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A counterbablance to all those "I got pregnant one month after giving birth to IVF baby" stories

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Elwyn · 02/01/2014 14:42

We tried for a baby for 2.5 years, then went down IVF route and luckily it worked first go, we got our lovely DS who is now 17 months.

I am posting because when we were TTCing and when we were pregnant, we heard and read lots of stories about people trying ages to get pregnant and then getting pregnant super fast after their kid was born or after they had spent all their savings or they adopted, etc.

I do not mind these stories, they are quite entertaining, but it did irk me a little that the basic message behind them was that the reason I was not getting pregnant was somehow my fault; I was too stressed or anxious or something.

Anyway I just wanted to provide my story to counterbablance all the other stories. We have been effectively TTCing (no contraception) for nearly a year and no baby has appeared yet. I am totally relaxed about the whole thing (no symptom spotting, no date watching, no great disappointment when AF arrives like there was last time around). In fact, I am kind of a bit stricken by the idea of a second baby because I feel that I would find it hard to cope (DS is quite full-on!).

You hear those other stories because they make good, eye-catching stories and you do not hear about stories like mine (although there might be just as many similar cases, if not more) because they are a bit, well, boring. It is very easy to have your perception skewed and I am here to reduce the amount of perception-skewing!

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FizzyFeet · 02/01/2014 18:48

Hear, hear! A little perception adjustment is never a bad thing. I'm having IVF because two ectopics have left me without tubes - so all those stories about "I know a couple who got pregnant just before starting treatment" or "got pg naturally after IVF 'fixed' them" don't and never will apply to me. I know people say these things kindly and to give hope to others but sometimes it really makes me cross! Thanks for posting this! (and good luck ttc #2)

neunundneunzigluftballons · 02/01/2014 18:51

I have no experience but my friend recently had IVF for her second after not needing it for her first. Fertility is complicated no doubt.

Bootoyou2 · 02/01/2014 18:54

Indeed... Heard so many stories that was hoping it would happen to me ( with same trepidation as insomniac baby!) ... 23 months and counting and booking in for next IVF next year!

Good luck to you!

RandomMess · 02/01/2014 18:55

Friends of mine tried for 10 years for their first and actually feel pregnant whilst waiting to be matched to adopt a baby (they had previously had fertility treatment too), they then took 5 years to conceive their second. So yes a wonderful story that they did conceive despite unexplained infertility but certainly not quickly.

Fortunately for them they had started trying in their early twenties so time had been on their side!

SouthBySouthWest · 02/01/2014 19:12

Thank you for this!

We tried for 3 years for our first. No miracle second baby. In fact, all those miracle stories made me anxious about trying soon after our first. And gave me the feeling that it was probably our fault we had to use assisted conception in the first place.

We tried a good 18 months second time then went straight to IVF. Have a gorgeous 16 month old to show for it.

Thank god we didn't bank on a surprise second one Wink

threepiecesuite · 02/01/2014 19:18

Fell pg first month with dc1. Now in 19th month of trying for dc2. Many folk seem to be in same boat as me.

Hope it happens one day soon.

RosesOnTheWane · 03/01/2014 08:38

We ttc'd for 7 yrs for our first and had fertility treatment in the end (6 rounds).

Just found out that I am accidentally pregnant 2 months after having the implant out ( that my GP insisted on).

Life is like that sometimes.

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