Close age gaps - crazy to TTC when daughter is 6 months old?

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I had it in my head that my partner would want to wait a while before I even dared bring up having another baby, but after a long chat he pretty much wants to not try but not use any contraception either.

Would we be mad so soon? Any others out there considering similar?

Yes we are considering it ds is 4months atm - maybe we are both mad!

we got preg when ds1 was 6 months and I love the gap as they are so close together and I found if your dealing with a young toddler anyway the baby is the easy one ( apart from sleep deprivation ) as babys mostly sleep, only need milk and stay in the once place!

Now I have two toddlers its a different ball game but I personally prefer small gaps and if we have a 3rd I already feels its too big a gap with ds1 being 3 and ds2 about to turn 2 x

Maybe we are both mad purplemurple1

The small age gap seems nice but it might be my last too so Im not sure I can bare knowing il never be pregnant again! And although I don't care too much what people think, they'll obviously think the new baby was an accident and not planned.

My mum did that with me and my sisters, got pregnant at 6 months each time so the three of us were in consecutive school years. We are so close in age that now we are 'all growed up' we are going through everything at the same time.
My dsis is pg with her first, I am trying for my first and our eldest sister is getting seri

Oh posted by mistake....

Getting serious for the first time with a partner...it's a really good thing in my mind

Not at all we were ttc as soon as AF came back at 7m, would have been sooner if possible! Although saying that, DD has slept terribly at night since the month we conceived, so maybe things would be different if I hadn't got a BFP when i did

My sister and I are only 13m apart and it's been nice growing up. Defo not a bad thing

I have two dc 17 months apart they are very close which is lovely

However now I have had a third 4 years after the second I also love how I get proper baby time with her as the older two are so independent.

Ds was 3.5months old when I feel preg with Dd (they are just under 13 months apart)....took 18 months of full ttc (monitors, temping etc) to get ds and 1 rather drunken night to get dd

Love having them so close in age

Ds is 6ish months and we're ttc however due to our wedding in September we're having to put it on hold for a few months so I'm actually walking down the aisle and not waddling. Currently waiting for af to appear from last month though (my cycles have regulated again I'm fx for a very shy bfp) we're your on the antenatal threads for July?

Oh yes, do go for it! Have 17 mos between my eldest daughters, so dd1 was 8 months when we got pregnant. They are so close now, much more so than my friends with 2+yrs gap.

I was lucky in that eldest still napped during the day when dd2 was a baby, and the used to alternate naps so I had times with just one awake. Absolute bliss, I really look back on the time before one went to pre-school/school as the happiest time of my life!

My personal view was that anything over 18m would be OK - at 18m most of them can walk while holding a hand (so you don't have to carry 2 to the car), can hold a spoon (so can feed a baby while the toddler eats).

I have a 20m age gap and one big benefit is the toddler was still napping for quite a long while - so I could nap with him while I was pregnant, and when I had a newborn/small baby, I sometimes had time when they were both asleep. But 20m was harder than even 24m, as for example at soft play I couldn't sit and watch him, I had to rescue him from various spots while having a newborn in a sling. And the toddler was still regularly waking at night (mind you he still does now he is 4yo!).

Pros and cons for every age gap.

Actually big downside is that I never properly enjoyed DC1 being an older baby/young toddler. And I never got to enjoy it with DC2 either. I was quite jealous of my friends with just one 20mo when I had a new baby as life had suddenly got a lot easier for them.

I have an even smaller gap between my youngest two - it has lots of advantages.

How does your dd sleep at night? My main issue was coping with the double whammy of early pg exhaustion plus night feeds with a little baby. I coped by going to bed for a nap most afternoons.

The only other thing really is it was quite full on having two tantrum-prone toddlers - I found that hard. Having two babies wasn't too bad really.

Thanks everyone! My daughter sleeps 8pm - 8am without waking and has done since about 2 months old

I can't decide at all! I don't want to miss her baby stages.

I'd also like to add that I'll be going back to work full-time in March but this will always be the case whenever we chose to TTC.

My sister and I are 18 months apart and it's pretty nice, but we have done things like leaving home, going to uni, getting married, at very similar times which might have been a bit hard on our parents! But not something you can plan...

I always wanted my dc's to have a small age gap and love it, but the baby stage was over far too soon.

I weighed up my feelings about the first few months of my child's life against the benefits of the close age gap all through school and beyond - I think the benefits are huge when they are both at school.

We talked last night and decided to go for it, neither of us is getting younger after all. (me
Good luck

Ah yay good luck to you purplemurple1!

I've decided to see what has come of our "accidents" so far and go from there. I'll know for sure how I feel if and when I come on.