Still breastfeeding- putting off TTC?

[Flidais]

I have a 19 month old Dd who still breastfeeds. She has a feed once or twice at night and several times during the day. She is a boobmonster, but we're ok with that and I'm in no hurry to get her to stop as it's a comfort thing for her too.
Dh and I would like to try for a DC2 next year, but we are both worried that should I lose my milk in the second trimester, this would be upsetting for her. I am also really enjoying her toddlerhood and worry about introducing another baby too soon. Ideally, we would wait until she's 3 to try, but I am a SAHM and every year we wait is an extra year out of paid work.
Sorry, I'm sure this is rambling, but it's actually become a huge dilemma in my mind. I think I'm just hoping to hear stories of how people coped with tandem nursing/ weaning and whether or not you'd choose a different age gap if you could.
2 nct friends with 19/20 month olds have already had a second child and keep posting on fb about what a big boy X is etc. My Dd is normal in her development and I still consider her very much an infant, but I don't want to leave it too long iyswim.
Age is not an issue as both Dh are the younger side of 30.
Thanks

I only fed dc1 for the first few weeks of being pg as i found it quite sore, but I know others who have been fine.

Have you read adventures in tandem nursing?

I think there is no 'right' or 'wrong' age gap and am sure you will adapt to whenever the next baby comes along. When is right for you is probably the best time. Just assumed you could continue BF through your pregnancy. I also had a boobmonster lol who BF for years. Sounds like you are a very thoughtful , caring mother : )

My mum bf all through her third pregnancy, didn't find out she was pregnant until 20wks because of it, have you had your periods back as you may find it longer and harder to get pregnant while you are bf, I'd presume you can feed through it and just go for it, itl still be 10 months minimum until the next one comes and a lot of people find children self ween about 2 and a half anyway, if you let it happen without trying or not stopping it may just fit in itself

Hi again, jingle- was it a big deal to your LO when you could no longer bf or were they unbothered. I have read Adventures in Tandem Nursing- really helpful, but the book does stipulate that you may not end up Tandem feeding because of changed in supply/taste/pain issues. So am really ambivalent about it all.
Thank you duvet. Never imagined nursing a toddler, but I am so glad we have just gone with it. It is the loveliest funniest thing
Kitty, I wasn't sure about most people's experiences of DC self-weaning, but had heard 2 1/2 upwards, so that is encouraging. Periods came back at a year and I chart, so definitely ovulating, just a bit of a short luteal phase, which might turn out to be a problem in itself, I don't know.

I was.still bf DC1 when I got pg with DC 2 (about 21mo). I was.committed to tandem feeding - I.did.read.the book - but it didn't really work for us. I experienced what the book refers to as 'maternal agitation' - I suddenly just couldn't bear it with DC1 poor chap. We limped on through the pg, though the last few months stopped altogether. We started again when baby arrived and.I still have residual agitation issues, so I do.discourage. He gets a bit at bedtime but I feel really uncomfortable with it, I just can't put my finger on what the problem is. It's a source f massive guilt for me, I feel really bad for him. I have no problem feeding the baby. I am in my late 30s and would have waited if time had been on our side, but that said, my career is well established enough to survive mat leaves.

Thank you for your honesty sparklyboots. I am sorry you had to go through that; it must be a horrible feeling to feel so torn between what your body is telling you vs. what your mind's telling you. I am leaning to the side of waiting a little, but I imagine there may be difficulties down that route (siblings perhaps not as close because age gap is bigger?)