days earlier than usual). But not feeling it this month in terms if positivity!

It's crap isn't it? About 10 friends/colleagues have announced pregnancies since my mc, and I'm seriously struggling with jealousy and bitterness.

Was your mc your first preg? It was mine.

Ah right, do you think your extra symptoms are your body sorting itself out? I have had extra everything since MC..cm, af, spots, moods headaches the lot!

I am on CD 11 so we are going to try this week until + opk. We have missed ov in each of the three cycles since MC so I hope we can catch it this month. Do you think you missed ov or just generally hard to stay positive?

I am struggling with bitterness too, do you feel weirdly cheated but have no one/thing to blame :( my mmc was a shock and knocked me sideways...started bleeding three days before scheduled 12wk scan, was our first too.

Also, sick of news of other pg's, celebrities, friends, work mates...have probably isolated myself a little bit to be honest. Have tried to stay positive and go with the unlucky and it will happen thoughts but mood swings are harsh.

The she oak sounds good, did you think you had a short LP or just wanted to move cycles forward? Xx

Hi ladies.

I had a MMC in July and have only had what I would call 'normal' cycles the last two months. Before that my cycles had increased in length and I was getting several positive opks a month. I think my body was trying its best to ovulate but was struggling to do that. I was also having some mid cycle spotting.

However, I'm now back to a normal cycle length. It took us 9 months to get pregnant the first time and I was hoping it would be quicker this time but it doesn't seem to be happening. I think a MC can put your body under huge emotional and physical stress though so I am trying to keep positive.

It was my first pregnancy too so really hope we will all get lucky soon.

Can I join in? I had a MMC at 11+4 at the end of April

We have been trying since July, so December was our 6th failed month. I know I am ovulating as I have been tracking my temperature (ironically, my cycles are more regular now than they have been in ages).

DC1 took 1 cycle to conceive
DC2 took 4 cycles
MMC took one cycle

So I am also left with the vague feeling that 'something' just isn't right. Despite the fact that my cycles are regular, my temps indicate ovulation and my luteal phase is long enough.

I think I'll sit out another couple of cycles and then pay a visit to the GP as time is not on my side (rising-37). Although, I know that 6 months in the grand scheme of things is not long at all.

You are no it alone, lucky

Yes I think my body is trying to 'right' itself still. It's hard as a friend got pregnant the cycle after her mc, I thought it would be easy!!

I've massively isolated myself too. We have a lot if friends at the same 'life stage' as us, so it seems like constant 'good' news announcements. I just can't believe it happened to us tbh!!!

No reason for the she oak just desperation!!

Every month brings a new fertility aid obsession for me. I have opk, cbfm, temping, cm watching, supplements, you name it!!

I just hope I'm ok... Do you feel the same? I'd be happier if I knew that physically and physiologically I'm ok I'd feel better.

I'm disappointed by the immense lack of help, it's so common that no one cares. But psychologically it's horrific!

Bezza think you have got a good approach there, my body was very drained after and think it has taken three months to be anywhere similar to normal.

Champagne, I'm not sure if the easier to conceive after MC is actually true although you do hear good news stories. Tried to look up why it might be easier to get pg after MC and couldn't find anything? I have found it harder and the emotions don't help with a relaxed exciting environment to dtd!

I am going to go to the GP in april if no success, not sure what they will tell me but I think it's worth starting the tests etc.

Lucky, I think I'm ok but that is probably just cuz I have a positive bias which is why the mmc was a shock and so I may not be ok really. I didn't find the hospital very helpful after mc as it all seemed very routine and medical but was a devastation for me.

I really hope we all get positive news ASAP, I have a good feeling about 2014 :)

Thanks ladies, it's really nice to know that I'm not alone, sometimes it feels like I'm losing my mind!!

Hopefully this year will be our year, and hopefully that means ASAP!!!

Hi ladies, I felt quite relieved since reading this as I'm in the same boat. MMC in July at 12 wks. Have been trying since September and no luck.

I conceived very easily with my other children and I'm sending myself neurotic that something is wrong. I had an Erpc and my periods are lighter now, I'm convinced it's done some damage and that's why I'm not conceiving. It is on my mind constantly, I know I need to relax but don't know how. Feel very sad and confused especially as the due date was jan and I naively assumed I'd be pregnant by then.

It helps to know we're not alone, I just wish I had the answers.

chosen, I'm CD10 so the shagathon will commence soon. It is so bloody wearing though trying to be positive and sexy when you feel a constant anxiety re. TTC. I am a naturally positive person so I seem to swing constantly between it-will-happen-when-it-happens positivity and what-if-I-am-broken negativity (depending on what CD it is and what symptom I have or haven't spotted).

I do understand the added pressure of pregnant friends and family lucky. My DB/DSIL announced their pregnancy a couple of weeks after my MMC and are due their baby any day. And DH's DB/DSIL are due this Spring. There is no getting away from it, I'm afraid. I just slap on a happy face and grieve in private

chocolate, my due date was especially hard. I too, naively assumed I would be pregnant again by then (Nov). And now 6 cycles and no luck. I now have the anniversary of getting pregnant and the anniversary of the loss looming large on the horizon. It seems that there is always something to remind us.

Any way, that's enough of the maudlin talk from me. I have flaxseed oil for post-ovulation this month, so that is bound to make all the difference

Oh ladies I'm so sad for all of us! I was convinced that Jan would be my month for bfp, but not feeling do positive now!! I totally feel the dtd pain! I've had 4 uti in the last 3 months (another reason for wanting the gyno appt).

I'm so sorry all haven't been lucky yet. Every month is a month closer to our bfp (I say with feigned optimism!!)